My boyfriend comes from a poor family

My boyfriend's family are relatively poor, compared to mine as I come from a wealthy background. My boyfriend has a good, stable job though and has always worked hard to get what he wants.

This disparity has never been an issue until recently. We are currently planning our marriage, and with me being the bride my family will cover the costs for most of the wedding functions. His family keep telling us to keep it simple, and they're not really used to attending functions as they have a small family and don't really mingle so much with others, so they don't get an awful lot of invites to things. For us it's the complete opposite as we always have extravagant functions in our family and I'm always used to attending lavish events.

Whenever I've shown him pictures from events he's always blown away by how fancy it all is. So my family would want that for me, and I do want it myself as my wedding day is important to me. However, my boyfriend has come from a very simple, laid back family and they don't believe much in celebrations, let alone having such grand celebrations. I have decided to scale back on a few things, but I'm just fed up of hearing him tell me how he doesn't want this and that because it's not important to him. It's kind of ruining the build up to it all.

I'm also worried that because they don't really go to parties they won't know how to cope with it all. His mum is already so nervous, and we're having to do all the planning, not her. I don't know if it sounds silly, but I just wish he came from a bit more money so he could understand what it's like to be able to afford these things and to just go for it. They are always having to count their pennies.

I feel like I'm torn between my own desires, those of my family, and then his. Does this sound silly, or am I right to feel this way?

Eww dump his poor ass you need to be dating rich guys so you live a healthy nice lifestyle when you're older.

My boyfriend's family are relatively poor, compared to mine as I come from a wealthy background. My boyfriend has a good, stable job though and has always worked hard to get what he wants.

This disparity has never been an issue until recently. We are currently planning our marriage, and with me being the bride my family will cover the costs for most of the wedding functions. His family keep telling us to keep it simple, and they're not really used to attending functions as they have a small family and don't really mingle so much with others, so they don't get an awful lot of invites to things. For us it's the complete opposite as we always have extravagant functions in our family and I'm always used to attending lavish events.

Whenever I've shown him pictures from events he's always blown away by how fancy it all is. So my family would want that for me, and I do want it myself as my wedding day is important to me. However, my boyfriend has come from a very simple, laid back family and they don't believe much in celebrations, let alone having such grand celebrations. I have decided to scale back on a few things, but I'm just fed up of hearing him tell me how he doesn't want this and that because it's not important to him. It's kind of ruining the build up to it all.

I'm also worried that because they don't really go to parties they won't know how to cope with it all. His mum is already so nervous, and we're having to do all the planning, not her. I don't know if it sounds silly, but I just wish he came from a bit more money so he could understand what it's like to be able to afford these things and to just go for it. They are always having to count their pennies.

I feel like I'm torn between my own desires, those of my family, and then his. Does this sound silly, or am I right to feel this way?

Why does it matter if he comes from a poor family, if he is the one for you then it shouldn't matter. If not do him a favour and finish it and find a wealthy man.

I love him and I'm not leaving him. The point is that he makes me feel bad for wanting nice things, things that I'm used to

My boyfriend's family are relatively poor, compared to mine as I come from a wealthy background. My boyfriend has a good, stable job though and has always worked hard to get what he wants.

This disparity has never been an issue until recently. We are currently planning our marriage, and with me being the bride my family will cover the costs for most of the wedding functions. His family keep telling us to keep it simple, and they're not really used to attending functions as they have a small family and don't really mingle so much with others, so they don't get an awful lot of invites to things. For us it's the complete opposite as we always have extravagant functions in our family and I'm always used to attending lavish events.

Whenever I've shown him pictures from events he's always blown away by how fancy it all is. So my family would want that for me, and I do want it myself as my wedding day is important to me. However, my boyfriend has come from a very simple, laid back family and they don't believe much in celebrations, let alone having such grand celebrations. I have decided to scale back on a few things, but I'm just fed up of hearing him tell me how he doesn't want this and that because it's not important to him. It's kind of ruining the build up to it all.

I'm also worried that because they don't really go to parties they won't know how to cope with it all. His mum is already so nervous, and we're having to do all the planning, not her. I don't know if it sounds silly, but I just wish he came from a bit more money so he could understand what it's like to be able to afford these things and to just go for it. They are always having to count their pennies.

I feel like I'm torn between my own desires, those of my family, and then his. Does this sound silly, or am I right to feel this way?

I love him and I'm not leaving him. The point is that he makes me feel bad for wanting nice things, things that I'm used to