Hi guys, not looked at this thread before but wondered if you could give me some advice, and reassurance providing it's not leading to false hope.
At the beginning of October I started seeing someone in their third year, who will be graduating in June. He lives in Malaysia, which is quite literally the other side of the globe. So far I am dealing with the Christmas holiday fairly well even though communication is quite infrequent (he doesn't have access to the internet much as he travels). I am basically getting worried on a daily basis that he will break up with me when he graduates. He is moving to London, which isn't that far from our Uni (Cambridge), but at the same time it's not close either and still a big hassle.
When is the best time to ask him if he thinks there's a possibility of us carrying on as a LDR after he graduates? I know it's early days, but basically, I don't want to make a large emotional investment to only find I get dumped in June, or over the holidays shortly after. I was thinking maybe asking him in March just before the Easter holidays, just so I've got the holidays to help get over him if we do have to break up. I'm not trying to 'trap him' into going out with me, but I'm still craving some kind of indication as to whether he might be interested in carrying it on after June or not.
It's a bit of a worry, as his bases will be Malaysia and London (he's going to Uni in London), and mine will be South Wales and Cambridge
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Any advice on how to keep him? I send him a lot of facebook messages telling him I miss him, which he has said he likes, but I can't tell if I'm smoothering him and seeming clingy. (Thing is, I think I am. If I like someone, I want constant contact with them, even if they can't reply to me straight away).
Tips much appreciated. I would really like to make this work but can't force him.
Please quote me if you repond.