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My parents are very strict, religious christians. i have recently found out that i have sexual feelings for girls, but my parents want me to marry this guy who comes to our church, he is 20 years older than me and im not attracted to him at all. how do i come out the closet to my family? im afraid they will hate me/ disown me.
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If you're above 18 then tell them and if they have a problem then move out. If you're under 18 you shouldn't be marrying anyone.
Also last time I checked the whole Christianity bullcrap was love everyone and all that jazz so just call them out on not loving you if they have an issue.
Also last time I checked the whole Christianity bullcrap was love everyone and all that jazz so just call them out on not loving you if they have an issue.
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I'm not surprised you're not attracted to him. He's 20 years older!
Your parents will find out sooner or later.
As a pragmatic thing you may wish to delay telling them, till you've moved out from the family home.
Then just tell them you've got a girlfriend or are trying to get a girlfriend or that you've made love with women only and no men.
Your parents will find out sooner or later.
As a pragmatic thing you may wish to delay telling them, till you've moved out from the family home.
Then just tell them you've got a girlfriend or are trying to get a girlfriend or that you've made love with women only and no men.
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(Original post by YaliaV)
How old are you? Do you have any older siblings?
How old are you? Do you have any older siblings?
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(Original post by Glaz)
If you're above 18 then tell them and if they have a problem then move out. If you're under 18 you shouldn't be marrying anyone.
Also last time I checked the whole Christianity bullcrap was love everyone and all that jazz so just call them out on not loving you if they have an issue.
If you're above 18 then tell them and if they have a problem then move out. If you're under 18 you shouldn't be marrying anyone.
Also last time I checked the whole Christianity bullcrap was love everyone and all that jazz so just call them out on not loving you if they have an issue.
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(Original post by Dunnig Kruger)
I'm not surprised you're not attracted to him. He's 20 years older!
Your parents will find out sooner or later.
As a pragmatic thing you may wish to delay telling them, till you've moved out from the family home.
Then just tell them you've got a girlfriend or are trying to get a girlfriend or that you've made love with women only and no men.
I'm not surprised you're not attracted to him. He's 20 years older!
Your parents will find out sooner or later.
As a pragmatic thing you may wish to delay telling them, till you've moved out from the family home.
Then just tell them you've got a girlfriend or are trying to get a girlfriend or that you've made love with women only and no men.
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(Original post by Anonymous)
My parents are very strict, religious christians.
My parents are very strict, religious christians.
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(Original post by 1st superstar)
why i hate Religion (especially Christianity)... stop the brainwash!! (people don't need a God to know what's right and wrong and have good morals (e.g accepting LGBTQ+))... tbh i would just tell them i was lesbian (i am not) and i don't care what they do
why i hate Religion (especially Christianity)... stop the brainwash!! (people don't need a God to know what's right and wrong and have good morals (e.g accepting LGBTQ+))... tbh i would just tell them i was lesbian (i am not) and i don't care what they do
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(Original post by Anonymous)
i dont think i will be allowed to move out my home till marriage. and that marriage will be with the old a** man . i could runaway.. would you say thats a good idea?
i dont think i will be allowed to move out my home till marriage. and that marriage will be with the old a** man . i could runaway.. would you say thats a good idea?
Going to Uni is a great time to move away from home - never to go back (apart from holiday stays and week-end visits).
Just apply to uni's away from your home town.
Or get a job after A-levels and move out into rented housing till you can afford a deposit on a mortgage.
IE better to run away in a mature, convenient, organised manner.
Till then, you might have stall them on the marriage front. Which should be easy "I'm studying for A-levels this year, and I'm only 17, how about thinking about marriage next year."
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(Original post by Dunnig Kruger)
They can't stop you moving out when you are 18. Any attempt to stop you, beyond reasonably asking you not to, would be entirely illegal on their part.
Going to Uni is a great time to move away from home - never to go back (apart from holiday stays and week-end visits).
Just apply to uni's away from your home town.
Or get a job after A-levels and move out into rented housing till you can afford a deposit on a mortgage.
IE better to run away in a mature, convenient, organised manner.
Till then, you might have stall them on the marriage front. Which should be easy "I'm studying for A-levels this year, and I'm only 17, how about thinking about marriage next year."
They can't stop you moving out when you are 18. Any attempt to stop you, beyond reasonably asking you not to, would be entirely illegal on their part.
Going to Uni is a great time to move away from home - never to go back (apart from holiday stays and week-end visits).
Just apply to uni's away from your home town.
Or get a job after A-levels and move out into rented housing till you can afford a deposit on a mortgage.
IE better to run away in a mature, convenient, organised manner.
Till then, you might have stall them on the marriage front. Which should be easy "I'm studying for A-levels this year, and I'm only 17, how about thinking about marriage next year."
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(Original post by Dunnig Kruger)
They can't stop you moving out when you are 18. Any attempt to stop you, beyond reasonably asking you not to, would be entirely illegal on their part.
Going to Uni is a great time to move away from home - never to go back (apart from holiday stays and week-end visits).
Just apply to uni's away from your home town.
Or get a job after A-levels and move out into rented housing till you can afford a deposit on a mortgage.
IE better to run away in a mature, convenient, organised manner.
Till then, you might have stall them on the marriage front. Which should be easy "I'm studying for A-levels this year, and I'm only 17, how about thinking about marriage next year."
They can't stop you moving out when you are 18. Any attempt to stop you, beyond reasonably asking you not to, would be entirely illegal on their part.
Going to Uni is a great time to move away from home - never to go back (apart from holiday stays and week-end visits).
Just apply to uni's away from your home town.
Or get a job after A-levels and move out into rented housing till you can afford a deposit on a mortgage.
IE better to run away in a mature, convenient, organised manner.
Till then, you might have stall them on the marriage front. Which should be easy "I'm studying for A-levels this year, and I'm only 17, how about thinking about marriage next year."
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The personal statement is one of those things that I struggled to write well when I was 17, but could now write one for myself or someone I knew well without thinking about it.
I'd need to know you a lot better than I do now to give you more help with your personal statement than what you could get with a bit of Google homework.
My suggestion, do some Google homework. Dash off a personal statement as quickly as you can, writing as if you were speaking to someone in person. Then show it and discuss it with the relevant tutor at your school or college. A good college will be able to provide you with plenty of help with your Uni applications.
I'd need to know you a lot better than I do now to give you more help with your personal statement than what you could get with a bit of Google homework.
My suggestion, do some Google homework. Dash off a personal statement as quickly as you can, writing as if you were speaking to someone in person. Then show it and discuss it with the relevant tutor at your school or college. A good college will be able to provide you with plenty of help with your Uni applications.
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If you're 18 they cannot stop you from moving out so I'd just wait until then. Who knows, maybe they'd be okay with it, my mate's a Christian and she's okay with me.
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I thought you were american?!
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On a series note, I would not sugguest coming out if you aren't independent. Tell them you arent looking to marry anyone soon and come out to them after you have moved out. Hope this helps 
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(Original post by Dunnig Kruger)
They can't stop you moving out when you are 18. Any attempt to stop you, beyond reasonably asking you not to, would be entirely illegal on their part.
They can't stop you moving out when you are 18. Any attempt to stop you, beyond reasonably asking you not to, would be entirely illegal on their part.
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(Original post by 1st superstar)
what the term (name) for that?? (that parents can't force their 18 year old to live with them)... just wondering
what the term (name) for that?? (that parents can't force their 18 year old to live with them)... just wondering
In a very rare and extreme case it'd be unlawful imprisonment.
Or it could be specific acts to physically stop someone from leaving like assault.
https://www.jacksonlees.co.uk/broudi...l-imprisonment
https://www.womensaid.org.uk/informa...rcive-control/
https://www.bbc.co.uk/news/newsbeat-50673081
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(Original post by Dunnig Kruger)
It's most likely to be Coercive Control.
In a very rare and extreme case it'd be unlawful imprisonment.
Or it could be specific acts to physically stop someone from leaving like assault.
https://www.jacksonlees.co.uk/broudi...l-imprisonment
https://www.womensaid.org.uk/informa...rcive-control/
https://www.bbc.co.uk/news/newsbeat-50673081
It's most likely to be Coercive Control.
In a very rare and extreme case it'd be unlawful imprisonment.
Or it could be specific acts to physically stop someone from leaving like assault.
https://www.jacksonlees.co.uk/broudi...l-imprisonment
https://www.womensaid.org.uk/informa...rcive-control/
https://www.bbc.co.uk/news/newsbeat-50673081
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(Original post by Dunnig Kruger)
The personal statement is one of those things that I struggled to write well when I was 17, but could now write one for myself or someone I knew well without thinking about it.
I'd need to know you a lot better than I do now to give you more help with your personal statement than what you could get with a bit of Google homework.
My suggestion, do some Google homework. Dash off a personal statement as quickly as you can, writing as if you were speaking to someone in person. Then show it and discuss it with the relevant tutor at your school or college. A good college will be able to provide you with plenty of help with your Uni applications.
The personal statement is one of those things that I struggled to write well when I was 17, but could now write one for myself or someone I knew well without thinking about it.
I'd need to know you a lot better than I do now to give you more help with your personal statement than what you could get with a bit of Google homework.
My suggestion, do some Google homework. Dash off a personal statement as quickly as you can, writing as if you were speaking to someone in person. Then show it and discuss it with the relevant tutor at your school or college. A good college will be able to provide you with plenty of help with your Uni applications.
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(Original post by Glaz)
If you're 18 they cannot stop you from moving out so I'd just wait until then. Who knows, maybe they'd be okay with it, my mate's a Christian and she's okay with me.
If you're 18 they cannot stop you from moving out so I'd just wait until then. Who knows, maybe they'd be okay with it, my mate's a Christian and she's okay with me.
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