Extremely overprotective mum ruining my lifeWatch
I come from a single mother household and I have 4 siblings whom I live with. My mum had me when she was 16. She was always physically/mentally abusive to me as a child. However now that I’m older it’s basically only mental abuse.
I’m not allowed to go anywhere except for work and uni. I get paid on the last Friday of every month and she tells me to send the money I make to her bank account and she gives me £20 every week to use for transport, lunch and whatnot.
As my phone number is part of her contract she looks at every number I call/text and at the end of every week she asks me who I called/texted and what it was for.
She goes through all the pictures on my phone - one time I had a rude meme and she made me explain it to her then she took away my phone for 24 hours.
In the summer time I have to cover my legs (it’s not a religious or cultural thing, she just won’t let me show them). Even when it’s a heatwave.
She never cooks either, she always buys freezer food and I hate it. I don’t have enough money or freedom to go Asda and get things to cook. I want to stay healthy so the best thing I can do right now is get off my bus early and walk (which is not nice in this weather).
The first and last time I went out with my friends she made me leave my live location on Whatsapp and she kept video calling to see me with my friends. She kept texting/calling me to point that I had to run to the toilets to cry. I was so embarrassed.
Whenever I ask her for some of my money to buy something nice I see online she’s always like “don’t be stupid, you don’t need that”.
I really wanted to stay in the uni dorms or a rented place but she said no. She said I’m only allowed to do what I want when I have a proper career (I want to be a barrister).
I have relatives that live a few miles away. I’m thinking on January the 1st to just run away to them and completely cut my mum out of my life. I wanted to do that before but all my siblings are younger than me and I love them, they love me, they mean the world to me and I’ll miss them so much (she’s not here at the moment, so I’m watching them).
However I will be 20 soon and I just honestly can’t see myself living like this any longer.