Girl 2 is plan B right?

No, same thread.


Have you really never heard the phrase "opposites attract"?

And maybe because of your obsession your being grossly unfair and myopic and actually they have plenty in common.

So?

Are you being deliberately stupid?

So?

Are you being deliberately stupid?

You sound boring and up yourself.

I got bored of trying to talk to you like you're rational human.

You’re up yourself because you’re so full of your own self importance. You have delusions of grandeur. You go on about how important you are within your university, and all the politics you’re involved with. Makes you sound boring.

Pls tell why he cant her back to me but be back to her?

Because he was upset when he couldn't have her as his girlfriend first time round.

He wasn't particularly upset when he broke up with you.

It doesn't matter what you think she deserves. She's got him and that's that!
There is an element of sour grapes in you saying that she doesn't deserve him.

I can usually tell what someone is thinking and feeling when they talk to me face to face. It's called empathy. I think it's a good skill to have. Listening to someone, paying full attention to them and relating to what's going on inside them.
You ex boyfriend also appears to think that this is a good skill to have and may be part of his attraction to Girl B.
It is out of order for you to make the comment "Creepy much?" about this. It's not creepy. It's being an observant, understanding, extroverted human being.

So what if before she couldn't (or didn't?) seduce him or flirt with him? They're having sex now.

She's not very smart? Well she can't be totally dumb or she wouldn't have gotten into (and stayed in) university.
It's incredibly snobbish for you to call her a nobody because she has little interest in politics nor in some Student Union role.
I'd say that's a wise decision on her part. Get on with her degree and her social life and then her job and career ASAP instead of taking a year out as Ents Officer, or Finance Officer or some other minimally paid role.

You don't think she looks sexy or beautiful. But you're a woman!
I've come across quite a few women, including my current girlfriend whose opnion on what makes a woman beautiful to a man differs quite a bit from most men's opinion.

It's very shallow for you to go on about your low cut tops. It would be quite typical of your boyfriend to want a girlfriend that's a saint outside the bedroom and a naughtily sexy woman inside it. Girl B appears to fit the bill in this respect.

Here's a big tip for you:

Love is not a competition for one man. Just because another woman has the man that you used to have, doesn't mean to say that you've lost. It doesn't mean to say that you should try to win him back - like your life is some kind of corny Hollywood movie plot.
No. All it means is that you should go out and get a new boyfriend.

And treat your failures as a learning experience.

I’d say girl 1 was plan B since he broke up with her and then went after girl 2. Then when girl 2 slipped away from him he went back to girl 1 because she was still available.

If girl 2 was plan b then he wouldn’t have bothered pinning after her for a year and instead would have worked more on getting with girl 1 again

Because he was upset when he couldn't have her as his girlfriend first time round.

He wasn't particularly upset when he broke up with you.

It doesn't matter what you think she deserves. She's got him and that's that!
There is an element of sour grapes in you saying that she doesn't deserve him.

I can usually tell what someone is thinking and feeling when they talk to me face to face. It's called empathy. I think it's a good skill to have. Listening to someone, paying full attention to them and relating to what's going on inside them.
You ex boyfriend also appears to think that this is a good skill to have and may be part of his attraction to Girl B.
It is out of order for you to make the comment "Creepy much?" about this. It's not creepy. It's being an observant, understanding, extroverted human being.

So what if before she couldn't (or didn't?) seduce him or flirt with him? They're having sex now.

She's not very smart? Well she can't be totally dumb or she wouldn't have gotten into (and stayed in) university.
It's incredibly snobbish for you to call her a nobody because she has little interest in politics nor in some Student Union role.
I'd say that's a wise decision on her part. Get on with her degree and her social life and then her job and career ASAP instead of taking a year out as Ents Officer, or Finance Officer or some other minimally paid role.

You don't think she looks sexy or beautiful. But you're a woman!
I've come across quite a few women, including my current girlfriend whose opnion on what makes a woman beautiful to a man differs quite a bit from most men's opinion.

It's very shallow for you to go on about your low cut tops. It would be quite typical of your boyfriend to want a girlfriend that's a saint outside the bedroom and a naughtily sexy woman inside it. Girl B appears to fit the bill in this respect.

Here's a big tip for you:

Love is not a competition for one man. Just because another woman has the man that you used to have, doesn't mean to say that you've lost. It doesn't mean to say that you should try to win him back - like your life is some kind of corny Hollywood movie plot.
No. All it means is that you should go out and get a new boyfriend.

And treat your failures as a learning experience.

Because he was upset when he couldn't have her as his girlfriend first time round.

He wasn't particularly upset when he broke up with you.

It doesn't matter what you think she deserves. She's got him and that's that!
There is an element of sour grapes in you saying that she doesn't deserve him.

I can usually tell what someone is thinking and feeling when they talk to me face to face. It's called empathy. I think it's a good skill to have. Listening to someone, paying full attention to them and relating to what's going on inside them.
You ex boyfriend also appears to think that this is a good skill to have and may be part of his attraction to Girl B.
It is out of order for you to make the comment "Creepy much?" about this. It's not creepy. It's being an observant, understanding, extroverted human being.

So what if before she couldn't (or didn't?) seduce him or flirt with him? They're having sex now.

She's not very smart? Well she can't be totally dumb or she wouldn't have gotten into (and stayed in) university.
It's incredibly snobbish for you to call her a nobody because she has little interest in politics nor in some Student Union role.
I'd say that's a wise decision on her part. Get on with her degree and her social life and then her job and career ASAP instead of taking a year out as Ents Officer, or Finance Officer or some other minimally paid role.

You don't think she looks sexy or beautiful. But you're a woman!
I've come across quite a few women, including my current girlfriend whose opnion on what makes a woman beautiful to a man differs quite a bit from most men's opinion.

It's very shallow for you to go on about your low cut tops. It would be quite typical of your boyfriend to want a girlfriend that's a saint outside the bedroom and a naughtily sexy woman inside it. Girl B appears to fit the bill in this respect.

Here's a big tip for you:

Love is not a competition for one man. Just because another woman has the man that you used to have, doesn't mean to say that you've lost. It doesn't mean to say that you should try to win him back - like your life is some kind of corny Hollywood movie plot.
No. All it means is that you should go out and get a new boyfriend.

And treat your failures as a learning experience.

Yes he was upset. Like I know he was very angry, spiteful and hateful towards her. But that doesnt mean he liked her right?

You think academic officers, student reps or sabbatical officers are worthless?

He was upset because he got rejected by a woman that he very much wanted to be his girlfriend.
"Hell hath no fury like a woman (or man in this case) scorned". - William Congreve.

And he certainly like her enough now. Because they are lovers now.

I think that being a sabbatical officer is fine for anyone wanting to prolong their time at uni for a year.
For everyone else it makes more sense to leave uni with their degree ASAP and move onto the next stage of their life ASAP - getting a job, starting their career, starting a business, travelling the world etc etc etc.

I think it's out of order for you to call her a nobody for a perfectly logical decision on her part.
The vast majority of students don't take up roles within the student's union. Are they all nobodies because of this? Of course not.
Are sabbatical officers worthless? No.
Its all about horses for courses. Each person making the decisions that are best for them.




I was calling Girl 2 an extrovert in the original Carl Jung meaning of the term:
Extraversion (also spelled as extroversion[5]) is the state of primarily obtaining gratification from outside oneself.

Introversion is the state of being predominantly interested in one's own mental self.
https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Extraversion_and_introversion

Extroversion as in; focusing on other people and not on oneself.
Her being able to read the thoughts and feelings of others as she talks with them is a HUGE sign that she is extroverted because she's focused on other people and not on herself when doing so.

It's a hugely subjective statement of you to say that she is a dull person.
Even if she is, that could be exactly what your ex boyfriend is looking for. Someone stable to settle down with.

Your statement that you are more like your ex boyfriend than Girl 2 appears to be based on the entirely shallow basis of political views and friendship groups. I bet that if we were to look below the surface at the important factors in 2 people being happy together long term, we'd find that she is more compatible with him than you are.

All of this should be a hugely positive learning experience for you, that will set you up nicely for your next boyfriend - if you think calmly and logically about the whole situation.
Take the positives from all this and move on!