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Finally asked her out

I told a girl that I'm in love with her whilst we were having lunch together but she said she need's time to think. Is this just prolonged rejection? I'm thinking that she just doesn't know how to tell me that she doesn't feel the same way.

Help :frown:

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Reply 1

sdt

No it isn't but by mentioning the word "love" you have ended up displaying yourself as a needy ****.

Reply 2

Greatleysteg

Smooth move. She's probably half way through a pile of school prospectuses now.

Reply 3

Desperate Prayer

Its not usually a good idea to say love too early, most people will misinterpret what you meant (even if you did mean it in a slightly more casual sense)
I need time to think is never usually a good reaction in my experience, but you can hope :redface:

Reply 4

Rob500

I personally would have been more laid back about it and said something like 'fancy going out sometime'. There's a possibility she might have been a bit thrown by it.

Reply 5

Redemption

sdt

No it isn't but by mentioning the word "love" you have ended up displaying yourself as a needy ****.

ZING.

Stupid girls on this forum give guys the idea that just going up to the girl that they've been friends with for the last few years that bangs all of the guys who are bad for her and admitting love will win her heart instantly like bam.

What do you think she's going to say when she comes back? $10 on Full Tilt says it's "We're just too good friends/I don't see you in that way".

Reply 6

juicyfruit

Sounds a bit full on dude.

Reply 7

steelmole

Yeah, you messed this one up, but it's ok, as long as you learn from it then it's not a waste.

Don't just tell girls you like/love them, it doesn't help. You gotta be fun, interesting and then make a move on them. It takes practice, if you're willing to learn from this and take a leap then you'll get there.

Reply 8

Danielle89

what EXACTLY did you say to her?

Would have been best to ask her if she wanted to go see a movie or go for drinks rather than declaring your love for her...

Reply 9

DeepStar

Greatleysteg

Smooth move. She's probably half way through a pile of school prospectuses now.

Haha most likely!

Reply 10

mr-breaker

Redemption

What do you think she's going to say when she comes back? $10 on Full Tilt says it's "We're just too good friends/I don't see you in that way".

I'll take that bet......

1/5 (or 1.2 in decimal odds if you must) says she's fake tanking and that she's already said no in her head. She's just waiting for a better spot :p:

Reply 11

IB-Seed

You haven't even gone out with her and you told her you love her? haha, rookie move. It's called a crush, not love.

Reply 12

theredsox

Yeah, mentioning the whole love thing wasn't a smooth move.
Think you might have lost this one, dude. I'm sorry.

Reply 13

ASASASASASASASASASASASASA

sorry bad idea saying you love her, far too strong

WOW you ****ed up.

Redemption

What do you think she's going to say when she comes back? $10 on Full Tilt says it's "We're just too good friends/I don't see you in that way".

Think I'll take the bet as well, "I'll think about it" usually means no and "Just friends" often means "no longer friends either".

Reply 16

katkit

Seriously though, hon, you should NEVER use the word "love" when you ask a girl out.

Yes, girls love romance.

But no, girls DON'T like pressure.

Hell, sweetie, you've probably messed that up.

Reply 17

Rei

katkit

Seriously though, hon, you should NEVER use the word "love" when you ask a girl out.

Yes, girls love romance.

But no, girls DON'T like pressure.

Hell, sweetie, you've probably messed that up.

WOW He REALLY ****ed up. :yep:

Reply 18

katkit

*smiles*

The best thing you can do is wait. And if/when she comes back to you, regardless of her answer, apologise for being so intense.

Reply 19

Melting Sugar.

rejection? you MIGHT have been better asking her out first before you jumped the gun a bit with the whole love thing :/ HOWEVER its not a definate rejection, she was probably just a little stunned and needs time to think as shes worried that if she doesn't feel as strong towards you then you'll be crushed. Just wait things out and see what she says, but be prepared for a realistic answer.

edit: my advise is you call her up and apologise for the whole 'love' business blaming it on the food/drink :rolleyes:

but explain that you do have strong feelings for her and would like to take her out sometime (then if she says no it wasn't meant to be, but she won't be as freaked out)