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    (Original post by emaruls)
    I think the reason that I get jealous is because they get his attention and I don't...also I'm quite insecure about myself so I always think that theyre more pretty etc
    I am so much like you! I get jealous when I realise he gets more attention or when he gives more attention to other people, not just girls. I try not to be a psychotic ***** though

    In another 94 days, I will be done with a LDR as i'm going to another uni in the same city as my bf =]
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    4 days outta 77, got a phone call tonight which was lovely, won't get another one until maybe next week
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    I am in a LDR with my boyfriend - me in London, him a 2.5 hour train ride away... It's been hard, and it gets us both down, but we try and see eachother every 2-3 weeks - will be a lot less frequent when normal term time starts up again

    Jealousy has been a problem for both of us - it seems as soon as we became official, people started being interested in us! An odd feeling, as we're both so awkward, but we've kind of realised we just need to trust eachother.

    We text/speak on the phone daily, and write letters - just biding our time till we can finally move in together really!
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    Tuesday morning I'll be going up to see him! I can't actually wait!

    My grandfather died Thursday morning and the past few days have been incredibly rough. My boyfriend has been incredibly supportive. He's recently lost his own father and so can relate to how I'm feeling. Although we've not been together long (three weeks but known each other longer) and that he's not met a single member of my family he sent me and my family flowers. He wanted me to know that athough he couldn't be here to help me, he was still thinking of me.

    It's the nicest thing anyone has ever done for me.

    I told him that I still wanted to see him, we will do everything as planned and that it doesn't change things. I know my grandad wouldn't want that. I need a change, new faces and places, I need a break from things so intense at home.

    All I want to do is hug him and kiss him and have him hold me.

    Tuesday cannot come fast enough.
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    I might end up in a ldr soon. I speak to this person all the time on tsr. We get on great , know a huge amount about each other, and talk all the time. We both already live far from each other. I know we like each other as we've suggested things we'd do together. We both had applied to the same college and would meet there. I think the person really liked me and hoped we were going to be there together and end up maybe in a relationship. I won't be there anymore as I need to reach the grade and will go next year instead. We're going to meet soon. He probably thinks it's impossible to have a ldr. I just know he likes me and probably feels sad now. How do I suggest we could start a ldr and see if it works? as we do like each other and never met anyone else like each other. What do I do???
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    just commenting to subscribe i'm moving to london in september so will be over three hours away from my boyfriend, who by then we'll have been together one year and five months
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    Today is the day! I'm sitting here at Kings Cross on TSR as I arrived an hour and a half early for my train.. I didn't want to be late lol.

    This morning has been very stressed, emotions have been running high at home lately. I''m aching for a hug. Only about four and a half hours to go till I see him..
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    (Original post by Anonymous)
    I'm in a sort of LDR right now (we don't live too far apart... it's like an hour train journey to each other's houses. we live on either side of a really large city, so we often meet up in the city centre, which is a 1/2 hour journey). but yeah. he's so distant and it's starting to get on my nerves.
    He'll tell me that he'll text or ring me later, and he never does, I have to text him. It wouldn't bother me but he literally says "I'll ring you at 9" and then he just doesn't. If I didn't text him, we wouldn't get into contact for days at a time. I've spoken to him about it before and he just laughs it off and says 'oh I forgot'.
    last time I spoke to him was yesterday morning, about 8am, he had to go into an exam and said "I'll text you later on", and he still hasn't. I'm leaving it to see how long he'll wait before he texts me, but it's just so annoying! I know I'm making a big deal out of a little thing but the fact is we don't see each other often and because of that, communication is important (as I'm sure you all know!).
    He's hardly ever online so we never talk there either, I honestly think he's just with his friends a lot and he doesn't do it purposely but it's just so infuriating. it's like he doesn't take our relationship seriously at all.

    I don't know what to doooooo. talking to him about it hasn't made a difference and he's still doing it :/ I really like him, don't want to break-up but I can't be in a relationship where I barely speak to the person :/
    I can see you are very frustrated or will be eventually. Most of the problem in a relation comes from expectation and mind being preoccupied with thought of your partner, well it's nice to think about your partner but it isnt, if its causing you stress. As you mentioned you certainly dont want a break-up, few things you can do is maybe join tsr muscle building society? -sorry bad joke- My point is to do something of your interest to accidently get away from the "I miss him" thought. This will certainly lessen the pain.
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    (Original post by Anonymous)
    I might end up in a ldr soon. I speak to this person all the time on tsr. We get on great , know a huge amount about each other, and talk all the time. We both already live far from each other. I know we like each other as we've suggested things we'd do together. We both had applied to the same college and would meet there. I think the person really liked me and hoped we were going to be there together and end up maybe in a relationship. I won't be there anymore as I need to reach the grade and will go next year instead. We're going to meet soon. He probably thinks it's impossible to have a ldr. I just know he likes me and probably feels sad now. How do I suggest we could start a ldr and see if it works? as we do like each other and never met anyone else like each other. What do I do???
    I would suggest that you meet each other first before deciding anything
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    (Original post by jakemittle)
    I would suggest that you meet each other first before deciding anything
    I will assuming the meet goes ahead, but I think he's upset that I won't be theres. He's become sort of distant not spoken to me for days. An I know he likes me.
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    (Original post by C_B_C)
    You might have to help me out a bit, because I've never understood jealousy.
    Is it fear of having to break up, and being alone?

    I've always known that no matter what happens with me and my GF, I'll be fine, even if we break up. It'll effect me during some time, of course, but I know I'll be fine.

    So if she ever cheats on me, I'll be very disappointed with her, but the fact that she cheated shows me that she's not "the one".
    Such sensible thought routes!
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    I'm so glad to see that so many other people are suceeding in having LDRs. My boyfriend and I have been together for almost two years now, but next year I am staying in England for Uni and he has decided to go to a private Swiss Uni. I must admit I was very worried about it, but seeing how many people here are managing to keep it going, I'm filled with confidence. I love him too much to lose him just because of a few hundred miles! So thanks so much for the motivational talk guys x
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    (Original post by skatealexia)
    Such sensible thought routes!
    No point getting wound up over something stupid.

    How's Liverpool treating you? I've been an Engineer there for 3 years.
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    (Original post by C_B_C)
    No point getting wound up over something stupid.

    How's Liverpool treating you? I've been an Engineer there for 3 years.
    I love liverpool, it is such an amazing city! . You like it ?
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    Feel kinda selfish about feeling down when the further-away half has to leave, or when I have to leave him. It takes a good few days to get over it, and I dunno what to do about it to make it go away faster, but people are in worse situations than I am. I have an awesome boyfriend, he isn't dead or seriously ill, and he's only 5 hours away; there are couples who are much further apart. I just can't help feeling that I'm not allowed to be upset.

    Ventventvent.
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    Do you think a relatively new relationship would be able to survive becoming an LDR? The distance will be about an hour and a half train ride when I go to university. I understand that those who have been together for at least a year or something could make it work and would want to make it work, but what about relationships that have only been going on a few months?
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    (Original post by jthlm)
    Do you think a relatively new relationship would be able to survive becoming an LDR? The distance will be about an hour and a half train ride when I go to university. I understand that those who have been together for at least a year or something could make it work and would want to make it work, but what about relationships that have only been going on a few months?
    yeah if you both really want it and put the effort in it should work yeah my bf lives 3 hours away by trains and weve done it since we first got together. best advice i can give you is learn to trust and don't worry so much about communication, yes it is important but don't get used to talking all the time for ages because it won't be like that forever, you gotta understand you've both got lifes and things to do!
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    So what's the furthest LDR in here then?
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    (Original post by jthlm)
    Do you think a relatively new relationship would be able to survive becoming an LDR? The distance will be about an hour and a half train ride when I go to university. I understand that those who have been together for at least a year or something could make it work and would want to make it work, but what about relationships that have only been going on a few months?
    It's definitely possible My current relationship was LDR from the get go.. And I'm in California and he's in northern England We've been together nearly two years now. So it can work! But you both have to be dedicated and want to make it work. Even though you've only been together a few months, you both have to be thinking extremely long term.
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    My boyfriend is going away to uni. next year. ..300 miles away.
    I'm definitely nervous about it but it's so nice to find a support network here on TSR.

    Good luck to everyone entering and well done to those who've managed to make it work.

    My outlook at the moment is; If it's meant to be, it will work. If it doesn't work, it isn't meant to be.
 
 
 
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