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    you know what - ignore my post above, it was a new jerk reaction that didnt need to be said - seriously think im having a period or something.

    everyones entitled to thier freedom. However i still dont get why it would be strange to have your partner there especially if your not going to see them for awhile, and why during freshers its a no no. There may be a perfectly reasonable explanation but i can only think of the one of "no holds barred and anything goes"
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    (Original post by ohdrama)
    do you guys think it would be strange if my bf would visit me in my second week (or third, if you count fresher's week) of uni for a couple of days?

    it would be his last week off before his semester starts back home and i'm not sure when visiting would be possible again... mainly because i have no idea how busy i'll be once uni starts properly and flights aren't exactly cheap as well.

    don't really want to be 'that girl with the bf' from the very beginning...
    Not at all, thats how long I left it before I went to see my boyfriend at his new uni, and by then, it felt like he'd been there a life time! As long as its not freshers (because thats when all the friendships start to form and you dont want to be in your room with your boyfriend the whole time) then theres absolutely no problem in him visiting if thats what you both want.

    And silverbolt - I think some chocolate and a nice relaxing evening and maybe calling her just for a natter (it might put your mind at rest) are in order for you tonight! :hugs:
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    (Original post by Jellybean91)
    Not at all, thats how long I left it before I went to see my boyfriend at his new uni, and by then, it felt like he'd been there a life time! As long as its not freshers (because thats when all the friendships start to form and you dont want to be in your room with your boyfriend the whole time) then theres absolutely no problem in him visiting if thats what you both want.

    And silverbolt - I think some chocolate and a nice relaxing evening and maybe calling her just for a natter (it might put your mind at rest) are in order for you tonight! :hugs:
    Well that answers that. THanks, see i knew there was a reasonable explanation as to why no partners during freshers but my mind wouldnt see it.

    and i realise im going to come across totally like a girl here but i need a hug today


    And after driving lesson think im just going to chill. Knowing shes there would be nice though
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    (Original post by silverbolt)
    Why on earth not?

    As someone who has been cheated on that just makes me think your looking to keep your options open and shag all round wihtout people realising you having a bf.

    And no it wouldnt be strange, well to me anyway, least he wants to see you.

    And why is it a no no during freshers
    haha nooo, it's really not like that.
    i can be incredibly awkward around new people and having my bf there during fresher's would just be the best excuse in the world not to make an effort to mingle and get to know new people. as for someone who ended up with literally no one to talk to at my former university... it's kind of something i don't want to happen again. so, i can understand why having someone over during fresher's is a 'no-go' (to some people at least).

    (Original post by rainbow drops)
    I think that would be fine, since it will only be for a couple of days and will be two or three weeks into the term. My boyfriend first came to see me in my second or third week and no one looked badly on me because of it. It's having your other half visit during freshers' week that is the major no-go.
    (Original post by Jellybean91)
    Not at all, thats how long I left it before I went to see my boyfriend at his new uni, and by then, it felt like he'd been there a life time! As long as its not freshers (because thats when all the friendships start to form and you dont want to be in your room with your boyfriend the whole time) then theres absolutely no problem in him visiting if thats what you both want.
    phew, ok then. actually, i couldn't agree more on what you both have posted. i guess i'll just go with it.


    thank you lovely TSR... umm, TSRians?!
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    (Original post by silverbolt)
    you know what - ignore my post above, it was a new jerk reaction that didnt need to be said - seriously think im having a period or something.

    everyones entitled to thier freedom. However i still dont get why it would be strange to have your partner there especially if your not going to see them for awhile, and why during freshers its a no no. There may be a perfectly reasonable explanation but i can only think of the one of "no holds barred and anything goes"
    As Jellybean said, freshers is a crucial week in the forming of new friendships, and having your other half staying in your room would get in the way of socialising time with your new flatmates and potentially cause you to be left out of friendship groups. It would give off the impression that you'd rather be with your boyfriend/girlfriend as much as possible than meet new people. Not a good idea at allllll. The best option is to get to know your flatmates first and have your other half visit and meet them later on.
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    (Original post by silverbolt)
    Well that answers that. THanks, see i knew there was a reasonable explanation as to why no partners during freshers but my mind wouldnt see it.

    and i realise im going to come across totally like a girl here but i need a hug today


    And after driving lesson think im just going to chill. Knowing shes there would be nice though
    Biiiiiig :hugs: :hugs: :hugs:


    (Original post by ohdrama)
    TSRians?!
    :yep:

    Also you're dead right, especially if you find socialising hard! Make sure you get yourself out there and get to know new people, your boyfriend will still be there in a weeks time and he'll understand exactly why you have to do freshers alone!
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    (Original post by Calanon)
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    I'm so sorry, that's awful :hugs: I agree with jellybean though, it sounds as though you're better off without her. She didn't make an effort, wasn't honest with you about how she felt and doesn't sound very considerate of your feelings at all. Lots of hugs from me too :hugs: We're all here if you need to talk to someone
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    Thanks for the hugs, I'll hopefully be over it soon. I've got college to look forward to now considering there are about 1500 girls at the sixth-form.
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    Feeling rubbishy at the moment things haven't been the same for a while, we're not even actually in a relationship yet but I feel like exams and stress have just taken over. Urgh, horrible feeling but I can't wait until exams have finished, really hoping and praying everything goes back to normal between us!
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    59 days since I left... 88 days until I'm home again.

    I know I should stop counting down, but I can't help it, I'm so conscious of it all the time! Doesn't feel good or healthy really, even 'keeping busy' isn't helping. Some days this week I've been impossibly busy and stressed and it just makes me miss having someone to be there for me.

    Hmph, I'm so tired of this. Feel like I have nothing to be positive about between now and going home. It's not just missing my boyfriend, but missing my family and all the little home comforts back in the UK.

    Hope nobody minds me dumping my feelings here.
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    (Original post by kat91s)
    59 days since I left... 88 days until I'm home again.

    I know I should stop counting down, but I can't help it, I'm so conscious of it all the time! Doesn't feel good or healthy really, even 'keeping busy' isn't helping. Some days this week I've been impossibly busy and stressed and it just makes me miss having someone to be there for me.

    Hmph, I'm so tired of this. Feel like I have nothing to be positive about between now and going home. It's not just missing my boyfriend, but missing my family and all the little home comforts back in the UK.

    Hope nobody minds me dumping my feelings here.
    Chin up *sends some positivity* I felt exactly like that at about 80 days to go. It just felt like I was going through the motions with everything. But it was odd, as soon as I hit the halfway mark things suddenly seemed to pick up - almost like 'it's all downhill from here!' Now it's only 16 days, and I can't quite believe where the time's gone. As for missing home, I'm the one left behind in the UK, but I've found that just taking a few minutes in the evening to think up good things about the day helps Have you got some nice stuff planned to do when you're home? Planning our trip round sydney has kept us going through the blue days.
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    Hey everyone, hope you're all holding up well!

    Just wondering how you all cope with the goodbyes, It'd be nice to know that I'm not the only one who cries every single time, then have to go off on my own either in a queue at the airport with lots of people looking at me feeling sorry for me/making me feel a bit pathetic or onto a packed train. Last time my bf came to visit me I had to say goodbye to him at the train station then rush straight to a lecture and I just wanted to go and sulk with a massive bar of chocolate! (Ok I hid in a toilet at the station to compose myself first) Although the last time I left him I managed to bag a first class seat on the TGV meaning I had a big single chair to myself to sniff and sulk in peace :P

    When I watch love actually the bit at the end at the airport always sets me off
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    (Original post by DrGalago)
    Chin up *sends some positivity* I felt exactly like that at about 80 days to go. It just felt like I was going through the motions with everything. But it was odd, as soon as I hit the halfway mark things suddenly seemed to pick up - almost like 'it's all downhill from here!' Now it's only 16 days, and I can't quite believe where the time's gone. As for missing home, I'm the one left behind in the UK, but I've found that just taking a few minutes in the evening to think up good things about the day helps Have you got some nice stuff planned to do when you're home? Planning our trip round sydney has kept us going through the blue days.
    Thanks so much! I'm two weeks from the halfway mark today, so hopefully it will get easier after that.

    I think I have too much nice stuff planned for when I get home - seeing all my friends again, celebrating my birthday, various gig tickets already booked, riding my motorbike again, going on holiday with my boyfriend.... It's going to be wonderful! It just all feels so far away right now with nothing in between to look forward to, I think that's my problem.

    Need to get back on track with the positive thinking.
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    (Original post by Pies)
    Hey everyone, hope you're all holding up well!

    Just wondering how you all cope with the goodbyes, It'd be nice to know that I'm not the only one who cries every single time, then have to go off on my own either in a queue at the airport with lots of people looking at me feeling sorry for me/making me feel a bit pathetic or onto a packed train. Last time my bf came to visit me I had to say goodbye to him at the train station then rush straight to a lecture and I just wanted to go and sulk with a massive bar of chocolate! (Ok I hid in a toilet at the station to compose myself first) Although the last time I left him I managed to bag a first class seat on the TGV meaning I had a big single chair to myself to sniff and sulk in peace :P

    When I watch love actually the bit at the end at the airport always sets me off
    That sounds so familiar! The past two times we said goodbye, I was crying for a whole day beforehand, because I couldn't stand the thought of being so far apart for so long again. We went out for a meal the night before I left and the waiter asked me if there was something wrong with the food because I looked so upset, how embarrassing! I'm usually ok once I'm on my way, it's just the dread of parting that's the worst.
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    (Original post by Pies)
    Hey everyone, hope you're all holding up well!

    Just wondering how you all cope with the goodbyes, It'd be nice to know that I'm not the only one who cries every single time, then have to go off on my own either in a queue at the airport with lots of people looking at me feeling sorry for me/making me feel a bit pathetic or onto a packed train. Last time my bf came to visit me I had to say goodbye to him at the train station then rush straight to a lecture and I just wanted to go and sulk with a massive bar of chocolate! (Ok I hid in a toilet at the station to compose myself first) Although the last time I left him I managed to bag a first class seat on the TGV meaning I had a big single chair to myself to sniff and sulk in peace :P

    When I watch love actually the bit at the end at the airport always sets me off
    Oh dear god I can't even tell you how many airports I must have cried in by now... probably at least 6 DIFFERENT ones and probably cried multiple times in most of them I HATE the part where you have you walk through security and leave them there! Walking away from them is the hardest part ever :sad: so big :hugs: its not just you I promise

    Where are you living as a matter of interest?
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    To those of you who met your partners on the internet, what did you parents think of it? Were they at all uneasy about it, particularly if you travel quite far away to see him? Or did you not really tell them?

    Even though I'm a young adult, I still live with my parents and they sometimes like to ask where I go. I plan on meeting a guy who lives 3 hours train ride away from me, and I feel like I'd have to let them know in case something happened to me. I also think they wouldn't be too happy with me travelling too far on my own to meet him, but I've met him before and I'm sure he is who he says he is. Plus, they couldn't exactly stop me from going either.

    What do you think? Any advice?
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    (Original post by Anonymous)
    To those of you who met your partners on the internet, what did you parents think of it? Were they at all uneasy about it, particularly if you travel quite far away to see him? Or did you not really tell them?

    Even though I'm a young adult, I still live with my parents and they sometimes like to ask where I go. I plan on meeting a guy who lives 3 hours train ride away from me, and I feel like I'd have to let them know in case something happened to me. I also think they wouldn't be too happy with me travelling too far on my own to meet him, but I've met him before and I'm sure he is who he says he is. Plus, they couldn't exactly stop me from going either.

    What do you think? Any advice?
    For me, I just decided being totally honest with them was the best idea (because my mums a worrier) so I told them, and they we're a bit freaked out at first and thought it was so weird and didn't trust him at all, but he came to my house to pick me up, so my mum could meet him, she spoke to him for a few mins and was happy (weve both got a good sense like that about people in that it only takes us meeting someone for a minute or 2 to suss them out!) she spoke to him more the next day too and fast forward 11 months now i'm convinced she likes him more than she likes me

    But honestly, do let them know where you're going, they're only looking out for you, and make sure you meet somewhere public and just generally take care!
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    (Original post by Jellybean91)
    For me, I just decided being totally honest with them was the best idea (because my mums a worrier) so I told them, and they we're a bit freaked out at first and thought it was so weird and didn't trust him at all, but he came to my house to pick me up, so my mum could meet him, she spoke to him for a few mins and was happy (weve both got a good sense like that about people in that it only takes us meeting someone for a minute or 2 to suss them out!) she spoke to him more the next day too and fast forward 11 months now i'm convinced she likes him more than she likes me

    But honestly, do let them know where you're going, they're only looking out for you, and make sure you meet somewhere public and just generally take care!
    Thanks. I'm going to meet him in his town, since last time he travelled all the way to come to my county so I thought it was only fair. Though, I remember last time, when I told my dad I was meeting him, he didn't seem happy and thought even then I was travelling too far (20 minute train ride from my town :rolleyes:) . But oh well, I'm not going to let that stop me. Some parents seem to over-cautious eh.
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    (Original post by Anonymous)
    To those of you who met your partners on the internet, what did you parents think of it? Were they at all uneasy about it, particularly if you travel quite far away to see him? Or did you not really tell them?

    Even though I'm a young adult, I still live with my parents and they sometimes like to ask where I go. I plan on meeting a guy who lives 3 hours train ride away from me, and I feel like I'd have to let them know in case something happened to me. I also think they wouldn't be too happy with me travelling too far on my own to meet him, but I've met him before and I'm sure he is who he says he is. Plus, they couldn't exactly stop me from going either.

    What do you think? Any advice?
    (Original post by Jellybean91)
    For me, I just decided being totally honest with them was the best idea (because my mums a worrier) so I told them, and they we're a bit freaked out at first and thought it was so weird and didn't trust him at all, but he came to my house to pick me up, so my mum could meet him, she spoke to him for a few mins and was happy (weve both got a good sense like that about people in that it only takes us meeting someone for a minute or 2 to suss them out!) she spoke to him more the next day too and fast forward 11 months now i'm convinced she likes him more than she likes me

    But honestly, do let them know where you're going, they're only looking out for you, and make sure you meet somewhere public and just generally take care!
    I also was completely honest with them because, since we got together, he came to me only two times, so I'm the one traveling mostly. I also give them details about my flights and the place where Im staying...it may seem too much, but im actually ok with it. At the end of the day, theyre just looking out for me.

    I wish they could meet the boy, I know they'd feel more secure if they did...but heh, that doesn't seem likely now.

    On a totally unrelated note, we had a bit of a 'serious' talk earlier this morning and Im afraid we dont quite want the same things atm. I can wait for him but now I wonder if he'll still want to be together in 5 months or so. Guess Ill just have to wait and see
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    (Original post by Anonymous)
    To those of you who met your partners on the internet, what did you parents think of it? Were they at all uneasy about it, particularly if you travel quite far away to see him? Or did you not really tell them?

    Even though I'm a young adult, I still live with my parents and they sometimes like to ask where I go. I plan on meeting a guy who lives 3 hours train ride away from me, and I feel like I'd have to let them know in case something happened to me. I also think they wouldn't be too happy with me travelling too far on my own to meet him, but I've met him before and I'm sure he is who he says he is. Plus, they couldn't exactly stop me from going either.

    What do you think? Any advice?
    Hey! I met both my current and previous boyfriend on the internet (I seem to have a knack for these things ). Both times I made plans to meet the guy by myself, and my parents didn't know about him until we were together. I don't live with them, so it's not like they catch details like that. However, when they asked, I was honest about where we met and they seem to be ok with it.

    When meeting people from the internet, I always apply the same rule - meet in a public place, and tell someone where you're going and what you have planned. If you've already met then it's different, but you should keep being cautious until you're sure you can trust the person. If possible, meet in the middle or get him to come to you. 3 hours is quite a distance!
 
 
 
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