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does anyone think its possible to stay good friends with someone you've been in a relationship with, after you split up? or is it pointless?
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if i ever split up with my bf i would definetly want to stay friends with him if it was possible. but i guess it is very hard sometimes and if it ended badly
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I m convinced that its perfectly possible to stay friends after a nice relationship.
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It usually doesn't work straight away, but give eachother time and space, and I reckon you can then be friends.
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Am sure its possible for some,

But for me, its never happened. We just tend to drift apart after the breakup regardless whoever was the one that suggested the breakup.
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Not a great idea in some respects, but if the attraction has truly died out and it wasn't a bitter end, then pourqoui pas?
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It usually doesn't work straight away, but give eachother time and space, and I reckon you can then be friends.
This.

Don't even try to remain friends immediately after the break up, or even in the next few weeks. You both need space to get over these sorts of things. I'm still friends with a couple of my ex's, so it's certainly possible. I must admit, the girl I'd been going out with for the longest period actually annoys me to crap sometimes, but I think that's just because our personalities don't (and never did) really match.
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Not a great idea in some respects, but if the attraction has truly died out and it wasn't a bitter end, then pourqoui pas?

what if there is still attraction...from both people =S
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(Original post by piglet29)
what if there is still attraction...from both people =S
You can become friends with benefits
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If u were good friends before, or had a good foundtion to ur relationship then it is completely possible. U've just got to give each other a lot of space. It will deffo be awkard in the beginning but time is a healer.
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I'm friends with all my ex's.
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(Original post by Mastermind`)
You can become friends with benefits
but then isnt that basically like going out with them again?
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(Original post by piglet29)
what if there is still attraction...from both people =S
Why did you and your partner break up in the first place if you're still attracted to each other? (assuming you're talking from experience)
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It's worked out for me. I think at first you just have to give one another a lot of space and at the start it can be hard and you have to be prepared to be hurt or feel awkward or jealous sometimes (mainly during the start of the friendship when your still not completely over it).

I've always been friends with my boyfriends before dating them so maybe that helps.
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If there is still an attraction i would say no. there is still gonna b a element of jealously. I suppose it boils down to how strong the attraction is
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Why did you and your partner break up in the first place if you're still attracted to each other? (assuming you're talking from experience)
because we live quite far apart and didnt get to see each other as often as we would like. i didnt want to end it but he did =(
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because we live quite far apart and didnt get to see each other as often as we would like. i didnt want to end it but he did =(
Oh dear, that doesn't sound too good
I think it's definitely possible to stay friends with exes, as long as they feel the same about it. It may be hard for you though, say if he gets with someone else and talks to you about it as a friend, or vice versa. If you really want to keep in touch then go for it
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he keeps sending me mixed signals which makes it difficult for me to move on =S one minute he says "i think we should move on, it will be better for us" and the next minute he says "i miss/love you so much". he even told me he wanted to spend the rest of his life with me the other day and that it could happen which i thought was a strange thing to say, when he decided that we should break up. i just feel so confused!
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I'm still friends with my ex bf. I still care about him, but as a friend.
We broke up because we had our differences (of course there was some anger and awkwardness at the begining), and I think we both thought (for the last month) that it's better to be just friends.
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(Original post by piglet29)
he keeps sending me mixed signals which makes it difficult for me to move on =S one minute he says "i think we should move on, it will be better for us" and the next minute he says "i miss/love you so much". he even told me he wanted to spend the rest of his life with me the other day and that it could happen which i thought was a strange thing to say, when he decided that we should break up. i just feel so confused!
Ohh that reminds me so much of my ex !! :rolleyes:
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