Beginning to think the worlds out to get me (sorry-long post)

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For about a year now I’ve been working part time and online for a company that tracks hurricanes and studies areas affected by them. I’ve loved this job because it incorporated everything that I had studied in college: protecting the environment and saving lives from natural disasters. The one deal breaker that stands in the way is my company’s reliance on funding, like an NPO. Back in November my boss told me and my gang to stop working because he was short on the funds, but I thought I could wait until after Christmas, when many similar jobs regain financial stability. But I got suspicious when I tried to email my boss twice, first time he didn’t even respond and from an email I received yesterday he says that he won’t even be able to commence projects for his team again until April, but I would have to check in with him again. The most sobering part of this mess is he also said that he was late responding because he was finishing up projects without me, and his behavior has turned fishy since funds ran out in November. He responded all the time to me and considered me to be one of his favorite workers (which he even said), and now instead of him frequently contacting his gang (varying between 5-10 members, most in school while I’m not anymore) for recent projects he said I would have to ask him again at a later date, completely opposite of my previous experiences with him.

Now that this job is not permanent like I previously thought, I have to scour an aggravating job market for work. Though my field is one of the quickest growing industries, even entry level positions like what I’m looking at require several years of experience, which punishes me for concentrating on my education instead of entering the work force. Now I’m in a nosedive with my current gig this has rehashed many years of worth of bad memories. The last professional entry on my resume before I got busy with grad school was an intern involving punishing physical labor, a boss that was hard to communicate with and cliques that humiliated me the whole time because I was slower to warm up to the group than others and I was not in the best shape mentally. Most of the people in my college that I had to work with in group projects were nothing but a fierce fight for power, and people frequently took advantage of me. Even if I followed instructions given to me by my professor, one little slip up in communication or expectations by my group members could result in these people fighting tooth and nail to complain about my performance, insult me or almost literally get my whole class involved. I immediately moved away from the town where I attended school and lived a sheltered life with my parents to take a break from the college atmosphere, but I’m continuing to sour about my generation in general when I’ve heard about friends sharing similar situations at work.

Sure am hating life at the moment. The one job that I was happy with isn’t going to work in the long term. I might be the only decent person in my generation of 20-somethings, with the rest going to extreme lengths to get me in trouble with higher-ups or render me powerless with every minute difference in work performance, outlooks on life and the like. Now I’m living with my folks where my dad has a temper and all of us have been on edge with my grandmothers recent health issues.

Is it true that I’m not going to last even a ghost of a chance in today’s market? Is literally everybody in the real world and in my generation (I’m almost 25) evil and out to get me like I think they are?
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Nope, not everyone in your generation is evil and not everyone is out to get you.

Unfortunately though, today's society (at least in the west) is very much based on competition rather than co-operation and people are constantly trying to one-up on each other and if your the sort of person who doesn't roll well in groups then it can be difficult to get along and can lead to feeling like it's you vs the world.

Your definitely not alone and I think theirs thousands of people feeling like you do right now, many in much worse situations.

Fundamentally most people are good at heart, it's just that everyone also tends to have their own self-interests also, this mean you, me, everyone and people often lose themselves and become selfish in their day to day happenings.

It's quite hard to tell you what the real issue is without seeing you in person and knowing your own habits but I do think a lot of what your feeling comes from your own perspective and how you choose to perceive things.

This doesn't mean that people haven't been negative or nasty towards you but rather how you think about those things and deal with them.

Check out this video - https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=OsAd4HGJS4o

And then listen to this - https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=iEq0dMu9vpk&t=2013s

**** happens and it get's frustrating at times, but lots of great stuff also happens, focus on yourself, do what you want to do and try to keep a positive perspective when less desirable things occur, you'll start to find that many times, those less desirable things, lead to better and even greater things.
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Nope, not everyone in your generation is evil and not everyone is out to get you.

Unfortunately though, today's society (at least in the west) is very much based on competition rather than co-operation and people are constantly trying to one-up on each other and if your the sort of person who doesn't roll well in groups then it can be difficult to get along and can lead to feeling like it's you vs the world.

Your definitely not alone and I think theirs thousands of people feeling like you do right now, many in much worse situations.

Fundamentally most people are good at heart, it's just that everyone also tends to have their own self-interests also, this mean you, me, everyone and people often lose themselves and become selfish in their day to day happenings.

It's quite hard to tell you what the real issue is without seeing you in person and knowing your own habits but I do think a lot of what your feeling comes from your own perspective and how you choose to perceive things.

This doesn't mean that people haven't been negative or nasty towards you but rather how you think about those things and deal with them.

Check out this video - https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=OsAd4HGJS4o

And then listen to this - https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=iEq0dMu9vpk&t=2013s

**** happens and it get's frustrating at times, but lots of great stuff also happens, focus on yourself, do what you want to do and try to keep a positive perspective when less desirable things occur, you'll start to find that many times, those less desirable things, lead to better and even greater things.
Thank you so much for taking so much time to type this message and share these encouraging words! I am so glad that you decided to go the extra mile to help me through these questions that have bothered me for so long.

Maybe you have also seen something in me through this post that I haven't seen in myself. For instance I have been setting personal boundaries to protect me from taking the brunt of unnecessary pain in my relationships but in my assumptions based on past experiences maybe I have become closed off and become more selfish. I'm sure this was good to a point but I have developed a more hostile outlook on life that makes me even more stuck.

You've helped me in the mean time also to garner a better attitude toward the job market. Now instead of immediately giving up with a lofty job search I actually have applied to several jobs now that almost appear to be custom-made for me. Wish me luck. Thanks again for your post and being a great help to me in this stage of life!
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