What do you consider a proper adult to be?

Just wondering what characteristics, age and life goals do you feel like you need to achieve before you consider yourself and others to be proper adults....

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Reply 1

username5027880

Anybody over the age of 18!!!!

Reply 2

04MR17

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When they get off TSR and get themselves a real job

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Reply 3

Ciel.

idk i still feel like i'm 15. my bf is a "proper" adult tho. he brings money, he's responsible, he says no when i want another kitten/puppy, and he puts me in my place when needed 😂

Reply 4

CrazyKittenLady

Original post by 04MR17

When they get off TSR and get themselves a real job

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What if your real job is being on TSR lol

Reply 5

Ilovebeef19

Original post by CrazyKittenLady

Just wondering what characteristics, age and life goals do you feel like you need to achieve before you consider yourself and others to be proper adults....

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I believe we're all on our own 'journey'. Society places a lot of pressure on what you're supposed to achieve by a certain age so I believe it just depends on the person and whether they feel independent, fulfilling their own responsibilities to make them feel like an adult. I guess it does greatly tie into independence

Reply 6

kkboyk

Adults come in all sorts of variety. One key thing that truly makes someone an adult is their ability to accept responsibility, make independent decisions ( you can solve your own problems in an instinct driven manner without running away from your responsibilities) and become financially independent. It has nothing to do with age.

Reply 7

londonmyst

1) Sane human being over 18,
2) With the ability to understand that a shared kitchen/bathroom requires everyone to tidy up.
3) Automatically accepting personal responsibility for all of ones own decisions together with the direct consequences of - with ZERO excuses or attempts to apportion blame to other persons.
This includes: boozing, credit card debts, diet, gambling, illegal drugs, sexual adventures, choosing to date/continue a relationship with an entitled jerk/habitual criminal/noise nuisance/sordid player.

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Reply 8

heermeet

Maturity. When you start behaving like an adult thats when you are one.

Reply 9

Sabertooth

Original post by Ciel.

idk i still feel like i'm 15. my bf is a "proper" adult tho. he brings money, he's responsible, he says no when i want another kitten/puppy, and he puts me in my place when needed 😂

I still feel 15 too. :colondollar:

I am definitely not 15 years old.

Reply 10

Drewski

Being self sufficient.

meh

Original post by Sabertooth

I still feel 15 too. :colondollar:

I am definitely not 15 years old.

it's so weird. 🙈

Reply 13

Bang Outta Order

Original post by Ciel.

it's so weird. 🙈

Yes. You are. :colone:

Reply 14

Bang Outta Order

Only after you turn 18 if you have achieved 100% independence, regardless of extra help offered or received from loved ones.

Reply 15

04MR17

Volunteer Section Leader

Original post by CrazyKittenLady

What if your real job is being on TSR lol

Don't be silly, people don't work for TSR :laugh:

Reply 16

Ciel.

Original post by Bang Outta Order

Yes. You are. :colone:

at least i'm not an a$$hole. 🙈

Reply 17

BlueIndigoViolet

Original post by CrazyKittenLady

Just wondering what characteristics, age and life goals do you feel like you need to achieve before you consider yourself and others to be proper adults....

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Imo dont consider 18 year olds to be adults mentally, financially or socially, would put it around 21-25

Reply 18

Joleee

18. i don't think it's about characteristics and achieving goals. doubtful that anyone would say a 30 year old who still lives with their parents rent-free and never held down a job and doesn't want a job wasn't an adult; it's just that they may be acting like a child.