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Is it ok to fancy other people when in a relationship?

Anonymous #1

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Anonymous #2

I don't think so tbh....your in a relationship in the first place because you have feelings for that person right?

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UlsterDefence

It's normal and everyone does it. My girlfriend when she watches TV always says ',ooo he's hot'

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Anonymous #1

Original post by Anonymous

I don't think so tbh....your in a relationship in the first place because you have feelings for that person right?

Really though? I mean you don’t just suddenly go blind when you enter a relationship and stat thinking everyone else is unattractive..

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6573282

There's a difference between finding someone attractive and being emotionally invested in someone else.

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username4899996

There’s nothing wrong with acknowledging someone else looks good, AS LONG AS YOU DONT ACT UPON IT AND THINK UR QUEEN IS STILL THE FITTEST PERSON ON EARTH

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anosmianAcrimony

Not just okay but inevitable. Just don't act on it!

Oh, and benefits of at least one person being non-heteronormal - at that point you can point them out and bond over how you both fancy them.

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Original post by Anonymous

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to me, it seems almost inevitable. it will happen at some point. just make sure you don't act on it. that could lead to a few awkward conversations

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Anonymous #3

You will definitely find other people attractive. Likely you will see someone who is even more attractive than your partner. Just have to ignore it I guess.

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Anonymous #2

Original post by Anonymous

Really though? I mean you don’t just suddenly go blind when you enter a relationship and stat thinking everyone else is unattractive..

No ....nvm i thought u meant u actually have feelings for someone else

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bones-mccoy

Totally normal imo you don't just lose all attraction to anyone else once you're in a relationship

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Anonymous #4

With an idea like that being asked, I'm sure people have been asking this all the time over the dawn of time and all of a sudden, now, someone decides to ask this like it isn't taboo anymore. OF COURSE IT NOT OKAY and if it is ever the case, then that person just doesn't like the relationship there's in, so all the best working that out for themselves when their relationship ends because no one respects a person who can't decide and anchor their time with someone they're telling the entire world that they like.

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izziwills2002

the secret ingredient is that you know its wrong hahaha
best thing is when you both find someone hot and can joke about it that way, just dont act on those feelings even if theyre inevitable :smile: