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Too tight what to do?

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Im not really a virgin, but only kinda had sex twice. But each time it was difficult to get his penis in and then do anything else. I dont know what to do? I can orgasm by myself, but for some reason i get tight when it comes to sex. Its not that im not ready or dont want it, so im not sure what to do. Please provide helpful comments.

thank you
Reply 1
Time will heal?
Reply 2
try to relax a bit...enjoy it and spend more time on foreplay...will get u in the mood and make it easier :smile:
Reply 3
Maybe you are nervous? - not being able to relax could cause that to happen. It is quite a common thing, have you tried lube?
If I had a nickel for every time :>.<:

But more foreplay definately helps a lot, and try make him not shove it in in one push, and slowly maneuver it in
Reply 5
Did your hymen break?
Reply 6
I'm intrigued as to what you mean by "not really a virgin, but only kinda had sex twice" but that aside, you just need a bit more foreplay as has been said above.
I know you've already said it, but are you absolutely sure you're ready with this person?
Reply 7
take it easy!
Reply 8
Raise more in CO and BTN.........C-bet more, they usually don't ha...

Oh.

Wrong forum :blushing: :embarassed:

Relax.
Foreplay.
Then some more foreplay.

YMMV :yy:
Also, when he goes in and it's too tight either:
a) Sit there for like... 5 minutes until you stretch with it in inside you
b) thrust very very slowly for a while and itll be fine.
Reply 10
Lube it up!
My ex-girlfriend and I often had this problem, and although everyone says so, its most commonly down to nerves. When you're really relaxed, and of course excited, then things become much easier. And yeah, Elondra's advice is also wise!
Make sure your relaxed and point him in the direction of foreplay. Oral sex beforehand will also make penetration easier.

If all else fails, use lube :p:
Reply 13
i heard sitting on a radiator helps :s-smilie:
Reply 14
yeahh, i agree, a bit of lube never did anyone harm
It's probably nerves. Lots of time doing other things (fingers are a good start) and plenty of lube seems to work... it used to be horrendously painful, luckily my boyfriend was patient.
I have the exact same problem, and for some reason the Lube burnt. Like tingled and such :/ I have sensitive skin so that's probably why..? Also, I do alot of foreplay so that can't be the reason? Ugh.