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    Ok.. The situation is that I'm going to uni in september after 2 gap years..

    All my closest friends from when I was at school are now living permanently in their university towns (a long, long way away), so I rarely get to see them. Basically no-one where I live to go out with, hardly even anyone to go for a pint with.

    I'm single, so no interaction with any friends of any girlfriend, I've been travelling for a lot of the time which seems to have ultimately isolated me from everything that's happened back at home..

    I'm unemployed (through choice, but I don't need a job and don't particularly want to work over the summer.

    I must admit that the situation is starting to get a little depressing, at the moment I can only see myself sitting on my computer and going to the gym.. all summer.

    Ideas people? Not really liking the idea of a lonely summer.
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    To be honest I think the best way would be to get a job even though you've said you dont want one. And surely if you dont have anything to due and are being driven mad by boredom, then surely a job would make time pass more quickly?
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    Well. I'll de-anon myself.

    Loneliness isn't something to be proud of?
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    Join some sort of club or get a job really.
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    (Original post by vaseand)
    Join some sort of club or get a job really.
    Some sort of club? I swear that's only really applicable for university otherwise I'm limited to doing things such as learning to play bridge with recently retired women who don't know what to do with their new freedom?

    And a Job.. Who will employ me for only 2 months? (and the last thing I want to do is temp admin work).. And I have enough in the bank to be in a situation where I don't need to worry too much..

    Are there no other options?
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    I live in Bristol too!

    Anyway...voluntary work? e.g. http://www.vinspired.com/

    Why don't you want to do admin work? You could earn loads of money to spend on whatever you want with the amount of time you have. You could also try job centre online, I think there are loads of places which offer work for 8-13 weeks.
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    I'm in exactly the same situation funnily enough. Except I have the added bonus of a language barrier, living in Spain. My spanish is decent enough, but conversation can be VERY tricky when the locals start the verbal diarrhea.
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    Travel.
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    I think getting a job is a good idea. Even a part time one... You meet people, make money (I hear money is ALWAYS good when you're a student ) and then go to the gym after work... You could take up a sport - football, rugby, a martial art etc to meet people as well. Don't waste your summer on the net!!

    edit: Travel is a good idea too if you can afford it.
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    (Original post by zep90)

    Why don't you want to do admin work? You could earn loads of money to spend on whatever you want with the amount of time you have. You could also try job centre online, I think there are loads of places which offer work for 8-13 weeks.
    I'd probably be doing no more than stuffing envelopes.. I've recently quit the job I did have, where I was making exceptionately good money...because I don't want to work before uni.
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    What I've done is join the facebook freshers group for my uni. That way I've been able to meet quite a few people, including some who will be on my course. I talk to a couple of them pretty regularly on msn and have even arranged to meet up with one of them soon so maybe you could try that since you say you're also starting uni in septmeber.
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    But what they're saying is...the job could provide you with some social interactions, and hence, you can meet new people....over the....you've got it...summer...
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    I felt half sorry for you until:

    I'm limited to doing things such as learning to play bridge
    *sigh*... Bridge is a great game and not just retired folk play it. Lol. I'm 18 and far from retired (although I really want one of those electric scooter things ... but that's another story... shhh! Lol).

    Suggestions? Get yourself out and about. Might be difficult to get a job now... could start volunteering maybe? Get in touch with any old friends in your area that you can - you never know might help you find yourself a group of friends to socialise with . A difficult one really.
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    A standard job isn't a great idea... you aren't necessarily likely to be around interesting people of your own age.

    Charity work might fare a little better - maybe there's some charity programmes running in your local area helping... I don't know, look after disabled kids or something. Might be a rewarding way to spend your time and there might be more people your age around?

    If there's a youth club around, try that?

    You mentioned the gym - can't you try talking to people there? If it's a full sports centre you go to then you could try and find some random person your age and ask if they want to play some badminton/squash/tennis or whatever you're into.

    On a sunny day, go to a local park and try and strike up a conversation with people?

    Could be quite fun
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    (Original post by Anonymous)
    Ok.. The situation is that I'm going to uni in september after 2 gap years..

    All my closest friends from when I was at school are now living permanently in their university towns (a long, long way away), so I rarely get to see them. Basically no-one where I live to go out with, hardly even anyone to go for a pint with.

    I'm single, so no interaction with any friends of any girlfriend, I've been travelling for a lot of the time which seems to have ultimately isolated me from everything that's happened back at home..

    I'm unemployed (through choice, but I don't need a job and don't particularly want to work over the summer.

    I must admit that the situation is starting to get a little depressing, at the moment I can only see myself sitting on my computer and going to the gym.. all summer.

    Ideas people? Not really liking the idea of a lonely summer.
    just do loads of TSR PMing...that's how I met my gf lol :p:
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    hey I kno you don't want to work but this is a good idea, apply to a temp agency that handles recruitment of waiters, barstaff ect. such as reed hospitality. This way you will work when you want and for how long you want. They send you off to loads of different places such as racecourses golf clubs and hotels where you meet people so many new ppl. I'v been doing it for a month now and I love it the job is quick to learn and I'v made loads of friends its good pay and usually only 1 to 4days a week. I also worked at girls aloud concert yday and although I'm not a massive fan it was such a fun night.
 
 
 
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