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I have no motivation for university ATM. I really can't be bothered to study and I'm not enjoying it socially. I'm finding it hard to meet people and don't have anything to do for most of the week. All my friends are on my course but we barely go out and we're overflowed with work which I can't be bothered to do or even have an interest in. I know I'm doing the right course but I really don't feel motivated. I'm struggling here massively and feel like I'm wasting my time.

I don't feel like education is a priority right now and think a break could help me massively. I have a good tutoring job and have already applied through UCAS.

My mind keeps changing on whether to leave or stay but I'm really not enjoying university or have any motivation for it.

I'm a first year student.
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I have no motivation for university ATM. I really can't be bothered to study and I'm not enjoying it socially. I'm finding it hard to meet people and don't have anything to do for most of the week. All my friends are on my course but we barely go out and we're overflowed with work which I can't be bothered to do or even have an interest in. I know I'm doing the right course but I really don't feel motivated. I'm struggling here massively and feel like I'm wasting my time.

I don't feel like education is a priority right now and think a break could help me massively. I have a good tutoring job and have already applied through UCAS.

My mind keeps changing on whether to leave or stay but I'm really not enjoying university or have any motivation for it.

I'm a first year student.
I remember I felt this way in the second term of my first year at uni. I lost all motivation and didn't even want to see anyone from my course. I remember feeling really isolated and insecure in my abilities.

Could you book an appointment to speak with your advisor of studies/ course convenor? It would massively help for you to talk these feelings through. Your feelings might never change and leaving uni might be the better option for you, however there is also the potential for you to change your mind and its worth trying to change it before pulling the plug on the degree.
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Hi, it may be worth writing down the reasons you chose this degree, what job you want to do after and why your doing it. Set small goals for yourself so you don't get overwhelmed. What's really helped me is splitting my work into priority and non priority and just focusing on one part or one thing to do at a time. That way even though you have so much work to do it doesn't seem as much and when your ticking things off it gives you pride that you have done something. As you have 3 months ish until summer, try and stick at it for a bit longer.

With regards to socially, speak to your friends on the course and pick a day in two weeks where most of your deadlines have passed or you've completed a set amount of work and organise a fancy dinner, or a night out. This will help things socially and give some motivation to get the work done. Also, through the week see if there are any societies you would like to join, or set a day of the week where you don't do any work and do something you enjoy.

However, if you can't think of the answers for the reasons you chose this degree, what job you want to do after and why your doing it, it may be better to leave now and come back when you are 100% sure you want to do the course. Hope this helps!
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Hi, it may be worth writing down the reasons you chose this degree, what job you want to do after and why your doing it. Set small goals for yourself so you don't get overwhelmed. What's really helped me is splitting my work into priority and non priority and just focusing on one part or one thing to do at a time. That way even though you have so much work to do it doesn't seem as much and when your ticking things off it gives you pride that you have done something. As you have 3 months ish until summer, try and stick at it for a bit longer.

With regards to socially, speak to your friends on the course and pick a day in two weeks where most of your deadlines have passed or you've completed a set amount of work and organise a fancy dinner, or a night out. This will help things socially and give some motivation to get the work done. Also, through the week see if there are any societies you would like to join, or set a day of the week where you don't do any work and do something you enjoy.

However, if you can't think of the answers for the reasons you chose this degree, what job you want to do after and why your doing it, it may be better to leave now and come back when you are 100% sure you want to do the course. Hope this helps!
I enjoy my degree and had a clear idea of what I want to do post graduation but I just don't want to be at this University.

This isn't the pinnacle of my social life as it was supposed to be and it's just one big depressing disappointment.
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I remember I felt this way in the second term of my first year at uni. I lost all motivation and didn't even want to see anyone from my course. I remember feeling really isolated and insecure in my abilities.

Could you book an appointment to speak with your advisor of studies/ course convenor? It would massively help for you to talk these feelings through. Your feelings might never change and leaving uni might be the better option for you, however there is also the potential for you to change your mind and its worth trying to change it before pulling the plug on the degree.
I've spoken to my personal tutor and he wasn't experienced in this sort of issue. I've got a councillor meeting tomorrow with a therapist.
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I think everybody had the same feeling at some point during their degree. I had this after I got back home after a semester abroad. You do have to power through, it will get better and the motivation will return. The main thing is to stay active and not sit passively feeling sorry for yourself. Sounds brutal but it helped me a lot.

The University will likely have people to talk to this about, i'd recommend reaching out.

Feel free to DM me if you every want to chat.
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I think the best thing to do is to leave. You'll keep thinking like this everyday. If you really feel like applying in the future then you know you can.
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I think the best thing to do is to leave. You'll keep thinking like this everyday. If you really feel like applying in the future then you know you can.
Good luck doing this without student finance.
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I have no motivation for university ATM. I really can't be bothered to study and I'm not enjoying it socially. I'm finding it hard to meet people and don't have anything to do for most of the week. All my friends are on my course but we barely go out and we're overflowed with work which I can't be bothered to do or even have an interest in. I know I'm doing the right course but I really don't feel motivated. I'm struggling here massively and feel like I'm wasting my time.

I don't feel like education is a priority right now and think a break could help me massively. I have a good tutoring job and have already applied through UCAS.

My mind keeps changing on whether to leave or stay but I'm really not enjoying university or have any motivation for it.

I'm a first year student.
You need to grow up, man up, and start acting responsibly! We get out of life what we put in.
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Good luck doing this without student finance.
You get a gift year
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A lot of students feel a similar way at this point in the year so you're definitely not alone!

It may help to write a list of pros and cons of staying at uni vs leaving. You may find by doing this that you identify something specific that may be leading you to feel the way you are. It would help to be proactive with trying to identify exactly why you're not feeling motivated and what would actually happen if you did leave uni as it is a big decision. If you're worried about a lack of social life, for example, then you may find this to be even worse if you drop out.

I think first year in general people often feel like they're wasting their time (I know I did) because uni may not be exactly what you were expecting. But from personal experience, second and third year were much more interesting and you may even be allowed to focus your degree on things you do actually enjoy by having a choice of modules etc. (depends on what your course is like).

You could also try to get some kind of work experience related to your degree if you haven't already. This might motivate you to engage with your course more and get you thinking about the reasons why you doing your degree in the first place and life after uni.
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First few months of first year is about just getting through it.... survival of the fittest
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A lot of students feel a similar way at this point in the year so you're definitely not alone!

It may help to write a list of pros and cons of staying at uni vs leaving. You may find by doing this that you identify something specific that may be leading you to feel the way you are. It would help to be proactive with trying to identify exactly why you're not feeling motivated and what would actually happen if you did leave uni as it is a big decision. If you're worried about a lack of social life, for example, then you may find this to be even worse if you drop out.

I think first year in general people often feel like they're wasting their time (I know I did) because uni may not be exactly what you were expecting. But from personal experience, second and third year were much more interesting and you may even be allowed to focus your degree on things you do actually enjoy by having a choice of modules etc. (depends on what your course is like).

You could also try to get some kind of work experience related to your degree if you haven't already. This might motivate you to engage with your course more and get you thinking about the reasons why you doing your degree in the first place and life after uni.
I enjoy the course but not enjoying it socially.
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and the pros of leaving university outweigh the cons.

Having a gap year sounds more appealing than university. I'll have a far better social life at home than at uni. Getting a year to just work, focus on myself, push myself at the gym, etc.

If I stay here I know I will absolutely dread going back to university on the first day off second year. It'll be depressing as ****. I literally feel sick and anxious thinking about it now.

I've got 3/4 assignments within the next 2 weeks so even having enough time to socialise is impossible. A considering there's a month left of university there's no realistic way I'm going to get a social life that I wanted/meet people.
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Take a gap year but study during it so you have even less chance of failing when you come back.
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and the pros of leaving university outweigh the cons.

Having a gap year sounds more appealing than university. I'll have a far better social life at home than at uni. Getting a year to just work, focus on myself, push myself at the gym, etc.

If I stay here I know I will absolutely dread going back to university on the first day off second year. It'll be depressing as ****. I literally feel sick and anxious thinking about it now.

I've got 3/4 assignments within the next 2 weeks so even having enough time to socialise is impossible. A considering there's a month left of university there's no realistic way I'm going to get a social life that I wanted/meet people.
Listen, just get through it. Ask yourself this, will your problem go away after a gap year? No, because when you do return you will have the bad social life still

Sometimes you need to just stick with it
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Listen, just get through it. Ask yourself this, will your problem go away after a gap year? No, because when you do return you will have the bad social life still

Sometimes you need to just stick with it
I mean I think it will..
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Listen, just get through it. Ask yourself this, will your problem go away after a gap year? No, because when you do return you will have the bad social life still

Sometimes you need to just stick with it
Let's say I stay and I stick with it, then what? First year is basically over btw. I already had the ability to choose my modules this year too.

In second and third year, yes the content gets more interesting but I honestly have no interest in studying at all.
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Let's say I stay and I stick with it, then what? First year is basically over btw. I already had the ability to choose my modules this year too.

In second and third year, yes the content gets more interesting but I honestly have no interest in studying at all.
What uni what course?
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At the end of the day your main priority at uni is to study and complete a degree. Yes, having a social life is important but it shouldn’t necessarily be your focus. Maybe go to the library with your friends to complete your assessments together so you’re still getting work done but can also be in an environment with other students and not be on your own quite so much.
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