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ive been sexually active with my boyfriend for almost two years. we're quite young, but our relationship has been consistently fulfilling and we love each other so much. the only problem is sex/sexual activities.
It hurt a lot when I lost my virginity, i was practically crying. i suspect we did something wrong but we still had a lovely time together emotionally.
fast forward two years; sex still hurts initially for like the first minute, the pain gets less painful every time. im not sure if this is normal but this is how it is for me. however i have never ever experienced pleasure during sex. at first it's pain and then it's just numb. all my boyfriend wants is to give me pleasure, we've discussed it extensively over the past two years. it brings his confidence with me down and it makes me feel broken at times. this is not a case of me wanting to appease his ego- i dont lie about feeling pleasure and we're on the same level when it comes to this thing.
we've made sure to do foreplay every single time, which rarely pleasures me either.
is there something we're doing wrong? is it anyone's fault? could this be due to inexperience? someone help! i dont know where else i can get advice from
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I would suggest seeing a doctor, it can be common for some women to feel pain during intercourse, usually it is the muscles reacting which causes the pain. There are steps you can take to help this if this is the case.

Do you feel pleasure during masturbation? Either by hand or sex toy?
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I would suggest seeing a doctor, it can be common for some women to feel pain during intercourse, usually it is the muscles reacting which causes the pain. There are steps you can take to help this if this is the case.

Do you feel pleasure during masturbation? Either by hand or sex toy?
Unfortunately my social anxiety would not let that happen haha, that's why I tuned here. It's usually just a sharp pain, and goes away after a few minutes, so im not sure if its a muscle thing?

I've felt some degree of pleasure in masturbation but nothing to the extent that most media shows. Since my only comparison is the media i cant be sure if im feeling the same as everyone else or if im broken/doing it wrong.
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ive been sexually active with my boyfriend for almost two years. we're quite young, but our relationship has been consistently fulfilling and we love each other so much. the only problem is sex/sexual activities.
It hurt a lot when I lost my virginity, i was practically crying. i suspect we did something wrong but we still had a lovely time together emotionally.
fast forward two years; sex still hurts initially for like the first minute, the pain gets less painful every time. im not sure if this is normal but this is how it is for me. however i have never ever experienced pleasure during sex. at first it's pain and then it's just numb. all my boyfriend wants is to give me pleasure, we've discussed it extensively over the past two years. it brings his confidence wiit must th me down and it makes me feel broken at times. this is not a case of me wanting to appease his ego- i dont lie about feeling pleasure and we're on the same level when it comes to this thing.
we've made sure to do foreplay every single time, which rarely pleasures me either.
is there something we're doing wrong? is it anyone's fault? could this be due to inexperience? someone help! i don't know where else i can get advice from
it must just be you hymen maybe it hasn't torn fully or has only ripped, that is something you may need medical attention for. for the problem of pleasure you need to make it sexual, set the scene do what you want to do or what you are interested in, watch porn and search up things you might want to try. there are many sex toys out there and vibrators that you could tru, it might bhelp loosen your hymen, hope it helped
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Are you on the pill? It can reduce sex drive and sexual pleasure.
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Please do not dismiss the pain and seek medical help right away! https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=PMKkV1XFWQU This BBC video describes painful sex from a particular girl's POV, and I think it might be helpful for you.
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