how to not miss your partner so much?

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Reply 1

Dr. Robotnik

NO, the best way is to actual take steps to make plans to see him. Don't text everyday cos that might get annoying and he may feel you are too needy. How far apart do you live?

Reply 2

Dr. Robotnik

OK, the first thing to do is to kinda try to distance yourself emotionally. Cos at the moment it sounds like you are a bit too into him and the fact that you're apart is making you unhappy. You don't want to make yourself unhappy over a guy; it's not a good situation to be in. It sounds like you are more into him than he is into you; either that or he is just handling the fact that you're apart a lot better.

Just keep talking to him and finding out when he is free and asking if you two can spend time together alone. If he never makes time for you then maybe he isn't worth the effort. I wouldn't waste my time on a guy who never tried to make time for ME.

Reply 3

Mata

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orangeboy

Thanks mate, I'll definitely take this on board. I missed him so much after we finished uni so I met him ;last week and he simply had no time for me then either hence why we were with his friends. :frown:

Do you reckon I should tell him that I feel that I am too emotionally in love with him, or which I think is better; too emotionally attached?
He might gather suspicions so it;s probably best to tell him straight?

He's supposed to be coming mine next week but I'm really not so sure, I just want to work on my feelings so I'm not a wreck head like I am now, of course it'll be great seeing him and when he comes here he won't be with my mates all time, I'd want spend quality time with him - maybe this is what I need. I dunno!

Hmm - how long have you been together for?

When my bf and I first started going out i.e. up until about 6 months, I found it was best not to pour my heart out emotionally - just to keep something back. Unfortunately that was the point at which I really was in the honeymoon period and missed him the most.

Because you're not doing much you're making him the focus on your happiness and that isn't healthy for you or your relationship. I find its best in a relationship, to decide how often you're going to contact each other and when, and that way neither of you feels abandoned or, conversely, smothered. Perhaps at the end of the day you should call one another, and then you'll have stuff to talk about (i.e. what you've done during the day). Plus, that would be an incentive to actually do something with your day so you can have an interesting conversation?

Reply 4

Dr. Robotnik

orangeboy

Do you reckon I should tell him that I feel that I am too emotionally in love with him, or which I think is better; too emotionally attached?
He might gather suspicions so it;s probably best to tell him straight?

He's supposed to be coming mine next week but I'm really not so sure, I just want to work on my feelings so I'm not a wreck head like I am now, of course it'll be great seeing him and when he comes here he won't be with my mates all time, I'd want spend quality time with him - maybe this is what I need. I dunno!

Don't tell him that! It might freak him out cos it doesn't sound like you two have been going out for very long. Just work on your feelings and distance yourself emotionally. Try to keep yourself as occupied as possible so you don't have to keep thinking about him. If you don't have a job or can't get one, maybe volunteer or something. ANYTHING to stop yourself thinking about him all the time. Trust me, I feel your pain, I've had to learn how to control my emotions/feelings cos being ruled by them is simply not healthy - for me at least.

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