Quite a few people have followed my posts here on the LDR thread, and soon I'll get around to putting them together, editing them, and posting a mega-post made of all the advice I can offer about my LDR.
We hit the 2 and a half benchmark the other day. But all is not well.
We've had an amazing relationship: trust, honesty, plans, getting along (better than with anyone, ever), and happyness.
But I can't keep it up.
There are a few things I need to do, and I'm finding myself restricted by her.
She's not a particularly restricting girl, at all... but relationships are all restricting to a certain degree.
I find myself without the time, money (or will, anymore) to keep this relationship going.
My girlfriend's solution to this is to try to live together. But I find this similar (though less extreme) as a middle-aged couple having daily fights, and deciding to have children in order to sort their problems out.
I've just spent a lot of money on getting her over to see me; we'll spend the weekend together, and we'll break up.
I can't really know if this is due to distance, of if this would've still happened if we lived close-by. Who knows? Maybe it would have been worse.
My final piece of advice is something that most people say. Something that is said so often, that you're probably reluctant to believe it.
Don't depend on eachother
Most of you are young. You don't want to be stuck in a relationship for the rest of your life, no matter how happy it makes you now. Things will change, no doubt, and there's a strong chance that these changes bring you to breaking up.
Don't give up on friends; find as much time for them as you would've if you didn't have a girlfriend.
Make sure your future doesn't depend on them. Just spend half an hour thinking a worste case scenario: what if, half way through this perfect plan of yours, you two end up breaking up. Where will this leave you? Where will this leave your GF/BF? Stranded, jobless and friends-less? Or OK?
This is my honest advice to you. It may bring in some neg rep: there are a lot of people here who are extremely happy with their relationships, and think that my post is being a bit too negative. I'm glad that these people are happy, but I beg them to have a good read of what I've just posted. You can then choose to ignore it or to follow it to the extent that you wish.
Bye bye LDR thread, you've helped me a lot throughout this relationship.
I'll see you in the bar.