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    • #257
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    My boyfriend and I have been dating for about 9 months now, and he's just started university in America while I'm still in my final year in high school (halfway across the world). Everything is going fine, it took a bit of adjusting, but it's great (as great as a LDR can be...). However, the problem is he's got to go to the army for two whole years starting next August. I feel a bit stuck. At the moment, I just don't know if I'm prepared to be a soldier's girlfriend for my first two years of university. What if it's not the same when he comes out of the army, then we would've wasted two more years of a long distance relationship. And when I start thinking like that, I can't help but feel guilty. I feel a bit selfish for not being 100% sure, because if we're going to break up before he goes to the army.. then why not just break up now? That way he'd get to enjoy university for a year before he went off and have the freedom to do as he pleases without the stress of a long distance girlfriend. But on the other hand, I'm really not ready for things to end. As sappy as it may sound I really do love the guy.
    Not quite sure what to do here!
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    Boyfriend moved away on friday.. We managed to make the most of the time that we had before he went, and that was good..
    I'd been keeping busy over the weekend, but yesterday I just couldn't take it any more..
    He's ALWAYS with his new housemates, and yesterday they went out and he said he'd text me, but I was left waiting and couldn't even sleep.. I then had to text him pretty much having a go at him at like 2 am, before he finally texted me..
    And then we spoke online for a bit, and we talk every single night until we fall asleep, and its like our thing.. nobody ever disturbs it..
    But he was watching a film with his housemates and barely even replying to what I was saying..
    And I know I should get over the fact that he's with a girl housemate, but I just can't!
    He said he'd try making more time for me, but this week is so hard because I don't move until this Saturday.. and I need his company so much
    And today, I called him, he was preoccupied with his housemates, and he couldn't wait to get off the phone.. He started saying his phone battery wouldn't last etc.. But it had only been 10 mins..
    And now he's also looking for a new phone contract, when before we were both on a deal that gave us unlimited calls/texts/picture messages to each other..
    I just really don't know what to do.. I can't help but feel completely devastated by how one-way things feel right now.. I want him to enjoy himself- but it really isn't that much effort to keep in touch with me..
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    I've been away for 4 days now and me and my girlfriend are still together.

    If ever there was proof a LDR can work, there it is

    (Joke of course before anyone has a go :p:)
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    Feel v.sad today .
    boyfriend went back to uni today after a whole summer together .... we've been together three n half years and are going into our final year at uni, i am glad we've made it so far. but just got that horrible feeling now he's gone again. i'm not going back til friday so i do feel bit lonely, im also doing some work experience which is quite stressful amongst packing etc.

    I just feel blueee. seems like whenever this happens no-one is around either! my friends at uni arent online much/ all doing work things etc...wanna go back to uni but dont cause i'll miss my mum etc.
    GAH.

    just wanted to rant. im really worried we'll break up this year too because we both get so stressed when we have lots of work n third year will be full on. really hope it works out .

    blueee season for ldrs hey
    x
    • #247
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    (Original post by jamz0770)
    I've been away for 4 days now and me and my girlfriend are still together.

    If ever there was proof a LDR can work, there it is

    (Joke of course before anyone has a go :p:)
    Lawl. Tbh man, it's a good point even through a joke - first few days/week are the worst and if you can get through that and get into a routine, it's not all that bad.

    S'been a week for me, and feeling alright at the moment, even though I'm missing him a lot!
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    my boyfriend's been away a week and two days now and we're surviving fine, yay! :p:

    I know it's going to be hard, but i'm so glad we stayed together (not that we ever considered breaking up) unlike some couples that split just because they were going to uni.
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    (Original post by Melting Sugar.)
    my boyfriend's been away a week and two days now and we're surviving fine, yay! :p:

    I know it's going to be hard, but i'm so glad we stayed together (not that we ever considered breaking up) unlike some couples that split just because they were going to uni.
    SNAP! soooo worth it!
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    Just realised how silly i've been....

    Thinking my bf is being distant when all it has been is a new environment. Hes making new friends etc and I need to give him that space!

    He just said he was missing me! How silly I was to think he wasnt.

    Leasson learned
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    (Original post by Anonymous)
    Lawl. Tbh man, it's a good point even through a joke - first few days/week are the worst and if you can get through that and get into a routine, it's not all that bad.

    S'been a week for me, and feeling alright at the moment, even though I'm missing him a lot!
    Yeah its been alright so far, obviously we miss each other but we've talked on the phone a little bit and I sent her a postcard today :yep: . Glad your doing alright

    (Original post by Melting Sugar.)
    my boyfriend's been away a week and two days now and we're surviving fine, yay! :p:

    I know it's going to be hard, but i'm so glad we stayed together (not that we ever considered breaking up) unlike some couples that split just because they were going to uni.
    Yeah, I never really understood why some people don't try? I mean if you dont think your relationship is strong enough to last being long distance for a while you have to question why your in it at all lol.
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    Someone quoted me in here, but there's no quote Strange...
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    (Original post by wtid)
    Someone quoted me in here, but there's no quote Strange...
    Theres one here! Where have you been? Get you butt back to the chat thread!
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    (Original post by 22KT22)
    Theres one here! Where have you been? Get you butt back to the chat thread!
    Ha! I very rarely use TSR anymore...I'll be the odd one out in the chat, I won't know anyone! (except you!)
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    (Original post by wtid)
    Ha! I very rarely use TSR anymore...I'll be the odd one out in the chat, I won't know anyone! (except you!)
    You will Theres still a few of us oldies... honest! (I'm now actually in a LDR as well :p:)
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    (Original post by wtid)
    Ha! I very rarely use TSR anymore...I'll be the odd one out in the chat, I won't know anyone! (except you!)
    And me! Theres quite a few oldies really =) I'm also in an LDR, although I have a job interview in Exeter, so if all goes well it will be a short lived LD xD
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    (Original post by Sephrenia)
    And me! Theres quite a few oldies really =) I'm also in an LDR, although I have a job interview in Exeter, so if all goes well it will be a short lived LD xD
    Yeah, I see the updates on facebook haha!
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    (Original post by wtid)
    Someone quoted me in here, but there's no quote Strange...
    It was someone trying to sell you viagra who got caught up in the mod queue!
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    (Original post by Hygeia)
    It was someone trying to sell you viagra who got caught up in the mod queue!
    YAY! Viagra =D :p:
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    arghh shes only been gone for about 2 weeks and im already dying, its gonna be really hard to do 9 months apart like this. She went to uni in the uk and we're time zones apart and all >< 2 years to go before i join her in the uk and we kinda have a plan of living and working there. Its great hearing all the success stories guys
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    Well we broke up...

    Does anyone else think that < 2 weeks is not enough to see what its like. I certainly do
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    I think that you can tell early on how tough it will be. How often were you meant to be seeing each other?
 
 
 
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