Present or not? Watch
Which leads me to my current dilemma. Until now we have always bought fairly generous Christmas and birthday presents for each other. Both our birthdays were in the summer and we each paid for each other for a pamper day out together but that was before things tailed off. And now it’s Christmas. I have no idea if she is planning on getting me anything this year. I don’t want to be presumptuous and assume she’s given me more than a passing thought. I don’t want to buy something and keep it in my bag in case I see her and she gives me something- we have always gone for personal presents or something we can do together. Nor do I want to embarrass her by giving her something when she hasn’t got me anything or vice versa. I don’t feel in a position to ring or text her (which would now be out of the blue- a change from when we used to be in contact every day without fail) and say things have changed let’s not bother this year.
I’m almost tempted to use this as a way of drawing a final line under our friendship and making the silent statement that I don’t see her as a close friend anymore but also know that this would be the final act in wiping her out of my life and, despite my lack of interest in rekindling our friendship unless she makes an effort to make the first move, I don’t want to hurt her