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    Well theres this girl i really like but im going to go uni/armed forces in 2 months so its like ARGH

    shes told me she like likes me and all that but doesnt wanna get hurt when i bugger off in a couple of months

    anyway i can change her mind!
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    (Original post by Ilora-Danon)
    What's your question?
    anyway i can change her mind?
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    Could you prove to her somehow that you feel strongly about her and are willing to make her a long term commitment in your life (if you do feel that way)?

    Proposing might work
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    Tbh, it's not exactly fair on her though is it? She's made the decision because she knows she'll get too attached and she'll get hurt.

    If you like her so much, why would you want to hurt her? You're leaving in 2 months, it's an inevitability. It's also an inevitability that she'll get hurt in the process.
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    You have two choices really.
    You can offer her a bit of fun for the 2 months that are coming up or promise that you would be willing to commit to her long distance.

    Whatever you say, don't lie though be honest with her about what you really want.
    There is a good chance that you could get hurt too, so just reassure her that you are both in the same position and you will do your best to make sure things end on good terms.
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    Being in an LDR I know it's difficult with the distance, but it does work. Obviously if you go to uni it'll be easier to visit each other, but plenty of people manage relationships where one partner is in the armed forces. But I can understand her reservations about knowing it's inevitable... But I got with my boyfriend knowing that it would be an LDR from the beginning

    At the end of the day, you may not be able to change her mind, but it can (and does) work
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    do you want a long term relationship, or are you in it for a bit of fun before you go away?
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    If you're not planning to stay with her at uni anyway, then it's for the best all round if you don't go out with her now.
    And it's only two months away... although I'll probably get negged and shouted down for saying this, from what I've seen, the shorter a relationship before it becomes long distance, the less likely it is to last anyway.
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    Probably not.
 
 
 
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