Sleeping with someones boyfriend... Am I in the wrong? Watch
I was very drunk and so was he. I was lonely, Im going through a lot at the moment and guess I wanted the comfort. Doesnt excuse it though, I know!
We did it in a hotel and she found out by reading his texts. I denied it, saying we met up but never slept together. Im not telling her who I am cause I live in a small city where everyone knows everyone.
He has denied ever even meeting me to her.
I feel really guilty, shes been nice to me with her messages, which makes me feel bad for lying to her but I dont know this girl at all and dont want to be the one to tell her.
I cant eat and feel sick with shame. After we slept together he got up and left straight away, leaving me in the hotel room on my own in the middle of the night.I think he felt bad for her.
How do I deal with this guilt? I feel like I've ruined her life if she finds out we had sex.
Whilst you haven't 'technically' done anything wrong (presuming you are single), You are in the wrong for lying to her when she asked you straight up, she's found evidence which means she'll always be suspicious and I personally would feel guilty watching her get treated badly by someone who clearly doesn't care about her... but hey that's just me.
*Lets hope you had safe sex too, if you didn't then you really need to tell his poor girlfriend as he's probably slept with multiple girls behind her back
For telling a lie, combining alcohol with sex then regretting it or for the fact that the guy with the gf is a deceitful player with little appetite for monogamous relationships.
You haven't ruined anyones life.
Nor committed a crime or broken up a marriage.
Don't torture yourself with constant shame and guilt.
Nothing you have done is illegal.
You can get get as drunk as you want, have sex with as many random guys as you want and choose to tell as many lies as you want.
Or you can demonstrate some self-restraint.
Your life, your future and your choice.