I want to loose wieght but I love junk food too much help!!!!!

My relationship with food is a very unhealthy one. When I decided to take control of my life my mum signed me up for the gym and I went 5 times in a week, every week for about 2 weeks, whilst eating healthy, and I dropped from a 109.5kg to a 98.1kg. I was ecstatic when I found out, all my hard work was paying off. However, things changed when I started school again, I couldn't go to the gym as often and my unhealthy relationship with food began again, was secretly buying junk food, and not going to the gym. I weighed myself the other day and found out that I have put on 1.9kg, (currently I'm 100.1kg), I'm disappointed but not surprised. When I go to shops to buy things I actually need e.g stationary I end up impulsively buying food for immediate gratification. My weight loss has been going around in circles I lose weight then gain even more because I can't control my impulses. When I eat healthily, I feel as if it's almost forced, and most of the time I don't really enjoy the food. I there anything I can do to stop these impulses, and motivate my self to lose weight, I've been to the gym once this week and planning to go today on Sunday evening.

Where and how do you eat normally? Do you eat sit-down meals with your family, or do you all eat separately? How long have you had a weight problem for, and how long have you been trying to deal with it?

When I am extremely strict on myself and motivated I eat well and do not binge. I have breakfast by myself, lunch with friends at school and dinner with the family. I 've had this problem for 2 years now and I want to go to 2020 slimmer with healthy eating habits

It sounds a bit 'all or nothing' to me. You're either being super healthy or bingeing on a lot of junk food. Would it be fair to say there isn't much balance, where you're eating fairly healthily, but still having the odd thing you like here and there?

All or nothing thinking is a common problem, and is the thing which prevents successful long-term weight loss. It's got to be small, incremental changes which lead to not just weight loss, but maintenance of that loss.

I think you are 100% correct. Small changes that I have implemented is literally go to the gym 3 times a week, eating small healthy meals throughout the day, 8 bottles of water. I'm going to do a water fast a week (for religious reasons), I want to lose weight and also test my willpower. I feel like my biggest problem is my very poor motivation and will power.

It's great that you've made some positive first steps - and that you're integrating these changes into a permanent eating pattern. Keep trying to make small changes - maybe promise yourself next time you go into a shop for something, you won't buy any chocolate or anything.

As for the water fast, I'm not sure about the religious aspect of this, but you are aware that you can't just drink water for a week - you will need to eat something? Trying to just have water for a week is a sure-fire way to end up massively binging. Do you have a plan for healthy eating during this religious week?

My plan was in the morning (6:30 am), for breakfast I would have ginger tea. Then I would drink water til (11 am), break time I would have some grapes, then water again, til (1:10 pm) lunch I would have a pear. And then for dinner after I go to the gym, green salad with cucumber (8 ish). And then before I sleep 10:30 ish, ginger tea again.
How does that sound?

My relationship with food is a very unhealthy one. When I decided to take control of my life my mum signed me up for the gym and I went 5 times in a week, every week for about 2 weeks, whilst eating healthy, and I dropped from a 109.5kg to a 98.1kg. I was ecstatic when I found out, all my hard work was paying off. However, things changed when I started school again, I couldn't go to the gym as often and my unhealthy relationship with food began again, was secretly buying junk food, and not going to the gym. I weighed myself the other day and found out that I have put on 1.9kg, (currently I'm 100.1kg), I'm disappointed but not surprised. When I go to shops to buy things I actually need e.g stationary I end up impulsively buying food for immediate gratification. My weight loss has been going around in circles I lose weight then gain even more because I can't control my impulses. When I eat healthily, I feel as if it's almost forced, and most of the time I don't really enjoy the food. I there anything I can do to stop these impulses, and motivate my self to lose weight, I've been to the gym once this week and planning to go today on Sunday evening.

It sounds like a recipe for a massive binge come Wednesday evening...

You're suggesting for a whole week eating nothing but some grapes and pear for 14 hours. Having been to the gym beforehand. Even if you got that far, how likely do you think it would be that you could have a 'green salad with some cucumber' after your gym - given that you'll already be ravenously hungry and have no energy to do decent gym work anyway....?

It's really not sensible or practical, and is just going to perpetuate this starve-binge-starve cycle you're going through. It's a really common observation that those who are struggling with their weight and who are on a diet often try to delay eating as long as possible each day. This pattern of eating very rarely occurs in people of a normal weight. Delaying eating builds up a 'deficit' of hunger - it becomes like a wave of hunger that becomes more and more difficult to control. The inevitable outcome is that you end up at about 7pm not able to control the hunger any longer and bingeing as a result. This is followed by disgust and promises that you'll never do that again and you'll try harder tomorrow, etc etc.

Eating sensibly and regularly is the key to having a sustainable eating pattern which will allow you to get in control of your hunger and overeating.

Hang in there pal. I had the same problem. I would stress eat a lot especially when I'm studying. It's the only thing that kept me sane Then after exams I'd go on crazy diets.

Lately I've been trying intermittent fasting which has helped a little. I've been skipping breakfast which surprisingly suppresses my appetite for the rest of the day and make sure I don't eat anything after 8pm.
Good luck!

Fair enough, but for the first time I was able to follow this plan, and I lost 2kg!

Isn't that the point though? 'The first time you were able to'...! I thought you wanted a long-term, permanent solution to your weight problem, not a quick fix?