How my brain justifies my porn addiction :(

I managed to go 2 days yesterday, but then relapsed at midnight.

Here’s why I think I am addicted.
1.)Have only gone more than 30days without only twice in the last 3 years.
2.)Before I jerk I think about getting multiple Os and edging as long as possible.
3.) Im getting more into more hard stuff.
4.)Can’t fantasise

Why did I relapse? Well I’m 21 and never had a girlfriend. I’m a confident guy but I’m pretty invisible to girls and I can’t seem to meet someone I connect with. In the club I’m incisible to girls. On tinder I can go 1000 swipes and get no match. I hit the gym. I’m a powerlifter. But I am like 17% bodyfat so I think maybe when I lose weight I’ll be able to meet someone and that isn’t happening yet. And I haven’t found my social circle at uni. I can’t go clubbing and drinking that often because i value my gym progress more. I also find it hard to organise a non drinking event at uni I’m not close enough with anyone

So I think I can just get intimacy from porn until I actually meet someone. Pathetic yeah I know.

Reply 1

Dunnig Kruger

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Just because others are drinking excessively on a night out, doesn't mean to say that you have to too. You can drink nothing or just 1 or 2 pints and still have a great time.

You are physically very attractive already. You don't need to have a full on body builder look to be very attractive to women.

Work on getting sales skills and use them to "sell" yourself as a boyfriend. Inparticular work on getting good at closing sales.

Work on your self esteem too. Stop seeing yourself as a failure. Stop feeling pathetic for your porn use. Accept it as a pragmatic solution to the situation you are in.

Also try to learn about how to please a woman in bed (use google). So that you are as ready as you can be for the first time you make love. That's something that you won't learn by watching porn. Because porn is to making love what wrestling is to hand to hand combat.

Reply 2

Anonymous #1

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Original post by Dunnig Kruger

Just because others are drinking excessively on a night out, doesn't mean to say that you have to too. You can drink nothing or just 1 or 2 pints and still have a great time.

You are physically very attractive already. You don't need to have a full on body builder look to be very attractive to women.

Work on getting sales skills and use them to "sell" yourself as a boyfriend. Inparticular work on getting good at closing sales.

Work on your self esteem too. Stop seeing yourself as a failure. Stop feeling pathetic for your porn use. Accept it as a pragmatic solution to the situation you are in.

Also try to learn about how to please a woman in bed (use google). So that you are as ready as you can be for the first time you make love. That's something that you won't learn by watching porn. Because porn is to making love what wrestling is to hand to hand combat

Is clubbing a good way to meet women? I don’t care much for random hook ups. I’d rather go on a date or 2-3 and then hook up if that makes sense. As I’d know them.

Or I could just meet girls at the gym idk? I’m pretty confident after I beat my personal records