Dating Someone Who Has Genital Herpes? Watch

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I have hung out with this guy a couple times now and i have been open to getting to know him. Last time we hung out, he told me he has genital herpes and that it is up to me if i still want to pursue something with him. He was very understanding with the fact that I need time to research and think about it. I could continue getting to know him, and the physical part of our relationship could be taken slow until I decide if I see him as someone I want to be in a long term relationship with. But I fear that will make me get too emotionally attached, and then I may realize I am not okay with risking getting genital herpes as well. Because if I do take the risk, and I end up with genital herpes but our relationship ends, I will then have to have that conversation with every single romantic interest. I can't decide if I'm being shallow for not taking the chance to at least get to know him more, or if it's okay for me to not be comfortable with taking the risk. I'm only 19 and I don't think its an appropriate age to make the decision on possibly contracting a disease that I'd have for my whole life, even if it is pretty harmless. I just want opinions on what everyone else would do, so i can make a well-thought out decision.
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No man is worth that and you have your whole life ahead of you. Ditch him before you get more emotionally involved with him
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(Original post by Oxford Mum)
No man is worth that and you have your whole life ahead of you. Ditch him before you get more emotionally involved with him
As someone with herpes, this is really horrible to read
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As someone with herpes, this is really horrible to read
Agreed. I can’t remember the exact percentages but the reason herpes is becoming more prevalent is because people who are SYMPTOMLESS spread it, usually unknowingly I’d of thought.

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No man is worth that and you have your whole life ahead of you. Ditch him before you get more emotionally involved with him
simple make people with symptomatic herpes feel like rubbish and cause the continued stigma around it.

as for the OP, get to know him; he’s been really open with you, doesn’t sound like he’d pressure you into a physical relationship.
then if you don’t want to **** him, don’t.
if you do, make sure it’s when he’s symptomless, and use a condom. Maybe he can take prophylactic antivirals too... Duno.
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(Original post by Anonymous)
I have hung out with this guy a couple times now and i have been open to getting to know him. Last time we hung out, he told me he has genital herpes and that it is up to me if i still want to pursue something with him. He was very understanding with the fact that I need time to research and think about it. I could continue getting to know him, and the physical part of our relationship could be taken slow until I decide if I see him as someone I want to be in a long term relationship with. But I fear that will make me get too emotionally attached, and then I may realize I am not okay with risking getting genital herpes as well. Because if I do take the risk, and I end up with genital herpes but our relationship ends, I will then have to have that conversation with every single romantic interest. I can't decide if I'm being shallow for not taking the chance to at least get to know him more, or if it's okay for me to not be comfortable with taking the risk. I'm only 19 and I don't think its an appropriate age to make the decision on possibly contracting a disease that I'd have for my whole life, even if it is pretty harmless. I just want opinions on what everyone else would do, so i can make a well-thought out decision.
You definitely would be well advised, in any event, to do some detailed research on genital herpes! And no, you dont want to be carrying herpes for life so this guy probably should stay in the friend zone unless you and he are prepared, after to getting to know each other , for taking the extensive precautions needed!
You are not being shallow-just wise!
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(Original post by mgi)
You definitely would be well advised, in any event, to do some detailed research on genital herpes! And no, you dont want to be carrying herpes for life so this guy probably should stay in the friend zone unless you and he are prepared, after to getting to know each other , for taking the extensive precautions needed!
You are not being shallow-just wise!
Funny how you were telling someone with herpes in another thread a while ago how it wasn't a big...
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Funny how you were telling someone with herpes in another thread a while ago how it wasn't a big...
Yes. And clearly you have failed to read either thread clearly and properly. Clearly,in my post, you didn't see the words such as " do some detailed research" " extensive precautions needed " Think before you moan!
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Yes. And clearly you have failed to read either thread clearly and properly. Clearly,in my post, you didn't see the words such as " do some detailed research" " extensive precautions needed " Think before you moan!
"And no, you dont want to be carrying herpes for life so this guy probably should stay in the friend zone"
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