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Hey. I have a previous thread called ‘My Step Brother Likes Me?’
I’ve been inactive for a while but this is an update. I’m posting twice because i just need someone to talk this over with.
Nothing changed. After telling my mother i realised she’s so in love with his dad that she took their side. I got called an attention seeker and a liar.
Things have gotten worse and he touches and grabs my thighs daily now. I don’t know what it is but i feel like i have to do everything he says, and i feel like i’m in a constant debt with him.
i’m not seeking help anymore i just want someone to talk to.
i’m sorry.
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(Original post by Anonymous)
Hey. I have a previous thread called ‘My Step Brother Likes Me?’
I’ve been inactive for a while but this is an update. I’m posting twice because i just need someone to talk this over with.
Nothing changed. After telling my mother i realised she’s so in love with his dad that she took their side. I got called an attention seeker and a liar.
Things have gotten worse and he touches and grabs my thighs daily now. I don’t know what it is but i feel like i have to do everything he says, and i feel like i’m in a constant debt with him.
i’m not seeking help anymore i just want someone to talk to.
i’m sorry.
Don't be sorry this isn't your fault.
I'm sorry to hear about this. I was thinking of a couple of things you could do:
Tell a teacher or another adult you trust about this if your mom doesn't believe u - because if your stepbrother is forcing u to do things it isn't right. and u cant try and solve this by yourself.
Might be risky but try and catch him in the act by hiding a camera and record a video of something that usually happens to u (e.g. like u said how he touches your thigh) and show an adult.

Just please don't go along with it just try to tell someone and get help because people can't just take advantage of u like this
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(Original post by Anonymous)
Don't be sorry this isn't your fault.
I'm sorry to hear about this. I was thinking of a couple of things you could do:
Tell a teacher or another adult you trust about this if your mom doesn't believe u - because if your stepbrother is forcing u to do things it isn't right. and u cant try and solve this by yourself.
Might be risky but try and catch him in the act by hiding a camera and record a video of something that usually happens to u (e.g. like u said how he touches your thigh) and show an adult.

Just please don't go along with it just try to tell someone and get help because people can't just take advantage of u like this
i considered trying to hide a camera but i’m terrified that he’s going to notice, i promised him I’d always be good and now I’m scared to do just about anything
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Hey. I have a previous thread called ‘My Step Brother Likes Me?’
I’ve been inactive for a while but this is an update. I’m posting twice because i just need someone to talk this over with.
Nothing changed. After telling my mother i realised she’s so in love with his dad that she took their side. I got called an attention seeker and a liar.
Things have gotten worse and he touches and grabs my thighs daily now. I don’t know what it is but i feel like i have to do everything he says, and i feel like i’m in a constant debt with him.
i’m not seeking help anymore i just want someone to talk to.
i’m sorry.
Jesus wtf this kid has been watching too much porn lol but yeah I would put a camera in ur room but obvs it will be hard to catch him on time. Try put it in a common place where he does it *wants to vomit in my own mouth* I mean ino u aren't blood related but its just wrong tbh
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Jesus wtf this kid has been watching too much porn lol but yeah I would put a camera in ur room but obvs it will be hard to catch him on time. Try put it in a common place where he does it *wants to vomit in my own mouth* I mean ino u aren't blood related but its just wrong tbh
I know it’s wrong. Please don’t think I am enjoying this in any way.
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Put the camera somewhere he would never look e.g. up a shelf and cover it with stuff (except the camera part)
Im sorry u have to let him do stuff again- horrible - but try this and if it doesnt work out please just tell someone about this
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Put the camera somewhere he would never look e.g. up a shelf and cover it with stuff (except the camera part)
Im sorry u have to let him do stuff again- horrible - but try this and if it doesnt work out please just tell someone about this
I will try this tomorrow evening. I’m sorry I just don’t know who to tell, I don’t wanna like, ruin my entire family
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I know it’s wrong. Please don’t think I am enjoying this in any way.
I hope also that your not enjoying it. All jokes aside I would really do something about it fast
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I will try this tomorrow evening. I’m sorry I just don’t know who to tell, I don’t wanna like, ruin my entire family
sometimes you have to. U can't not expose him just because you don't want to affect other people despite you being sexually harassed
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I know the pressure to not ruin your family dynamic is going to feel like it’s resting on your shoulders and your actions, but it isn’t. Your step brother is sexually harassing you and if he’s sexually touching you without consent, that is sexual assault.

Tell him that if he continues, you will tell the police. Go to the police with video footage if he tests you. Absolutely none of this is your fault and you are perfectly within your rights to set boundaries for your own body and report a crime when it happens to you.
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I will try this tomorrow evening. I’m sorry I just don’t know who to tell, I don’t wanna like, ruin my entire family
You are not the one ruining the family. Your stepbrother is.
what is happening to you is sexual assault and you need help to stop it. Please talk to a teacher you trust or another adult. I’m sorry your mum didn’t believe you. But another adult will. Do it tomorrow
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too much porn. porn makes you think banging a 90 year old man is fun!
record everything. take the risk
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sometimes you have to. U can't not expose him just because you don't want to affect other people despite you being sexually harassed
i don’t think it’s fair to call it sexual harassment that seems a little extreme ):
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I know the pressure to not ruin your family dynamic is going to feel like it’s resting on your shoulders and your actions, but it isn’t. Your step brother is sexually harassing you and if he’s sexually touching you without consent, that is sexual assault.

Tell him that if he continues, you will tell the police. Go to the police with video footage if he tests you. Absolutely none of this is your fault and you are perfectly within your rights to set boundaries for your own body and report a crime when it happens to you.
I feel extremely guilty to accuse him of sexual assault, i don’t want things to get blown out of proportion, that’s why i’m so conflicted as i love my family
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I feel extremely guilty to accuse him of sexual assault, i don’t want things to get blown out of proportion, that’s why i’m so conflicted as i love my family
I’m sorry. I can understand those feelings and have been there. It’s a very scary idea to accuse someone of assault and I don’t blame anybody for feeling that they simply can’t do it.

However, whether you call it assault or harassment or not, what he’s doing to you is extremely wrong. You’re not overreacting by being upset and you’re not blowing it out of proportion. His behaviour is not okay.

Have you considered applying for counselling? They can help you deal with the situation and can give you some viable options. In the mean time, continue to be strong about setting your boundaries and telling him to stop. Even explaining to him that what he’s doing is sexual harassment might be enough to scare him off.

A strategy that I have found effective is “if you don’t stop I will start screaming” and follow though on my promise in 3 seconds.

Make the whole experience as unpleasant as possible for him. He deserves to be reported to the police for touching you after you say no, but start by talking to a counsellor.
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I’m sorry. I can understand those feelings and have been there. It’s a very scary idea to accuse someone of assault and I don’t blame anybody for feeling that they simply can’t do it.

However, whether you call it assault or harassment or not, what he’s doing to you is extremely wrong. You’re not overreacting by being upset and you’re not blowing it out of proportion. His behaviour is not okay.

Have you considered applying for counselling? They can help you deal with the situation and can give you some viable options. In the mean time, continue to be strong about setting your boundaries and telling him to stop. Even explaining to him that what he’s doing is sexual harassment might be enough to scare him off.

A strategy that I have found effective is “if you don’t stop I will start screaming” and follow though on my promise in 3 seconds.

Make the whole experience as unpleasant as possible for him. He deserves to be reported to the police for touching you after you say no, but start by talking to a counsellor.
Thank you, for all of this. I don’t really know where to go for a counsellor, I don’t really have that much money to spare, I am a student so it’s kinda hard times. I feel like since it’s gotten worse and he realised everyone’s taken his side he’s more confident about it. I know it’s bad but in a sense I’ve given up trying to stop him because he just laughs at me and patronises me. I promise everything he asks me to because I don’t want to make him angry. I’m struggling to be strong enough not to do what he says - that i still have, I won’t let him entirely order me around. I just can’t accuse him of sexual assault, I can’t hurt him like that, and after all it is only my leg, it just feels like such an overreaction.
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I will try this tomorrow evening. I’m sorry I just don’t know who to tell, I don’t wanna like, ruin my entire family
You tried telling your family to solve it internally
but they didn’t believe you
so you have to tell someone. I know you think it’ll ruin your family but you gave them the chance to help you and they didn’t and you can’t keep getting sexually abused by your step brother and not tell anyone
a teacher or a guidance councillor or even telling your friends or their parents if you’re close with any of them
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Thank you, for all of this. I don’t really know where to go for a counsellor, I don’t really have that much money to spare, I am a student so it’s kinda hard times. I feel like since it’s gotten worse and he realised everyone’s taken his side he’s more confident about it. I know it’s bad but in a sense I’ve given up trying to stop him because he just laughs at me and patronises me. I promise everything he asks me to because I don’t want to make him angry. I’m struggling to be strong enough not to do what he says - that i still have, I won’t let him entirely order me around. I just can’t accuse him of sexual assault, I can’t hurt him like that, and after all it is only my leg, it just feels like such an overreaction.
Can you get to an organisation that helps with this kind of thing maybe? I know in my local area young minds does lots of work and councilling
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i don’t think it’s fair to call it sexual harassment that seems a little extreme ):
what is it then. Ino he is your step brother but I mean people get put in jail for that kinda ****, obviously it must be hard to admit it but you gotta be harsh sometimes and don't let others take advantage of u
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