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my parents wont financially support me for my uni.
Are there anything I can do apart from having a part time job.

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You can apply for estrangement and your uni will provide you with more support and shillings
Bursary?
Original post by isrchow
You can apply for estrangement and your uni will provide you with more support and shillings


Pretty sure that that’s for people that have had zero contact with family, not family that won’t help pay. Otherwise most bursary students could apply for that.

Bursaries op?
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Original post by RedGiant
Pretty sure that that’s for people that have had zero contact with family, not family that won’t help pay. Otherwise most bursary students could apply for that.

Bursaries op?


If you explain your situation they’ll be able to help. It’s not limited to having no contact with your family, research and apply
Don't worry. :smile:
I escaped from my parents home before a level result were out and have got through undergrad & postgrads without parental support.
All undergrad students get the tuition fee loan and a basic maintenance loan.
You will probably be offered a student overdraft, credit cards and may be eligible for a uni bursary.
Original post by ArcusF
my parents wont financially support me for my uni.
Are there anything I can do apart from having a part time job.


What do you mean wont support you?
Are you a UK citizen who has resided in the UK for the last 3 years?
Will they let you live at home? Presumably that's London?
Original post by isrchow
It’s not limited to having no contact with your family


Usually it is, hence "estranged".
Original post by RedGiant
Usually it is, hence "estranged".

Nope, explain your situation. Have had many friends do the same & they’ve received more income from student finance.
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Original post by isrchow
If you explain your situation they’ll be able to help. It’s not limited to having no contact with your family, research and apply

my dad said he is not going to give me any financial money for uni because he thinks when you are 18 he doesnt need to support you in any way since you become an adult
Original post by isrchow
Nope, explain your situation. Have had many friends do the same & they’ve received more income from student finance.

https://www.brightknowledge.org/money-housing/student-finance-if-you-are-estranged-from-your-parents

Yes it is. You're confusing "estranged" ("permanently out of contact") with a discretionary/awarded bursary. That isn't the case for the OP, read above.
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Original post by isrchow
Nope, explain your situation. Have had many friends do the same & they’ve received more income from student finance.

my dad said he is not going to give me any financial money for uni because he thinks when you are 18 he doesnt need to support you in any way since you become an adult and idk. part time job would get me £250 a month but that wont be enough for food transport etc
Original post by ArcusF
my dad said he is not going to give me any financial money for uni because he thinks when you are 18 he doesnt need to support you in any way since you become an adult and idk. part time job would get me £250 a month but that wont be enough for food transport etc


Does your uni offer any bursaries? Usually it will, especially if it's in London.
Original post by ArcusF
my dad said he is not going to give me any financial money for uni because he thinks when you are 18 he doesnt need to support you in any way since you become an adult


If they provide their details, depending on the income, youll get more than the basic. Have you explained to them that yes SFE expects them to top up any loan, but its better if they give their details, you get a bit more, and if they choose to not give you a penny, then your still better off than having no details provided.

Noones at a loss if they just give their information.
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Original post by londonmyst
Don't worry. :smile:
I escaped from my parents home before a level result were out and have got through undergrad & postgrads without parental support.
All undergrad students get the tuition fee loan and a basic maintenance loan.
You will probably be offered a student overdraft, credit cards and may be eligible for a uni bursary.

this kinda makes me feel better. Overdraft from current account right?
Also do you mind sharing your story?
Original post by londonmyst
Don't worry. :smile:
I escaped from my parents home before a level result were out and have got through undergrad & postgrads without parental support.
All undergrad students get the tuition fee loan and a basic maintenance loan.
You will probably be offered a student overdraft, credit cards and may be eligible for a uni bursary.

Escaped - that is a loaded word - are you able to explain more - it sounds terrible for you
Original post by ArcusF
this kinda makes me feel better. Overdraft from current account right?
Also do you mind sharing your story?

Yes, overdraft from student current account.
I'm fine with discussing my past, ancestors and why I ended all contact.
I've posted quite a bit about my childhood and life during my teens.
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Original post by londonmyst
Yes, overdraft from student current account.
I'm fine with discussing my past, ancestors and why I ended all contact.
I've posted quite a bit about my childhood and life during my teens.

How did it happen? why did it happen?
Original post by ArcusF
How did it happen? why did it happen?

My parents are revolutionary socialists into class war and a lot of conspiracy theories.
They banned a lot of things, didn't allow me to go out on my own and had a lot of rules about who I was allowed to talk to/be friends with.
My father shouts a lot but has never been violent.
My mother's temper is as fiery as her hair; violence is something of a reflex action.
She grew up in a very religious catholic family where extreme violence was considered normal and children were expected to obey.

I don't agree with my parents lifestyle, values or choice of friends.
I planned to move out as soon as I was 18, had got a uni place and saved up for years to pay for student accommodation costs.
But my mother had other ideas.
She swiped my life savings, told me I would not be allowed to move out for uni or have a student loan and would have to pay rent for my bedroom.
Then made demands about joining her activist groups, campaigning with her friends and gave me an inheritance ultimatum: obey or be disinherited.

I walked out that day, turned up at my then bf's home with a small amount of cash and as many things as I could carry.
I have not set foot in my parents home since I escaped, will never go back and avoid all contact.
Six years, an undergrad and few of postgrads later- my main regret is that I waited so long to leave.
Plus the fact that my life savings and I couldn't leave together. :cry2:
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Original post by squeakysquirrel
Escaped - that is a loaded word - are you able to explain more - it sounds terrible for you

My parents were the students of militant era and haven't changed much over the decades.
Revolutionary trade union socialists at war with the bourgeoisie state, its agents and institutions.
Their lifestyle wasn't suited to bringing up a child, they never expected to have any because doctors told them they wouldn't be able to.
Activism always came first and I was never a fan of most causes, comrades or tactics.
Even as a baby, my earliest memories are being scared of the noise and trying to crawl away.
Totally different values.

I live on my own now and am happy.
I have a great best friend, we met at nursery and have been besties for over 20 years.
She works in India but we speak almost every day and her family in the uk have always welcomed me.

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