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    Told him im coming back for christmas on Dec 20th but im actually back on Dec 18th to surprise him at work, cunning muahahahahahahaha :P
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    (Original post by Care-Free)
    Told him im coming back for christmas on Dec 20th but im actually back on Dec 18th to surprise him at work, cunning muahahahahahahaha :P
    I'm back on the 19th, which is his birthday, wish I'd kept it a secret now but when I booked it I was so excited to get the train ticket for so cheap I told him straight away, damn
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    (Original post by Anonymous)
    I'm back on the 19th, which is his birthday, wish I'd kept it a secret now but when I booked it I was so excited to get the train ticket for so cheap I told him straight away, damn
    but that's so cute! im struggling to hold it in, he's counting down to the 20th and still saying "thats just too long! cant you come home early?" guilt trip much!
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    So I live in South East Finland, about an hour and a half from Helsinki, he lives in South East England, Brighton to be exact. We've been together since 2009 and try to see as often as we can. I go there on my holidays (I get a week in the end of October, a week or two at Christmas, a week in the end of February and 10 weeks in the summer) and he comes here every now and then for long weekends. I'm still doing my A-levels (Finnish "lukio"), he's already in the working life and we're hoping to start our life together in England in less than two years. =)

    (Original post by FuzzySheep)
    5 more days
    Same here! Saturday, please come quickly! So excited. We haven't seen since the beginning of August and it'll be his 20th birthday on the 30th.
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    [QUOTE=Anonymous;39877451]
    I think what's apparent in my relationship is that we're best friends, not just boyfriend and girlfriend. Because there's no consistent seeing each other or having sex regularly or even cuddling all the time, we've had to understand each other and what we really are like and learn to love that rather than someone who's there just for sex QUOTE]

    :lovie: So true!
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    Eek, three sleeps! He's been away for a little over a month now and I've been lucky enough to see him twice already! I have to admit, I am very bad with the whole "living in the future thing"- I actually have a count down in my diary until I see him next (very sad, very teenage girl, but also VERY reassuring!) But at the same time, I've thrown myself into so many extra-curricular activities this academic year, I've been working hard because a) I have more time to do 'me' things, such as going out with my girlfriends without him allowed and b) I need to take my mind off him. I feel like we can make it through, I'm just worrying already about how it'll be when I start university next September/October. I've applied to uni already and I've done a good job at not letting his location sway my choices. I'm just wondering if anyone has any words of advice to offer with regards to starting university a year after your partner? How was it?
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    (Original post by Anonymous)
    Eek, three sleeps! He's been away for a little over a month now and I've been lucky enough to see him twice already! I have to admit, I am very bad with the whole "living in the future thing"- I actually have a count down in my diary until I see him next (very sad, very teenage girl, but also VERY reassuring!) But at the same time, I've thrown myself into so many extra-curricular activities this academic year, I've been working hard because a) I have more time to do 'me' things, such as going out with my girlfriends without him allowed and b) I need to take my mind off him. I feel like we can make it through, I'm just worrying already about how it'll be when I start university next September/October. I've applied to uni already and I've done a good job at not letting his location sway my choices. I'm just wondering if anyone has any words of advice to offer with regards to starting university a year after your partner? How was it?
    I think I need a better visual system... I did have it written on my white board but my white board is irritating me because I have no real place for it. Sigh.
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    facebook chat and skype are all very good but nothing beats a handwritten letter. Spent the day with a big smile on my face.
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    I think the night times are the worst :sad: I don't think I'll ever get used to this either. It's now about a year and a half since we started our (on and off) LDR and it still sucks as much as it did the first day.
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    (Original post by BabyfacedDom)
    facebook chat and skype are all very good but nothing beats a handwritten letter. Spent the day with a big smile on my face.
    That's so lovely!
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    Get to see her tomorrow, after days spent buried in coursework so that I can actually take this weekend away from Uni. And she's also told me she's planned to come and stay in 2 weekends. Needless to say happy Seb right now
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    My long distance relationship didn't really survive. It lasted 3 years with fights and jealousy. I still love him tho he said he doesn't want to wait for me cos it obviously didn't work for us. never mind.. I know I am better without him, nobody to make me cry all of a sudden cos he thinks I have cheated on him.
    Good luck with it guys. Hope you can all make it work Because love is the most important thing on Earth at least for me
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    (Original post by BabyfacedDom)
    facebook chat and skype are all very good but nothing beats a handwritten letter. Spent the day with a big smile on my face.
    I so agree. We write letters about once a week to each other, gives me a surprise to look forward to as I never know exactly when it will arrive (we don't tell each other when we've replied). Plus, it smells of him
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    Supposed to go see him this weekend, booked my train tickets on monday. Work have now given me four days notice of a meeting I apparently HAVE to go to and I have no idea if they're going to let me off.

    Going to have to give up my job to see him but without my job I can't afford train fare.
    No idea what to do.
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    (Original post by Anonymous)
    Supposed to go see him this weekend, booked my train tickets on monday. Work have now given me four days notice of a meeting I apparently HAVE to go to and I have no idea if they're going to let me off.

    Going to have to give up my job to see him but without my job I can't afford train fare.
    No idea what to do.
    Didn't mean to leave anon on
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    (Original post by Anonymous)
    I think what's apparent in my relationship is that we're best friends, not just boyfriend and girlfriend. Because there's no consistent seeing each other or having sex regularly or even cuddling all the time, we've had to understand each other and what we really are like and learn to love that rather than someone who's there just for sex QUOTE]

    :lovie: So true!
    We've found that in my relationship too
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    does anyone have experience of a LDR with a really clingy BF/GF? My long term boyfriend cannot accept that I am going to uni next year. He is used to seeing me almost every day and we even work together. He got upset when I went to Reading festival and that was only a few days. I've tried reassuring him he can visit me and me visit home, I'm only and hour and a half's drive away, so a train is even quicker. I've seen relationships last with my friends from here in suffolk and york, which is a lot further away than UEA.

    I understand it will be hard for him to go from seeing me whenever he wants to only once a week. He says if I go there is nothing left back home for him. Although he has a job he enjoys and a few close friends. Maybe he should take up a college course or something? Thing is he is a little older than me and he has done the uni thing already, and doesn't rate it. That said I think, and so does he, that he took the wrng course. he's never be able to afford the fee's to go again though. He doesn't see the long term benefits of having gone to uni for him. But me I have wanted it for so long, and it's not something I am going to give up. I even took a gap year so we had a good year together before I go, and I'm also working and saving money so that I am in a comfortable financial position when I do go.
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    (Original post by Kaylaleigh)
    does anyone have experience of a LDR with a really clingy BF/GF? My long term boyfriend cannot accept that I am going to uni next year. He is used to seeing me almost every day and we even work together. He got upset when I went to Reading festival and that was only a few days. I've tried reassuring him he can visit me and me visit home, I'm only and hour and a half's drive away, so a train is even quicker. I've seen relationships last with my friends from here in suffolk and york, which is a lot further away than UEA.

    I understand it will be hard for him to go from seeing me whenever he wants to only once a week. He says if I go there is nothing left back home for him. Although he has a job he enjoys and a few close friends. Maybe he should take up a college course or something? Thing is he is a little older than me and he has done the uni thing already, and doesn't rate it. That said I think, and so does he, that he took the wrng course. he's never be able to afford the fee's to go again though. He doesn't see the long term benefits of having gone to uni for him. But me I have wanted it for so long, and it's not something I am going to give up. I even took a gap year so we had a good year together before I go, and I'm also working and saving money so that I am in a comfortable financial position when I do go.
    It's great to see you are doing so much to make him happy, but it appears to be too much. If he truly loves you he will learn to adapt to the change, a change that clearly you want to do and will make you happy. If he keeps holding you back then you will resent him for that fact. Make yourself happy first and foremost and make sure you can do what you want to do. He will support you I am sure, even if it is hard to adjust to.
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    I like a guy from Australia I met on a student exchange.
    Haven't seen him for three years now but still like him
    At first, we thoughtit could work out but after 1.5 years he told me, he doesn't want to leave me hanging around waiting for him
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    Hey everyone im new to the thread, but also new to a long distance relationship. He's a 10 hour flight away and im missing him so much.
    Just counting down the days until december so I can see him again...
 
 
 
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