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It’s coming up to the end of first semester at first year in uni and I’ve made a couple of friends and lots of acquaintances but still not really developed strong friendships with anyone. The people I am friends with have other friends and I’m starting to stress about flats for next year and everyone else seems to have people they would go with instead. Did anyone else have this problem or happen to meet their flatmates in second semester of first year instead??
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It’s coming up to the end of first semester at first year in uni and I’ve made a couple of friends and lots of acquaintances but still not really developed strong friendships with anyone. The people I am friends with have other friends and I’m starting to stress about flats for next year and everyone else seems to have people they would go with instead. Did anyone else have this problem or happen to meet their flatmates in second semester of first year instead??
Don't worry. You still have next year to decide. Use this time to get to know people more and start arranging outings and meet ups. If people are going out, ask to be a tag-a-long etc. You want to be involved in things at uni to be honest. So make use of all these opportunities.
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I’m in the exact same position. All the people who I consider to be my closest friends at uni have other people they’re closer to. I think I’m gonna end up in halls again cuz all my friends already have groups and have signed for houses.
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I’m in the exact same position. All the people who I consider to be my closest friends at uni have other people they’re closer to. I think I’m gonna end up in halls again cuz all my friends already have groups and have signed for houses.
I did the same thing. I'm currently in second year and live in private halls.... I'm not even going to elaborate but you'll probably get the drift.
All I know is that I'm moving in with one of my relatives for third year and that's that. F**k it. If I don't make friends in uni. I'm about tired of putting my energy and effort in the wrong people.
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Who cares. Just get your degree and kick ‘em to the curb.
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Who cares. Just get your degree and kick ‘em to the curb.
That's my motto. Literally. Just focus on completing the degree and whilst you're at uni just fake friendships and kindness with people then at graduation day and afterwards just forget they even existed (:
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That's my motto. Literally. Just focus on completing the degree and whilst you're at uni just fake friendships and kindness with people then at graduation day and afterwards just forget they even existed (:
That’s how you know you are truly alone. Faking kindness and friendships is the loner way. Sure, you get to the top but it’s lonely at the top
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I'm in the same position also, really not enjoying uni life that much.
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I'm in the same situation too. I've made a lot of acquaintances and do hang out with some people often, but I haven't found anyone to live with next year so I gotta go for halls again next year. I think I set my expectations quite high in terms of social life before arriving. ^^''
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i feel the same except i live at home so i don't have that stress thankfully. i'm finding it so hard to make some new friends that become actual friends rather than acquaintances
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Which unis?
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It’s coming up to the end of first semester at first year in uni and I’ve made a couple of friends and lots of acquaintances but still not really developed strong friendships with anyone. The people I am friends with have other friends and I’m starting to stress about flats for next year and everyone else seems to have people they would go with instead. Did anyone else have this problem or happen to meet their flatmates in second semester of first year instead??
Don't worry, not forging strong friendships in first semester is perfectly normal! I actually formed friendships with most of my friends in second semester, when the mad excitement of joining uni had started to die down and everybody became more themselves. What I did was re-apply for university accommodation for second year, and then fill in an association request to live with my friends in April-sort of time. Not sure if this would work for you though, because I know not all universities offer halls to second years.
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In first year I didn't make many friends because my mental health was really poor, and the only person who was going to share with me ended up being an RA. I stayed at home and commuted second year, but I started making more friends then.

Even then I didn't want to share with one of my friends because I realised I'd much prefer my own space, so I lived in student accommodation.
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It’s coming up to the end of first semester at first year in uni and I’ve made a couple of friends and lots of acquaintances but still not really developed strong friendships with anyone. The people I am friends with have other friends and I’m starting to stress about flats for next year and everyone else seems to have people they would go with instead. Did anyone else have this problem or happen to meet their flatmates in second semester of first year instead??
Whilst lots of people get very close very quickly its still on some level synthetic, good friends take time to build bonds and happens over time, you cant artificially get this. You can go out & make lots of friends easily and being in halls or a sports team will improve your odds but turning a friendship into a 'good' friend will take time, and you wont realise its happened.
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I wouldn't worry too much, it's only the end of first term! I'd suggest getting involved as much as you can next term, especially since it's first year - the year you get to find your feet and mostly have fun - obviously work hard, but not too hard. Still, don't stress if you don't make many friends this year! My friend didn't make any solid friendships in first year, but most unis have flats for students who don't move in with friends in second year, and she ended up making her best friends when she did this! So don't stress so much, because even if you have to move into flats like that, it could be really good for you in the end.

Hope everything goes well!
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What do you expect? All it is, is some institution for a bit of staff training. It’s not a social club!
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Hey! Thought I'd reply because I was in this situation at uni.

In first year I really struggled to make good friends, I really isolated myself and was suffering from quite poor mental health. I, however, found a group of friends to live with in second year by finding some friends (that i wasnt close to at that time but lived in my halls) were advertising for another flatmate and I became their sixth flat mate. Now we're very good friends but it really did happen over time so I wouldn't worry about it. I'm living with different people this year that I didn't know very well, apart from my best friend (who I didn't even get close to til second year!) and we click too.

See if your uni has flatmate finders etc, there will be so many people that are trying to find an extra flatmate and are already in groups and you can ask to go out with them on a night out/ go for a coffee to see if you get on. Also, clubs and societies!!! I joined a sports society in second semester in second year and met loads of people, I wasn't that active at all and still made friends, if I did cultivate more time& energy into these friendships more I would have become better friends. I know it seems people are settled into friendship groups but they're superficial and they change A LOT from y1 to y3. Go to the library with coursemates, go on a night out with people you know and the next day message them to ask them how they are etc and if they'd like to meet up. If you make an effort with people you click with, they'll do the same with you. If you're scared to be a tag along and want to go somewhere just msg being like "hey, you still going to X, mind if i join, ive always wanted to go" or "where was my invite? " as a joke.

Hang in there and keep putting yourself out there, it DOES get better. Coming from someone who felt the same exact way. All my friends graduate this year and I still have two more years so I'll need to make new friends/ meet new people again but I know its possible now, just takes time. If you want to speak more, feel free to DM me.
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I have no idea how you all take yourselves so socially serious.
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In groups and you can ask to go out with them on a night out/ go for a coffee to see if you get on. Also, clubs and societies!!!

Go to the library with coursemates, go on a night out with people you know and the next day message them to ask them how they are etc and if they'd like to meet up. If you make an effort with people you click with, they'll do the same with you.
Sounds like a boring waste of time.
Make an effort? For what? Isn’t like they are going to help with anything in life is it. This culture of ‘uni friendzzz’ is such a weak and pointless social system. It is basically adults socialising as children.
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It’s coming up to the end of first semester at first year in uni and I’ve made a couple of friends and lots of acquaintances but still not really developed strong friendships with anyone. The people I am friends with have other friends and I’m starting to stress about flats for next year and everyone else seems to have people they would go with instead. Did anyone else have this problem or happen to meet their flatmates in second semester of first year instead??
I relate 100% . In 1st year I made acquaintances but no "friends". I decided to apply for a room on campus again for 2nd year but I when I didn't get it I started looking into private student halls in the area. They were a bit more expensive but it meant that I could get an ensuite room and only share a kitchen.

Btw, I recommend that you tough it out a bit. I did the same and 2nd year is much better and I now have friends
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