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I ve been with this clique since 2016 to be exact. I knew most of them but we became a proper clique due to the formation of a workers rights society.

Now I admit that my clique is shared the view of the extreme left. Most of them are from quite wealthy families and the view is that only views and opinions which match ours are welcomed. Other views aren't.
They follow movements blindly and support only 1 sided approach.
If you dont agree with them or dont share their views, you are a horrible person.
Nearly all of them LOVE Corbyn (I'm leftist too but I no longer support Corbyn).

The main base of the friendship is workers rights, free palestine, anti israel, how capitalistic and bad the current society is and british politics.

Earlier I was deeply involved in this clique and was dating 1 girl in this group as well.

However, we fell out and I began dating a girl whom I really wanted a relationship with while I was at uni 3 years ago.
Shes not a part of my group and tbh, she doesnt like them AT ALL.

My gf shares very different views than my group. She has liberal views too but tends to give two sided approach to most situations. She supports workers rights and has supported me in all my endeavors but says she cannot form relationships based on these topics nor can talk about politics or workers rights all the time. Hence, she doesnt like talking to my friends much.

She has also done extensive research on movements like israel and Palestine and problems with antisemitism in British politics and is far much more tolerant of views regarding issues concerning them. While my clique is radically different and will fight and argue if their views are challenged.

Frankly speaking, my clique did have the image that if people go against them, we turn into bullies which is kinda of true.

Now I find it hard to take my gf to see my friends because she clearly doesnt like them and doesnt enjoy their company.
Also, my ex gf is still in this group and she and our mutual friends dont like my current gf either.

I have suffered from identity issues within this group due to me being coming from a half israelite family. Throughout my time, I have played it safe and showed that I'm very progressive and not very in tune with my israel side.
They know I'm from there but they have liked me since I have shown myself to be an extreme leftist like them.

With my gf, I have definitely felt much relaxed and safer. And for the very first time, I could confide my feelings to her without the fear of annoying her.

What should I do? Is my gf right to dislike them? Should I distance myself from them or is my gf wrong?

Shes 27. I'm 24. People in my clique are around 21-25.
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I ve been with this clique since 2016 to be exact. I knew most of them but we became a proper clique due to the formation of a workers rights society.

Now I admit that my clique is shared the view of the extreme left. Most of them are from quite wealthy families and the view is that only views and opinions which match ours are welcomed. Other views aren't.
They follow movements blindly and support only 1 sided approach.
If you dont agree with them or dont share their views, you are a horrible person.
Nearly all of them LOVE Corbyn (I'm leftist too but I no longer support Corbyn).

The main base of the friendship is workers rights, free palestine, anti israel, how capitalistic and bad the current society is and british politics.

Earlier I was deeply involved in this clique and was dating 1 girl in this group as well.

However, we fell out and I began dating a girl whom I really wanted a relationship with while I was at uni 3 years ago.
Shes not a part of my group and tbh, she doesnt like them AT ALL.

My gf shares very different views than my group. She has liberal views too but tends to give two sided approach to most situations. She supports workers rights and has supported me in all my endeavors but says she cannot form relationships based on these topics nor can talk about politics or workers rights all the time. Hence, she doesnt like talking to my friends much.

She has also done extensive research on movements like israel and Palestine and problems with antisemitism in British politics and is far much more tolerant of views regarding issues concerning them. While my clique is radically different and will fight and argue if their views are challenged.

Frankly speaking, my clique did have the image that if people go against them, we turn into bullies which is kinda of true.

Now I find it hard to take my gf to see my friends because she clearly doesnt like them and doesnt enjoy their company.
Also, my ex gf is still in this group and she and our mutual friends dont like my current gf either.

I have suffered from identity issues within this group due to me being coming from a half israelite family. Throughout my time, I have played it safe and showed that I'm very progressive and not very in tune with my israel side.
They know I'm from there but they have liked me since I have shown myself to be an extreme leftist like them.

With my gf, I have definitely felt much relaxed and safer. And for the very first time, I could confide my feelings to her without the fear of annoying her.

What should I do? Is my gf right to dislike them? Should I distance myself from them or is my gf wrong?

Shes 27. I'm 24. People in my clique are around 21-25.
Let me tell you how this is going to end - badly.

Your group sound a bit pathetic to be honest. They come from wealthy families and are narrow minded in their opinions. Typical champagne socialists - a bit like Harriet Harman (St Pauls Girls, her kids went to grammar schools ) who wanted to pull the selective education rug from beneath the feet of the rest of us hard working people. Also Diane Abbot - who sent her boy to a private school.

Your girlfriend sounds nice, your clique group don't
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What to do? Opinions welcome!
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(Original post by squeakysquirrel)
Let me tell you how this is going to end - badly.

Your group sound a bit pathetic to be honest. They come from wealthy families and are narrow minded in their opinions. Typical champagne socialists - a bit like Harriet Harman (St Pauls Girls, her kids went to grammar schools ) who wanted to pull the selective education rug from beneath the feet of the rest of us hard working people. Also Diane Abbot - who sent her boy to a private school.

Your girlfriend sounds nice, your clique group don't
You think my friendship with them will end badly?

Yeah that's right. A guy in my group has a dad who is an OBE but he's always yelling about capitalism.

My gf hates them to be exact .
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You think my friendship with them will end badly?

Yeah that's right. A guy in my group has a dad who is an OBE but he's always yelling about capitalism.

My gf hates them to be exact .
No I think the relationship with the girlfriend will end. She is the sensible one - you are hanging around with hypocrites. By your own words - she can see two sides to every situation
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No I think the relationship with the girlfriend will end. She is the sensible one - you are hanging around with hypocrites. By your own words - she can see two sides to every situation
No I will not leave her.

She doesn't like them so I'm asking what to do.
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In the scenario you've outlined, I wouldn't decribe them as a clique. I'd describe them as a cult.

People with differing political opinions to them would regard them as a group of brainwashed sheep.
The people within the group have a siege mentality when it comes to anyone with differing viewpoints to them.

I think the solution is simple. Leave the group. Spend time with your girlfriend instead. Include her friends in your social circle. Pick up new friends as you meet people in real life.

Now would be a great time for you to leave the group on a non girlfriend pretext. Simply say that following the election you now see Corbyn as a busted flush and you still believe that the Labour party is the only serious contender for a future alternative government to the Conservatives. And that the group's flavour of politics is never going to win a UK election. So the pragmatic route that you're taking is to support a more centreist type Labour party. It doesn't matter if you believe this or not. It just gives you an easy way to extract yourself from this group in an as harmonious way as possible. IE that you are (or pretend to) respect and admire their idealism, but that you have chosen a pragmatic path.

My personal view is that your girlfriend is showing a huge amount of wisdom on this. And that you should follow her advice on this. I would have thought that following her advice would be the easist thing in the world for any independent thinking adult.
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No I will not leave her.

She doesn't like them so I'm asking what to do.
Who do you prefer - them or her. That will be the choice for you. Quite frankly your clique sound hideous
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In the scenario you've outlined, I wouldn't decribe them as a clique. I'd describe them as a cult.

People with differing political opinions to them would regard them as a group of brainwashed sheep.
The people within the group have a siege mentality when it comes to anyone with differing viewpoints to them.

I think the solution is simple. Leave the group. Spend time with your girlfriend instead. Include her friends in your social circle. Pick up new friends as you meet people in real life.

Now would be a great time for you to leave the group on a non girlfriend pretext. Simply say that following the election you now see Corbyn as a busted flush and you still believe that the Labour party is the only serious contender for a future alternative government to the Conservatives. And that the group's flavour of politics is never going to win a UK election. So the pragmatic route that you're taking is to support a more centreist type Labour party. It doesn't matter if you believe this or not. It just gives you an easy way to extract yourself from this group in an as harmonious way as possible. IE that you are (or pretend to) respect and admire their idealism, but that you have chosen a pragmatic path.

My personal view is that your girlfriend is showing a huge amount of wisdom on this. And that you should follow her advice on this. I would have thought that following her advice would be the easist thing in the world for any independent thinking adult.
Thanks a lot for your input.

Even when my gf showed me many sources which proved the wrong things they believe or the 1 sided approached, and I tried telling them, they didnt really like what they said.

My ex gf is in this clique and I made the stupid mistake to date her only because she was a familiar face and I thought with my **** than my head.
I'm sure shes always spewing **** about my now gf too.

I'm in the group chat on Whatsapp with this group and initially, I added my gf in the group. But later on, I found out that my ex gf and another girl who was my ex FWB asked the admin of this group to remove her.
The guy removed her which resulted in me getting into an argument and leaving the group as well

They keep re-adding me but I dont want to.
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Who do you prefer - them or her. That will be the choice for you. Quite frankly your clique sound hideous
Obviously her.. I really liked her before and now I'm just in love.
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Who do you prefer - them or her. That will be the choice for you. Quite frankly your clique sound hideous
If she considers them as her enemies then will it be fair?
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You think my friendship with them will end badly?

Yeah that's right. A guy in my group has a dad who is an OBE but he's always yelling about capitalism.

My gf hates them to be exact .
Er ... an OBE is not solely given to capitalists - even poor people get them. Sometimes even unemployed people get an award

Your belief in this shows how immature you really are
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Er ... an OBE is not solely given to capitalists - even poor people get them. Sometimes even unemployed people get an award

Your belief in this shows how immature you really are
I'm not saying he's a capitalist. I'm saying his dad has an award but he's not poor. He's from a wealthy family .
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Thanks a lot for your input.

Even when my gf showed me many sources which proved the wrong things they believe or the 1 sided approached, and I tried telling them, they didnt really like what they said.

My ex gf is in this clique and I made the stupid mistake to date her only because she was a familiar face and I thought with my **** than my head.
I'm sure shes always spewing **** about my now gf too.

I'm in the group chat on Whatsapp with this group and initially, I added my gf in the group. But later on, I found out that my ex gf and another girl who was my ex FWB asked the admin of this group to remove her.
The guy removed her which resulted in me getting into an argument and leaving the group as well

They keep re-adding me but I dont want to.
You could stop using that whatsapp account. Just get a new account and don't tell anyone in the group what it is. Or just stop using whatsapp. It's not like you need whatsapp to live or anything.
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You could stop using that whatsapp account. Just get a new account and don't tell anyone in the group what it is. Or just stop using whatsapp. It's not like you need whatsapp to live or anything.
Yeah I have muted the notifications and blocked my ex gf and ex FWB.
I only use it to talk to my family and my gf whenever we are at work/uni.

Also what do you think between my clique and gf?
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In the scenario you've outlined, I wouldn't decribe them as a clique. I'd describe them as a cult.

People with differing political opinions to them would regard them as a group of brainwashed sheep.
The people within the group have a siege mentality when it comes to anyone with differing viewpoints to them.

I think the solution is simple. Leave the group. Spend time with your girlfriend instead. Include her friends in your social circle. Pick up new friends as you meet people in real life.

Now would be a great time for you to leave the group on a non girlfriend pretext. Simply say that following the election you now see Corbyn as a busted flush and you still believe that the Labour party is the only serious contender for a future alternative government to the Conservatives. And that the group's flavour of politics is never going to win a UK election. So the pragmatic route that you're taking is to support a more centreist type Labour party. It doesn't matter if you believe this or not. It just gives you an easy way to extract yourself from this group in an as harmonious way as possible. IE that you are (or pretend to) respect and admire their idealism, but that you have chosen a pragmatic path.

My personal view is that your girlfriend is showing a huge amount of wisdom on this. And that you should follow her advice on this. I would have thought that following her advice would be the easist thing in the world for any independent thinking adult.
I mean if my gf considers these guys as her enemies or borderline enemies then is she accurate? Or if the group consider her as enemy then are they right? Or shes right?
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Is this for real? A clique is for school perhaps, but by your mid-twenties? Never mind the adoration of Jeremy Corbyn, who has 'led' the Labour Party to their biggest defeat since 1935.
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Is this for real? A clique is for school perhaps, but by your mid-twenties? Never mind the adoration of Jeremy Corbyn, who has 'led' the Labour Party to their biggest defeat since 1935.
Unfortunately it is. What do you think about them and my gf?
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I mean if my gf considers these guys as her enemies or borderline enemies then is she accurate? Or if the group consider her as enemy then are they right? Or shes right?
Your girlfriend is 100% right when she says that you never should have gotten involved with this cult in the first place.
She's 100% right when she says that you should have nothing further to do with them.
She's 100% right when she says that she wants nothing at all to do with them.

This cult is 100% wrong when they fail to tolerate people with differing political views to them and use that as a basis on which to decide whether to have them as a friend or not.
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Your girlfriend is 100% right when she says that you never should have gotten involved with this cult in the first place.
She's 100% right when she says that you should have nothing further to do with them.
She's 100% right when she says that she wants nothing at all to do with them.

This cult is 100% wrong when they fail to tolerate people with differing political views to them and use that as a basis on which to decide whether to have them as a friend or not.
They take everything to politics. If you ask them do you like football then they will say I don't watch it or I like it but I dont like nationalism.

They have a history of forming hard picket lines and refusing to let people enter the college campus, asking people to go to other universities as they won't let students enter
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