Being in a lower ranking university is making me depressed Watch

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I am currently in a non-russell group, average university while most of my friends made it to top unis in London. How do I stop comparing myself and feeling bad about the fact I'm in a ****ty uni? What makes it worse is that I know they are not academically smarter than me. During exams, I had a lot of personal things going on and I didn't score as well as I hoped to. To make things worse, everyone on my course seems as dumb as a brick and I just feel so out of place. Also, with a degree from this uni, I feel doomed for any future employment as I cannot compete with students from higher-ranking universities. I am even too ashamed to tell people where I study. How do I get out of this mindset?
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Depends what course you’re on
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Honestly? I'd try slapping myself a few times to try and get some of the entitlement out, this is one of those problems that's only solved from within.
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If people stopped caring about status the world would be a better place.
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the vast majority of students graduate from average unis, and your degree tbh is just a small part of your resume and doesn't qualify you for a job. if you depend on your degree and your uni's ranking, you will be sorely disappointed and probably unemployed.

that said, is your uni average or below average? surely if it's average, like most people's, then you wouldn't be ashamed cuz you'd be just like everyone else.
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What university?
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What matters is how well you do at your uni and what you do with it. Uni isn't the end goal, it's just one step on a never ending road. You might not have taken the best step this time, but that doesn't mean your whole journey will be bad. I think you problem here probably goes further than this uni things specifically though.

Sounds like you might be feeling generally insecure/ anxious/ under pressure. I would suggest having a talk with your unis student support and asking if you would be able to see somebody to help work through some stuff like this. You'll be able to talk more about your own situations, explore your feelings etc. You can also self refer for counselling on the NHS or talk to your GP.

If you really feel unhappy at this uni and think it is specifically because of the uni and you still wouldn't be happy even if you weren't having issues within yourself the you could talk to student support about changing uni or course. I wasn't happy at my first uni. It wasn't quite what I had been expecting and I wasn't as interested in that topic as I had been at college. The uni itself also wasn't a great fit for me. I ended up taking a year out then going to a different uni to do a different course. That went a lot better for me and I'm glad I made that choice. Sometimes it's a good idea to take a step back, realise you've taken a wrong turn and try to find a better path. It might take a bit longer or not be what you expected, but it can end up working out better for you.

When you get back after Christmas I would email or visit student support and ask to talk with simebody. You can discuss with them where you think this unhappiness is coming from and what could help. Remember this is your life. It doesn't matter what anyone else is doing or thinks your should be doing. What matters is what's right for you. It's okay to take a different route to what's expected or seen as best.
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(Original post by Anonymous)
I am currently in a non-russell group, average university while most of my friends made it to top unis in London. How do I stop comparing myself and feeling bad about the fact I'm in a ****ty uni? What makes it worse is that I know they are not academically smarter than me. During exams, I had a lot of personal things going on and I didn't score as well as I hoped to. To make things worse, everyone on my course seems as dumb as a brick and I just feel so out of place. Also, with a degree from this uni, I feel doomed for any future employment as I cannot compete with students from higher-ranking universities. I am even too ashamed to tell people where I study. How do I get out of this mindset?
I studied at UCL myself, if I could go back I would have gone, Anglia Ruskin or Liverpool Uni ideally
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in this modern society, almost everyone is obsessed with status symbols.

it is the end result that matters. Achieving First class honours degree is a much better target. Than thinking about being in a lower ranking university.

personally i have studied at 4 universities. and each university is in a good ranking And I had fun. At every one of them. And my grade : very good.

It is about enjoying the time at university. And getting First class honours degree. that matters.
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Worst comes to worst you can try really hard in the next semester and aim to try to transfer to a uni you prefer
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rankings don't matter, what does matter is what you achieve in that so called "low-ranked uni".
sweet lie
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(Original post by williamho)
in this modern society, almost everyone is obsessed with status symbols.

it is the end result that matters. Achieving First class honours degree is a much better target. Than thinking about being in a lower ranking university.

personally i have studied at 4 universities. and each university is in a good ranking And I had fun. At every one of them. And my grade : very good.

It is about enjoying the time at university. And getting First class honours degree. that matters.
4 degrees at UK universities, and you still can't capitalise, punctuate or build sentences properly?

Thanks Blair.
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Matters more about what you're studying than your university ranking
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Do not pay attention to it. There are many examples when, after poor performance at school, a person became a millionaire.
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Cope thread
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if u think so. just goes to show what your mindset is like
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Uni ranking means **** all. More important to be active in uni with respect to your studying, work experience and extra-curriculars.
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I went picked a 'lower ranked' university over a higher one, and I genuinely think I wouldn't've had as good a time at the 'better' university. If you apply yourself and take up opportunities, there's nothing stopping you from doing well, in the vast majority of cases.
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*rolls eyes to infinity and beyond*
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I am currently in a non-russell group, average university while most of my friends made it to top unis in London. How do I stop comparing myself and feeling bad about the fact I'm in a ****ty uni? What makes it worse is that I know they are not academically smarter than me. During exams, I had a lot of personal things going on and I didn't score as well as I hoped to. To make things worse, everyone on my course seems as dumb as a brick and I just feel so out of place. Also, with a degree from this uni, I feel doomed for any future employment as I cannot compete with students from higher-ranking universities. I am even too ashamed to tell people where I study. How do I get out of this mindset?
I'm the exact same, am at a middle ranked former poly after A level results not going as I wanted and was hoping to be at a much higher ranked uni. Best thing is probably get as much work experience as possible and try your hardest to get a first if you can. This way you'll stand out more to employers. Also maybe consider doing a masters at a higher ranked uni, this is what I'm planning to do so hopefully It works out I'm just not prepared to transfer uni tbh.
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