was i groomed when i was younger?

i had just turned 17 years old (and im F) when i had met a 50 year old man online on a pornsite. granted that i was meant to be 18 to have an account, he messaged me and started talking to me, and i instantly made him aware that i was 17.

quickly, he asked me for my kik, and we started talking from there, and sexted the first night. from then onwards, we spoke regularly for about 9 months - i was in a really vulnerable position at the time, feeling very lonely and depressed during my last year of a levels. he acted as a mentor and a dominant, persistent figure and we would talk everyday. he would give advice, understanding, and attention. and the conversation was also sexual everyday, and he would demand pictures from me.

when i wanted to stop talking to him, i did stop talking to him. there were times when i stopped talking to him for a month, but then he'd always message me again. eventually, we had been talking for so long, and i felt like i owed him sex because he had given me emotional support for so long. he eluded to the idea that if i do not meet up with him, he'd stop talking to me.

so, after i turned 18 (even though i know the legal age is 16 in the UK), i met up with him a few times, and sexual acts like oral took place. he wanted to have sex with me but it wasn't going to happen because i wasn't turned on.

now that i'm older (turning 20), i am just wondering. was i taken advantage of? i know the legal age for sex is 16, but i think him wanting me to send him nudes as a 17 year old is still classed as child pornography. i don't know. i'm thinking about the situation right now and i feel upset by it.

It’s very possible you were groomed despite technically being above the age of consent (and nudes still count as child pornography if you’re below 18). Considering the age gap and your vulnerable state, most would consider it grooming, or at least highly inappropriate. I hope your in a better place now

i had just turned 17 years old (and im F) when i had met a 50 year old man online on a pornsite. granted that i was meant to be 18 to have an account, he messaged me and started talking to me, and i instantly made him aware that i was 17.

quickly, he asked me for my kik, and we started talking from there, and sexted the first night. from then onwards, we spoke regularly for about 9 months - i was in a really vulnerable position at the time, feeling very lonely and depressed during my last year of a levels. he acted as a mentor and a dominant, persistent figure and we would talk everyday. he would give advice, understanding, and attention. and the conversation was also sexual everyday, and he would demand pictures from me.

when i wanted to stop talking to him, i did stop talking to him. there were times when i stopped talking to him for a month, but then he'd always message me again. eventually, we had been talking for so long, and i felt like i owed him sex because he had given me emotional support for so long. he eluded to the idea that if i do not meet up with him, he'd stop talking to me.

so, after i turned 18 (even though i know the legal age is 16 in the UK), i met up with him a few times, and sexual acts like oral took place. he wanted to have sex with me but it wasn't going to happen because i wasn't turned on.

now that i'm older (turning 20), i am just wondering. was i taken advantage of? i know the legal age for sex is 16, but i think him wanting me to send him nudes as a 17 year old is still classed as child pornography. i don't know. i'm thinking about the situation right now and i feel upset by it.

i had just turned 17 years old (and im F) when i had met a 50 year old man online on a pornsite. granted that i was meant to be 18 to have an account, he messaged me and started talking to me, and i instantly made him aware that i was 17.

quickly, he asked me for my kik, and we started talking from there, and sexted the first night. from then onwards, we spoke regularly for about 9 months - i was in a really vulnerable position at the time, feeling very lonely and depressed during my last year of a levels. he acted as a mentor and a dominant, persistent figure and we would talk everyday. he would give advice, understanding, and attention. and the conversation was also sexual everyday, and he would demand pictures from me.

when i wanted to stop talking to him, i did stop talking to him. there were times when i stopped talking to him for a month, but then he'd always message me again. eventually, we had been talking for so long, and i felt like i owed him sex because he had given me emotional support for so long. he eluded to the idea that if i do not meet up with him, he'd stop talking to me.

so, after i turned 18 (even though i know the legal age is 16 in the UK), i met up with him a few times, and sexual acts like oral took place. he wanted to have sex with me but it wasn't going to happen because i wasn't turned on.

now that i'm older (turning 20), i am just wondering. was i taken advantage of? i know the legal age for sex is 16, but i think him wanting me to send him nudes as a 17 year old is still classed as child pornography. i don't know. i'm thinking about the situation right now and i feel upset by it.