My boyfriend moved off to university nearly a month ago, and it's pushed us into an LDR..which is making me miserable as hell.
We'd been dating for nearly 4 years, which is why I'm so surprised that it has taken less than a month for everything to go so wrong. When he left, it wasn't perfect (we were arguing more than usual due to the stress of packing and leaving and hadn't managed to have much time to ourselves) but the distance has exacerbated everything. He tries his best to talk to me every night and usually does (sometimes for 40 mins or more) but there's no "connection" anymore. We used to have a great vibe and talk for ages, whereas nowadays our hugely long phone calls are mostly silence. I have become an obsessive ****wit, who checks his facebook at least twice a day to look at the photos on there - usually just to upset myself because there's a girl he's become close to recently (he wont talk about it) and she seems to appear in half his photos. But I'm living this rubbish double-life, because I've got a stupid crush on a boy at work which wont go away, and I flirt because I can - yet I know it's just because I loved my boyfriend and hate him being so far away. The distance I think I can deal with, but the jealousy and his changing personality make it impossible. I knew he would change, but he's not the person I fell in love with anymore, and I dont want to be saddled with a stagnant LDR when I go to Uni in a year's time. Nonetheless, I still care about him more than anyone - I just don't know who he really is!
God. Sorry, I had to get that off my chest. My friends aren't the understanding type - I give them advice rather than vice-versa. I actually only wanted to post a simple question..if I was to end it with him, should I do it over the phone (cheaper and so much easier) or travel up to see him? The train fare will cost us about £30 each, and I don't want to break his heart and then try to extract money from him so that I can go home again..also, if I go and visit I will have to stay the night (train times mean I can't get there and back in a day), can't afford a hotel and would have to share his bed, either pre or post-breakup. What should I do?