Sexually confused but in long term relationship

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miramira12
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Hey so,
I'm female,
I've been in a 4 year relationship with a guy, he is great but I feel sometimes I'm just in a friendship with him, maybe we are comfortable now. I have my own flat with him too.
But my previous relationships It was all Lesbian up until this guy i'm currently dating.
I was also in a 4 year relationship with another female.

So now. after 4 years of a straight relationship. I'm questioning if I actually like being in that straight relationship. Sex with a guy sometimes grosses me out. I sometimes force myself. I know thats bad, but the guy is honestly lovely and we do work well together but I feel like i'm missing out on something. I feel much more attracted to women .

I didn't know where else to post this, found this forum and thought I would give it a go
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not fair on him, if ur more attracted to girls its best to leave him, tell him ur situation and hope he understands. not fair on u too
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not fair on him, if ur more attracted to girls its best to leave him, tell him ur situation and hope he understands. not fair on u too
I feel I would throwing a good relationship away. I don't even know if I would be happy in a lesbian relationship, I wasn't in my last. I feel maybe I'm happier single? I think I'm scared of commitment. I dunno, I'm going through alot in my head.
This would be easier if I wasn't in a binding two year contract apartment rent with him. I can't break up and leave him with so much to pay for. Plus I have no family to go back to. I'm stuck.
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I feel I would throwing a good relationship away. I don't even know if I would be happy in a lesbian relationship, I wasn't in my last. I feel maybe I'm happier single? I think I'm scared of commitment. I dunno, I'm going through alot in my head.
This would be easier if I wasn't in a binding two year contract apartment rent with him. I can't break up and leave him with so much to pay for. Plus I have no family to go back to. I'm stuck.
If you are more into girls then you are not being fair by staying in the relationship
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(Original post by miramira12)
I feel I would throwing a good relationship away. I don't even know if I would be happy in a lesbian relationship, I wasn't in my last. I feel maybe I'm happier single? I think I'm scared of commitment. I dunno, I'm going through alot in my head.
This would be easier if I wasn't in a binding two year contract apartment rent with him. I can't break up and leave him with so much to pay for. Plus I have no family to go back to. I'm stuck.
I suppose its best to talk to him all about this, wish u all the best , best situation: he understands, wants to stay friends and will stay with u, but thats unlikely, how would he react if u told him this?
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Can relate.

I am more attracted to women than men as a rule but I'm currently in a relationship with a man. He's someone I connect with more perfectly than anyone else I've ever dated (male or female and over a period of 13yrs) and I can't imagine that there is someone else out there who could match me even half as well as he does. We are on the same wavelength about everything. I often miss being with girls, but I wouldn't give him up to chase that fantasy. So I've accepted that it's in my past and he's my present (and hopefully future).

So the question I'll pose to you is: is your relationship with this man worth more to you than what you feel you are missing out on with women? If the answer is no then I'd suggest ending it.
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(Original post by miramira12)
Hey so,
I'm female,Let
I've been in a 4 year relationship with a guy, he is great but I feel sometimes I'm just in a friendship with him, maybe we are comfortable now. I have my own flat with him too.
But my previous relationships It was all Lesbian up until this guy i'm currently dating.
I was also in a 4 year relationship with another female.

So now. after 4 years of a straight relationship. I'm questioning if I actually like being in that straight relationship. Sex with a guy sometimes grosses me out. I sometimes force myself. I know thats bad, but the guy is honestly lovely and we do work well together but I feel like i'm missing out on something. I feel much more attracted to women .

I didn't know where else to post this, found this forum and thought I would give it a go
Let this guy go- you both deserve better in fact. You must be completely honest with yourself first, then with him!
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