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My boyfriend goes soft whenever he goes down on me

My boyfriend goes soft when he goes down.. not just that but foreplay in general.
He says he likes going down and loves for play, but can’t even make it to sex.

Help.... anyone the same?

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Reply 1

username5135954

He might be gay? But scared to tell you or he may be extremely nervous

Reply 2

afie4

I really doubt that the reason for this is that he's gay.

There could be any number of reasons for this, and there isn't enough information here to actually say what that reason is. I think you should tell him how you've been feeling about this and ask him why - communication is important in relationships, and tbh it's the easiest way to assuage your insecurities and get an answer.

That's my advice, anyway!

Reply 3

15thomaa

this could be down to a number of reasons such as him not being sexually attracted to you to just being nervous or inexperienced.Just don't panic and support him

Reply 4

Shakey135

maybe he's just not into foreplay or oral sex although I don't understand it because whenever I go down on a woman I love making her have multiple orgasms and it turns me on severely

he may have PIED

And I'm sure it'd make him feel so much better if he knew you were asking on a student forum why he can't stay hard

Why not talk to him about it instead? Why do people think that asking social media platforms is the first line of solution to their problems?

It could be anything, from erectile dysfunction to simply being nervous, but again you won't be able to understand him for definite unless you actually spoke to him about it

Reply 7

karl pilkington

Erm it's not a big deal it doesn't mean he doesn't enjoy it. A man can get a boner from traveling on a bus that doesn't mean he fancies buses.

Reply 8

dxnixl

Original post by karl pilkington

Erm it's not a big deal it doesn't mean he doesn't enjoy it. A man can get a boner from traveling on a bus that doesn't mean he fancies buses.

I’m not so sure about this
busses are kinda hot. im into that bussy

Reply 9

1582

Volunteer Team

Likely due to lack of physical stimulation to his own erogenous zones and his mental energy now being focused on doing a good job for you.

Reply 10

Anonymous #1

get him to go down after sex?

Reply 11

Sorcerer's Storm

Original post by dxnixl

I’m not so sure about this
busses are kinda hot. im into that bussy

You forgot to say no homo.

OP, doesn’t sound like you have a good understanding of male arousal. Some men can only stay hard if their penis is constantly stroked and stimulated. They may go soft while this isn’t happening but that doesn’t mean he isn’t turned on.

Reply 12

Anonymous #2

Original post by Septembergal

My boyfriend goes soft when he goes down.. not just that but foreplay in general.
He says he likes going down and loves for play, but can’t even make it to sex.

Help.... anyone the same?

yeah this happens to me and my boyfriend. he has psychological erectile dysfunction and going down on me takes him out of the moment and he goes soft. he also doesn't enjoy going down on me :frown:

Reply 13

Proxenus

i have the same problem but mine is due to PIED

Reply 14

Septembergal

Original post by Proxenus

i have the same problem but mine is due to PIED

PIED?

Reply 15

Dunnig Kruger

Sounds fine to me. Surely it doesn't matter at all how hard he is when he's doing that?

To get him hard after that phase of your love making there are various things you could do.

Reply 16

Septembergal

Original post by Dunnig Kruger

Sounds fine to me. Surely it doesn't matter at all how hard he is when he's doing that?

To get him hard after that phase of your love making there are various things you could do.

Just doesn’t seem to go hard again after

Ye he’s probs gay

Original post by Septembergal

My boyfriend goes soft when he goes down.. not just that but foreplay in general.
He says he likes going down and loves for play, but can’t even make it to sex.

Help.... anyone the same?

why has no one recommended Viagra yet???