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Jealous of my gf opinions needed

hi,

please dont de-anon, as this is quite personal and lots of my friends use this.... Basically I love my gf wholeheartedly, shes everything I want and more...we're both have extremely bright great futures (we shuld be both graduating with a 1st etc) , I've been applyin for loads of internships but been really unsuccessful. :p:

despite having all the requirements etc...ive got into the final rounds but really unlucky, my gf managed to get in via contacts..without any interviews or tests, ugh...i wanna feel good for her, but there is so much resentment she culd easily ditch me for someone better esp how were in a LDR, its more overbearin for everything to keep hearing this sucess and all windows live messenger can do is generate another rejection email :frown:

I've ran up most of the firms who only are hiring out of their internship intake so there is no point applyin etc for the Grad :frown:

am i being too rash about this?

Reply 1

pumpkin7

13

i hate it when people get jobs through the backdoor.. it's so unfair and unjust.

Reply 2

Anonymous #1

OP

she knows that im feeling quite low as im still applyin studying extra exams etc....She told me basically "every man for themself" and then really hurt me by saying well we are not married, just makin me feel even a bigger looser :frown:

Reply 3

Lithium

13

pumpkin7

i hate it when people get jobs through the backdoor.. it's so unfair and unjust.

OP:

Mate, i feel for you and with you. I don't think that any harsh or ill feeling would be unjustified. I mean they are not personal, it's the concept, you'd feel the same way if it had been one of your friends.

Don't give up, thats really all i can say. All the best :smile:

Reply 4

yenichii

Well, the fact is life isn't fair and if she has a contact why shouldn't she use it to get ahead. There's no point in trying to hold her back as she will resent you.

And tbh you probably are feeling lower w/ all the rejections. I'm sure your girlfriend would support emotionally but what can she do? It's not like she can get the job for you.

I'm sure that your internship will work out since you are due for a 1st. You will probably be able to see things in a better lights once you find something :smile:

Reply 5

mdhey89

It's well known that in today's society it's more a case of who you know than what you know. Get over it!

Reply 6

Jelkin

17

I completely understand where you are coming from, and I'd be the same, but be careful not to take it out on your girlfriend as it's not really her fault, you know? Good luck and remember that, as you admitted, you have a bright future ahead of you :smile:

Reply 7

Fusion

20

Nepotism is one of the biggest less talked about injustices in society but you cannot blame her for refusing the post.

Reply 8

Anonymous #1

OP

just to be clear, i havent made it a big deal to her..all of this which im writing about ive kept it pretty much tucked up inside me..as im revisin for extra qualifications during the summer its all very strenous...she does however act as if there isnt a problem im not tryin to hold her back....but she wont even sympathise

Reply 9

dealbreaker

14

man up...what's your gf got to do with your apparent failures to secure a job so far? You'll find in future that the informal networks counts for a lot in business, so she's got the right approach/idea in mind, frankly speaking....

Reply 10

Lithium

13

mdhey89

It's well known that in today's society it's more a case of who you know than what you know. Get over it!

get over it? dude, unless you have something constructive to say, get lost!

Reply 11

Lithium

13

Fusion

Nepotism is one of the biggest less talked about injustices in society but you cannot blame her for refusing the post.

yea, i don't think anyone would blame her for taking it, but would anyone blame the OP for feeling bad or jealous?

Reply 12

mdhey89

Lithium

get over it? dude, unless you have something constructive to say, get lost!

Telling someone to get over counter-productive bitterness that will lead them nowhere is something constructive.

Reply 13

Danny the Geezer

21

Your gf isn't in the wrong just cos she got a job and you didn't, if you're on course for a 1st you should get a job on graduation, then the problem will dissolve, in the meantime accept that she has a job and you haven't, cos that's just the way it is and it's out of your control.

Reply 14

Spotty Dog

15

Anonymous

just to be clear, i havent made it a big deal to her..all of this which im writing about ive kept it pretty much tucked up inside me..as im revisin for extra qualifications during the summer its all very strenous...she does however act as if there isnt a problem im not tryin to hold her back....but she wont even sympathise

If you haven't made a big deal about it, and haven't spoken to her in depth about it, are you sure she knows you feel like this? Maybe that's why she isn't sympathising! You can't make something better unless you know what's wrong!!

Reply 15

dealbreaker

14

Spotty Dog

If you haven't made a big deal about it, and haven't spoken to her in depth about it, are you sure she knows you feel like this? Maybe that's why she isn't sympathising! You can't make something better unless you know what's wrong!!

OP I wouldn't tell her how you really feel. If she knows how you feel, she's just to think you're not man enough about the whole thing.

Reply 16

Anonymous #1

OP

hi sorry...i think uve all got the wrong idea...her parents got it for her, she didnt hav to do anythin..i kno the value of networking hehe...but as Lithium says its the concept...But my main issue is that my gf doesnt see any of this as a problem, knowing very well my plight

Reply 17

Lithium

13

mdhey89

Telling someone to get over counter-productive bitterness that will lead them nowhere is something constructive.

your didactic could use some improvement.

Reply 18

Lithium

13

Anonymous

hi sorry...i think uve all got the wrong idea...her parents got it for her, she didnt hav to do anythin..i kno the value of networking hehe...but as Lithium says its the concept...But my main issue is that my gf doesnt see any of this as a problem, knowing very well my plight

Doesn't see the problem as a concept or as a problem or the problem it could pose to your relationship?

Reply 19

Touche

15

It'll always happen to some extent, better it happens to her than some **** you hate right?

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