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I hate socialising, I hate talking to people but I want friends and wanna have someone to talk to.

I can't explain it well but I'm too "stiff" around people and can't let loose. I'll be travelling to another country with strangers soon so I wanna try have a natural fun conversation with them and be friends with them. I'm already planning to bring cards with me to make things less awkward I suppose.
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so you have like 2 options.

1. dutch courage (alcohol) and yes I am serious thats how I talk to girls

2. Take a deep breath and just start small talk, the other person will think a lot of you for starting conversation and youll be just fine.

in summary just dont over think it and just do it.
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(Original post by Gillzy)
so you have like 2 options.

1. dutch courage (alcohol) and yes I am serious thats how I talk to girls

2. Take a deep breath and just start small talk, the other person will think a lot of you for starting conversation and youll be just fine.

in summary just dont over think it and just do it.
I'm a bit underage for the first one but for the second one I feel like I start off too strong or that sometimes they feel bothered that I'm starting a conversation with them
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fake it until you make it.

Start small talk about the weather
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Same tbh.
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Anonymous #2
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I can only say alcohol because that's the only thing that ever works for me, I become a totally different person with it. But since you're underage I guess you can't :/
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fake it until you make it.

Start small talk about the weather
I can do the first part but defo not the second. I hate doing small talk about the weather since I'm so inexperienced with conversational skills that it becomes a dead conversation.
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(Original post by Anonymous)
I hate socialising, I hate talking to people but I want friends and wanna have someone to talk to.

I can't explain it well but I'm too "stiff" around people and can't let loose. I'll be travelling to another country with strangers soon so I wanna try have a natural fun conversation with them and be friends with them. I'm already planning to bring cards with me to make things less awkward I suppose.
I'm a very sociable person, I make friends with most people I meet. I guess all you have to do is start conversations with a smile on your face and make friendly jokes with them.
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(Original post by Vera Bas)
I'm a very sociable person, I make friends with most people I meet. I guess all you have to do is start conversations with a smile on your face and make friendly jokes with them.
That's the problem. I don't know how to start an interesting conversation, I just dont know what to say. Plus it's like once I start speaking I want to stop and hide somewhere, I just feel so sick talking to people but I dont want to.
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I can do the first part but defo not the second. I hate doing small talk about the weather since I'm so inexperienced with conversational skills that it becomes a dead conversation.
just start by saying god it's cold today or general small talk
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That's the problem. I don't know how to start an interesting conversation, I just dont know what to say. Plus it's like once I start speaking I want to stop and hide somewhere, I just feel so sick talking to people but I dont want to.
start by saying hello, say something about the weather for example then start talking where are you from, what do you work and the conversation will continue about other topics.
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