How do I tell someone I don't like them

How do I tell a guy that though I think he's great, I don't like him in that way? I don't want to hurt his feelings, or make things awkward between us. I've never been in this situation before, and don't know how to react.
Also I'm sure that if I say I don't like him, he will keep badgering me about who I actatuly like, and I can't tell him that.

God this sounds so high school :rolleyes:

Reply 1

MSB

17

"I think you're great, but I don't like you in that way."

Don't bugger about, it's unfair on him.

Reply 2

Whizz

1

MSB

"I think you're great, but I don't like you in that way."

Don't bugger about, it's unfair on him.

I completely agree. Also accept that it may not be possible for you to be friends for a while (if at all).

yeah, ditto MSB

Tell him you see him as a brother.

Reply 5

Dark Flower

OP

Whizz

I completely agree. Also accept that it may not be possible for you to be friends for a while (if at all).

I have to see him twice a week, so...

Is that the most pain free way to tell someone that you don't like them in that way.. "I think you're great but I don't like you like that" personally if someone told me that I'd be pretty gutted. I really want a painfree or as painfree as it can get, rejection statement lol

Reply 6

lacascada

Dark Flower

I have to see him twice a week, so...

Is that the most pain free way to tell someone that you don't like them in that way.. "I think you're great but I don't like you like that" personally if someone told me that I'd be pretty gutted. I really want a painfree or as painfree as it can get, rejection statement lol

well, I don't know about a statement, a statement is right to the point and how are you gonna tell him nicely you're not interested with a 'statement'?

while you're having a conversation put in that you're seeing someone? like what did you do last night? Oh i went to dinner with fred....something like that.
Don't tell him that's it's like official or anything because that will be like, impossible to cover up and will create more problems than you're trying to solve, but don't specifically say..."oh but we're not offical or anything", just mention that you're seeing someone (i'm sure he'd be intelligent enough to work it out for himself) or something along those lines.
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Just an idea, good luck. :smile:

Reply 7

linkdapink

15

I told a guy that I wasn't over my ex, and didn't want anything with him, then said that he was really lovely, but it would never work out.

He's still fricking obsessed with me and REALLY facebook stalks me. And I don't mean the normal kind... he said he had to delete me from facebook because he was getting jealous as I've obviously "moved on"

So cut it off before it turns into stalker mode! And make it 100% clear that you don't want ANYTHING to happen EVER!

Reply 8

thepinkpowerranger

13

Just tell him that... like everybody else said! I had to tell that to my older brother's best friend (but who I hung out/spoke to a lot and had known for like errr 4 years!) not so long ago...

I felt really bad... but it you do just remember you can't help it that he likes likes you and you don't feel the same! And I know it makes it worse when they're a lovely person...

Reply 9

MSB

17

Dark Flower

I have to see him twice a week, so...

Is that the most pain free way to tell someone that you don't like them in that way.. "I think you're great but I don't like you like that" personally if someone told me that I'd be pretty gutted. I really want a painfree or as painfree as it can get, rejection statement lol

He's going to be pretty gutted anyway, so it's better you're straight to the point so as not to add confusion to his list of woes.

Reply 10

Dante786

11

lacascada

while you're having a conversation put in that you're seeing someone? like what did you do last night? Oh i went to dinner with fred....something like that.
Don't tell him that's it's like official or anything because that will be like, impossible to cover up and will create more problems than you're trying to solve, but don't specifically say..."oh but we're not offical or anything", just mention that you're seeing someone (i'm sure he'd be intelligent enough to work it out for himself) or something along those lines.
....
Just an idea, good luck. :smile:

Worse idea, jealousy is a strong emotion that only causes conceit.

Best way is just to say, 'You're great/funny/cute, but I just dont like you, in that way'

But be sincere when you're complimenting him, boosting a guy's ego, is when you put him in his most invulnerable state, so he the sting of rejection wont feel so bad.

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