Me and my girl haven't really had any serious arguments yet.
My boyfriend and I have been together almost 4 years, and he's just decided that he's going to America for university, and I'm staying in England. I've always said that if he chooses to go, breaking up was the best option, although now it comes down to it I really don't want to split up when we both love each other. He says that he wants to try and keep it going as long as possible, but are we just being naive? I'm quite insecure generally, and i'm worried i'll turn jealous and bitter and staying together will be all the more painful in the end, or it will just end by cheating. He would be coming home after 5 months for about a month and a half after the first term, and again in the summer for 3 months.
Is this a bad idea? Is it best to move on and start afresh at uni?
Would be helpful to hear any advice from anyone who has experience from long distance relationships.
It's not a bad idea at all!
I think it's harder for people in long-distance relationships who are in that situation due to being split up (as opposed to someone like me who started it long-distance). From what I hear, quite a lot of relationships die out once they go to Uni, but it's the truly committed ones who stick it out. So, perhaps having good will-power and constant rememberance that it won't be like this forever is needed.
But you've been together for four years, I definitely wouldn't end it, give it a try - I know I don't know you, but you'll probably be fine. (Seeing each other for those periods of time is actually quite good, plus it's not as if you'll be completely cut off as the wonders of the Internet provide MSN, Skype, e-mail..).
Regarding thoughts that you might turn into the Girlfriend From Hell, if it's not really in your nature I really wouldn't worry about it. Just have faith in him, it may be hard at first but once you get used to the circumstances, it'll get easier. He won't stray if he's given no indication of being someone who would. And I pressume you wouldn't want to do that either. In any case, if things don't work out, at least you tried - and I think that's far better than not trying. =D
Oh man, and I thought my situation was bad, almost all of you have it way worse than me!
My boyfriend's moved back about 4 hours away from me after living somewhat near to each other, it's been about a week and I already get tearful over the littlest things!? I guess it's because almost all my relationships go through this, distance has been the number one relationship killer for me. I've had littleproblems before and I think this one might rip it apart. Why must it always go through this cycle?