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Last night my boyfriend was searching something on his phone and I seen he was on only fans, so when he went to sleep I went on to his phone and seen that he had made an account on it and was looking up certain girls to follow. I then found out you have to pay to see these intimate photos and videos and it really upset me that he went out of his way to make an account on this app and was willing to pay for these things when we have a good relationship.

However I know he watches porn and I’m fine with it but I think only fans is way more intimate than that, the fact he wanted naked photos or videos of a certain girl makes me feel like I’m not enough for him. Even if in the end he ended up just making an account on it and not paying I’m still upset he would do this when he has a girlfriend..

I’m I overreacting or should I talk to him about this ?
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However I know he watches porn and I’m fine with it but I think only fans is way more intimate than that,
It is? How so?
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the fact he wanted naked photos or videos of a certain girl makes me feel like I’m not enough for him.
When he views porn does he not look at or watch particular actresses?
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Last night my boyfriend was searching something on his phone and I seen he was on only fans, so when he went to sleep I went on to his phone and seen that he had made an account on it and was looking up certain girls to follow. I then found out you have to pay to see these intimate photos and videos and it really upset me that he went out of his way to make an account on this app and was willing to pay for these things when we have a good relationship.

However I know he watches porn and I’m fine with it but I think only fans is way more intimate than that, the fact he wanted naked photos or videos of a certain girl makes me feel like I’m not enough for him. Even if in the end he ended up just making an account on it and not paying I’m still upset he would do this when he has a girlfriend..

I’m I overreacting or should I talk to him about this ?
I mean talk to him about it but I wouldn’t make a massive deal out of it
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If you're regularly spying on him and going through his stuff when he sleeps....no, you do not have a good relationship.
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Last night my boyfriend was searching something on his phone and I seen he was on only fans, so when he went to sleep I went on to his phone and seen that he had made an account on it and was looking up certain girls to follow. I then found out you have to pay to see these intimate photos and videos and it really upset me that he went out of his way to make an account on this app and was willing to pay for these things when we have a good relationship.

However I know he watches porn and I’m fine with it but I think only fans is way more intimate than that, the fact he wanted naked photos or videos of a certain girl makes me feel like I’m not enough for him. Even if in the end he ended up just making an account on it and not paying I’m still upset he would do this when he has a girlfriend..

I’m I overreacting or should I talk to him about this ?
I was coming into this expecting to hear a story about how your bf is making money selling his nudes, severely disappointed XD
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It is? How so?

When he views porn does he not look at or watch particular actresses?
Hes going out his way to pay money to see naked girls.

if you don’t see the issue then wtf? Paying money to see other naked women when you have a girlfriend is a red flag.. porn is one thing but spending money on onlyfans is sad.
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Hes going out his way to pay money to see naked girls.
Would you say a person was going out of their way to pay for something if they bought anything else online? Of course you wouldn't, you could do it on your phone whilst sat on the toilet if you wanted. And anyway, what part of how much effort it takes to procure something makes the experience intimate? If I climbed to the top of Mount Everest to get some nudes that were left there, what part of that experience would be intimate?
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if you don’t see the issue then wtf? Paying money to see other naked women when you have a girlfriend is a red flag.. porn is one thing but spending money on onlyfans is sad.
If his interactions with the woman don't go beyond him paying a fee and receiving a product just like he was buying something from somebody on eBay, then no, I don't see the issue with what he was doing if it's okay for him to watch porn. If someone busts more nuts watching Alexis Texas than they do having sex with their girlfriend or he finds Sasha Grey more physically attractive than his partner and these things are not problems, then I don't see how a person can have any objections if he fantasises over yet one more woman who isn't them, other than it being a waste of money with all the free porn that is no different from the stuff found on OnlyFans that is out there, much of it doubtlessly even originally from OnlyFans.
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Judging by a BBC Three programme, it's obvious what he is after viewing. This thread is two months old so perhaps the relationship has ended.
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Hes going out his way to pay money to see naked girls.

if you don’t see the issue then wtf? Paying money to see other naked women when you have a girlfriend is a red flag.. porn is one thing but spending money on onlyfans is sad.
No time is more valuable than money. The fact he spends time looking at naked women is the issue here. There is no double standard here if she isn't fine with him watching porn then she shouldn't be fine with him paying and watching onlyfans. For all we know he could have PH premium lol.
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Hi, I read your msg and what you just described is exactly how I’m feeling. It’s a whole other ball game to think they’d rather spend money to look online than appreciate what’s right in front of them. Did you manage to resolve things?
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yeah its an issue, hes essentially spending money on other women. massive red flag. he certainly would not like you doing it

i say definitely confront him and pretty much tell him to give it up or you're leaving him. its one thing to watch porn, quite another to be so invested in a womans onlyfans account.

does he even spend on you??
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Obsessing over another woman in a relationship is not okay. There's a difference between watching porn occasionally and paying to receive nudes from a stripper he's obsessing over every week. Going as far as to pay for her onlyfans- I'd leave. That's cheating.
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Obsessing over another woman in a relationship is not okay. There's a difference between occasionally watching porn and paying to receive nudes every single week from a stripper that he's obsessing over. Going as far as to pay for an individual's only fans- that's cheating. Leave him. He has no boundaries.
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I can understand how you are feeling as in similar situation my partner has been on a couple of porn websites previously but recently we had been going through photos he has on his phone as we were going to make a family album for my mum and all of a sudden came across pictures and a few videos of a few different women on onlyfans naked and performing discusting acts, clear to say I wasn’t happy he said it was his friends that had sent him them through WhatsApp still not sure what to think, but it makes you feel like crap and not worthy, hope yous have managed to sort things out
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I’m going through the same thing. I found it before and talked to my boyfriend and he deleted all the pics on his phone, but the other night I noticed more, which means he’s doing it again. The first time I brought it up I was very blunt and honest about how having an Only fans and paying for other girls makes me feel very insecure and feels disrespectful.
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Totally glad i missed this period of dating where it's apparently just normal to start raking through your other half's phone while they sleep. Creepy AF.
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Totally glad i missed this period of dating where it's apparently just normal to start raking through your other half's phone while they sleep. Creepy AF.
Happens in marriages too.
Some jealous spouses resort to hacking, bugging or hiring a pi to bypass passwords.:eek:
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Happens in marriages too.
Some jealous spouses resort to hacking, bugging or hiring a pi to bypass passwords.:eek:
Ditto Ect, Glad I missed Marriage too

Seriously cannot stand phone snoops, they never seem to understand why it's wrong.
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Last night my boyfriend was searching something on his phone and I seen he was on only fans, so when he went to sleep I went on to his phone and seen that he had made an account on it and was looking up certain girls to follow. I then found out you have to pay to see these intimate photos and videos and it really upset me that he went out of his way to make an account on this app and was willing to pay for these things when we have a good relationship.

However I know he watches porn and I’m fine with it but I think only fans is way more intimate than that, the fact he wanted naked photos or videos of a certain girl makes me feel like I’m not enough for him. Even if in the end he ended up just making an account on it and not paying I’m still upset he would do this when he has a girlfriend..

I’m I overreacting or should I talk to him about this ?

your bf needs flogging tbh..
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Sex work is real work
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