Depressed about this girl

anon for obvious reasons..please keep it that way!
Ok..2 years ago...when I was in year 11..this girl started in the year above at sixth form

The most stunning girl ever..she could have who she wanted.....

A few months into the year she started staring at me at every opportunity....
Then she started randomly smiling and sayin hi and it escalated into lots of conversations....
She showed loadsa interest....always complimented me on clothes...once said "ive heard ur good at hockey...so i said yeh im ok.....u into hockey...so she said no but i love watching it".....
She had an on/off boyfriend (who beat her and stuff)..but she didnt know I knew all this and this -along with the fact that I was intimidated by her caused me to never ask her out . If anything i think it drove her crazy cos i was the only one in the school who didnt! .....but on a serious note....she showed lots of interest but it never materialised...

I saw her six months ago when I bumped into her and she said something like "see you later" as I was leaving...then she said " when will I be seeing you next...and i just said dunno really and smiled so she said oh well..see you whenever eh and went off".......

She added me on facebook a few months back and shes got a new boyfriend...
I saw her out friday night at a local bar....and cos I didnt want any past memories comin back and I knew she had a guy (who wasnt there)..I decided I would avoid her..
She was there with a fairly decent school friend (girl) and when she saw me I saw her repeatedly stare and say sometihng to my friend...I just avoided eye contact..
Then later on at the bar I saw her and my friend walk past....and my friend kinda squeezed my neck and said hi as she walked past...where I turned around and kinda ignored them both ...and in all honesty ..she half smiled at best but ignored me too..

Before I left I was standing and texting a friend when she walked past and I noticed her look atme but again I avoided eye contact and saw her look at me and then just walk off

Firstly...the girl friend she was with never came and said hi properly..which she usually always does and this annoyed me..

Secondly..she used to show so much interest before....she would always come approach me and I was an idiot but friday night she looked at me fair enough..but she never bothered smiling (not that i made eye contact) or coming over and saying hi....why was this??..could I be losing it?

It brought back old memories today and if anything I still wanna get her......being ignored by her kinda hurt...well actually it hurt a lot

Any advice..suggestions welcome..sorry about the essay people :s-smilie:

Reply 1

Epic Win

15

it could be worse to be fair, you could have been with her and then never gotten over her, it would hurt a lot more seeing her and being ignored by her then...

Reply 2

MSB

17

I'm so proud of myself for working my way through all that.

Anyway, it's odd that you should be upset at her ignoring you when you've pretty much been doing that to her for the last two years.

Reply 3

Mcjazz

1

Yeah you've been ignoring her it can only be expected that she's not gonna keep pursuing you when you don't seem to express any interest.

Reply 4

Anonymous #1

OP

MSB

I'm so proud of myself for working my way through all that.

Anyway, it's odd that you should be upset at her ignoring you when you've pretty much been doing that to her for the last two years.

Firstly thanks mate..
Secondly...it was all unintentional..I didnt mean too..
If anything Im ready to make it up now........would she still be interested if things with her boyfriend dont work..
I just thnk im never gonna have her now and i feel really empty

Reply 5

Swifter

If you was avoiding eye contact at first she may have felt you was trying to avoid her anso reacted negatively by thinking maybe you don't like her, hence she didn't smile..

If you want my advice, ring her and give it a shot. You say you feel depressed now anyway so whats the worst that could happen.

Reply 6

MSB

17

Anonymous

Firstly thanks mate..
Secondly...it was all unintentional..I didnt mean too..
If anything Im ready to make it up now........would she still be interested if things with her boyfriend dont work..
I just thnk im never gonna have her now and i feel really empty

You may have missed your chance, I suppose, but there's no reason why you can't make an effort. It'd be a waste of time only if you didn't learn from your mistake and try to change things

Reply 7

Anonymous #1

OP

Swifter

If you was avoiding eye contact at first she may have felt you was trying to avoid her anso reacted negatively by thinking maybe you don't like her, hence she didn't smile..

If you want my advice, ring her and give it a shot. You say you feel depressed now anyway so whats the worst that could happen.

DAMN U !!..
I just hope ur right mate...i never looked at that way...
I defo intrigued her..she defo stared..
I just hope she tohught i was ignoring her so stayed outof my way cos of that......

please please be right.............

Reply 8

Leigh.

12

My advice is, if she has a boyfriend leave it and go for another girl.

Reply 9

xBillyBrownx

14

She can't keep smiling at you and showing interest when you're not even looking at her.

Reply 10

xemilyx

2

It seems like you ignored her when she might have needed you most. She's probably been hurt here too, and i agree with the other post saying that maybe she didn't smile because you were giving off such negative vibes. Also, you friend might not have greeted you in the usual way because she was aware of the awkwardness between you and the other girl

she has a boyfriend

Well if you have been ignoring her for so long you would have hurt her feelings and she is probably not into you as much and also has a boyfriend.

You will never get what you want if you dont chase it.

Reply 13

Anonymous #1

OP

xemilyx

It seems like you ignored her when she might have needed you most. She's probably been hurt here too, and i agree with the other post saying that maybe she didn't smile because you were giving off such negative vibes. Also, you friend might not have greeted you in the usual way because she was aware of the awkwardness between you and the other girl

By giving negative vibes do u mean I gave them tonight?/

Cant disagree there...still thought shed say hi tbh

Reply 14

cadaeibfeceh

17

Anonymous

Firstly thanks mate..
Secondly...it was all unintentional..I didnt mean too..
If anything Im ready to make it up now........would she still be interested if things with her boyfriend dont work..
I just thnk im never gonna have her now and i feel really empty

Well you'll only find out if you go for it - get off your ass and do something ffs

Reply 15

Mastermind`

17

What a timewaster. The ball (let's say this girl was a ball) was coming to you but you didn't try and control it, you just let it go past. You could have at least controlled it and if you thought she wasn't up to your standard you could have passed it (to some other guy) but nah you didn't. Now you'll never know until her boyfriend passes the ball again and the ball may never come to you again. The ball doesn't even seem interested. It's a flat ball.

Reply 16

Yasmin2K8

Mastermind`

What a timewaster. The ball (let's say this girl was a ball) was coming to you but you didn't try and control it, you just let it go past. You could have at least controlled it and if you thought she wasn't up to your standard you could have passed it (to some other guy) but nah you didn't. Now you'll never know until her boyfriend passes the ball again and the ball may never come to you again. The ball doesn't even seem interested. It's a flat ball.

Or you could say if this was at Wimbledon the ball was 'in his court' and he had every opportunity to 'hit it' but he didnt and let it pass. So it was 3 sets to nil and thus game over.

OP its hard but you have to accept you made the regretful mistake of not going after her when she showed interest and now you have hurt her feelings by ignoring her and she may not know how much your into her.

Reply 17

Rei

14

Yasmin2K8

Or you could say if this was at Wimbledon the ball was 'in his court' and he had every opportunity to 'hit it' but he didnt and let it pass. So it was 3 sets to nil and thus game over.

OP its hard but you made the regretful mistake of not going after her when she showed interest and now you have hurt her feelings by ignoring her and she may not know how much your into her.

Damn that was nerdy... :biggrin:

Reply 18

Swifter

Yasmin2K8

Or you could say if this was at Wimbledon the ball was 'in his court' and he had every opportunity to 'hit it' but he didnt and let it pass. So it was 3 sets to nil and thus game over.

Reply 19

ferg_ie

1

i think you should grow a 'set' and next time you see her, aproach her and fingers crossed...

or perhaps, she was just being polite the whole time during school because you were constantly druling over her?

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