Feeling Lonely and worrying about friendships at uni. Watch
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What have you done about your recent isolation? Drop a message to one of them in the group and ask if they want to go for lunch. Honestly it is exactly as easy as that. It doesn't need to get philosophical if you just take little actions to reduce the distance. You could even reveal you've been feeling down lately due to not seeing anyone, tbh if they're actually your friends they'll reach out to you and meet up or something if you let them know. I don't think it's worth breaking your heart over disinterested people. But first, you need to figure out if they are or not by doing something.
thank you for your reply. In terms of my recent isolation, I have been trying to keep myself busy to help the loneliness and even have gone back to my home town to escape for a few days. The friendship group in question we used to live together in third and second year but this year we decided to live in two separate houses as there was a lot of us, we had slightly drifted apart but still managed to see each other when we could. however just before Christmas me and the girls went on a night out which was great until we had a druncken falling out which was quite bad, spoke to a couple of the girls straight after but haven't seen them since so I don't really know where I stand. The group have met up since including my housemate but have not invited me but I have met up with other members of the group that weren't on the night out and they seem fine with me. I think its a shame to waste nearly 3 years of friendship but I think they just don't want to be friends with me anymore. Not really sure how to go about it? its also a couple members of the group birthday soon so don't really want to make that awkward for them. let me know your thoughts x
Lets be honest, this idea of getting friends for life from uni is such a load of s*** because its not true for so many people. So if you do end up leaving uni without a group of pals it ain't the end of the world. We go through life gaining and losing friends, it's just at a busy and stressful time for you right now to experience this and that sucks I know. You got to focus on you and do your best in your third year. Even though these other girls sound a bit rubbish you could do as the other posters have said and try and clear the air a bit with them.