Extremely isolated and alone at uni, need advice Watch
I came to uni thinking this would be the best time of my life and I haven't made even one friend here. I have social anxiety which is why I didn't make friends in first year. I am now starting the second semester of second year I've only been back 3 days and I'm already really depressed. Seeing all these couples about makes me feel like crying since I really want a girlfriend but don't know how to go about getting one. I'm just feeling so alone here I just want a group of friends to talk to and a girlfriend who I love and care about and feels the same with me. I can't have another semester like the last three it is too painful. How do I break out of my shell and meet friends this late into uni?
I've graduated uni so hopefully I can help.
First you have to remember uni is a tough place. You can feel isolated and you are not alone. You could consider contacting your uni wellbeing service for counselling/therapy as a start? Also you are never too late to make friends! Think about study groups, sports, hobbies like art, board games, any interest you have and there will be societies or social media marketing to meet people.
One step at a time as I know it is difficult and easy to put off, but you can do it! I found lectures actually ok to meet people as you just sit next to someone else sitting alone and say hi, do we have coursework, when is our lab project due, comment on the lecturer... anything?! If they ignore you, don't worry and try again next time. Most of the time you may build it up in your head and it's not as bad as you think
Finally, don't try to force getting a girlfriend. I have done this and it doesn't come naturally. Develop a friendship and if you start to feel comfortable, see if you can develop it. I've had similar problems to this as I was scared of commitment and opening myself up to anyone interested in me and I regret it, but I learnt from it
Good luck and this is just advice so no need to take all (or any) of it!
then dont resist any convos with people and watch the friendships flourish
youll be fine, it's all unfolding in the right time x