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I told my department why I was depressed and struggling and they don't care. they don't even see if im okay. they never message or email me or anything. theyve dumped me. they only care about getting the department higher up the rankings. I'm just so fed up i wish id never gone to university
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I told my department why I was depressed and struggling and they don't care. they don't even see if im okay. they never message or email me or anything. theyve dumped me. they only care about getting the department higher up the rankings. I'm just so fed up i wish id never gone to university
Who exactly did you tell in the department? If it's a lecturer they're useless.
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Who exactly did you tell in the department? If it's a lecturer they're useless.
The head administrator. The head of department is also aware. Wellbeing also know and never check to see how I am. I'm falling apart. It is clear they care more about their reputation. They have let me down so much I feel like I can't even complete my degree anymore. I am so mad that they get away with this.
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I'm sorry to hear you're struggling. Have you been to your GP?
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I'm sorry to hear you're struggling. Have you been to your GP?
Yes. She just arranged for a text message to be sent to me with places I could self refer to. I had an assessment with a talking therapy three months ago and haven’t heard since. I am diagnosed with depression. I don’t see the point in going back.
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Yes. She just arranged for a text message to be sent to me with places I could self refer to. I had an assessment with a talking therapy three months ago and haven’t heard since. I am diagnosed with depression. I don’t see the point in going back.
Go back and follow up with the service you've been referred to. You owe it to yourself. Also, have you been to the student support department at your university?
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The head administrator. The head of department is also aware. Wellbeing also know and never check to see how I am. I'm falling apart. It is clear they care more about their reputation. They have let me down so much I feel like I can't even complete my degree anymore. I am so mad that they get away with this.
Make a complaint officially and outline how they're letting you down. Also, just for collateral send a letter to your MP and do the same and ask for help and advice.
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Go back and follow up with the service you've been referred to. You owe it to yourself. Also, have you been to the student support department at your university?
I don’t think there is any point following up with them. The lady said she’d speak to her manager and try and get me help but that was months ago.

I told the well-being team almost as soon as I reported it to the police and they haven’t helped me. They didn’t help me with my depression, they didn’t get me help for my exams so my grades were awful. I wouldn’t recommend them to anyone it is shocking how cold they are. There is no help.
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Universities everywhere are hot garbage at dealing with mental health btw they don't want to know until you start applying pressure.
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Make a complaint officially and outline how they're letting you down. Also, just for collateral send a letter to your MP and do the same and ask for help and advice.
I am just so tired of fighting for help that doesn’t exist. The university only cares about its reputation. MPs don’t care at all especially the blue ones
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I don’t think there is any point following up with them. The lady said she’d speak to her manager and try and get me help but that was months ago.

I told the well-being team almost as soon as I reported it to the police and they haven’t helped me. They didn’t help me with my depression, they didn’t get me help for my exams so my grades were awful. I wouldn’t recommend them to anyone it is shocking how cold they are. There is no help.
Sometimes you have to be persistent, especially in this day and age. MH care is overwhelmed with the amount of people who need help, which means unfortunately if you don't fight for yourself sometimes you get lost. Also, in the grand scheme of things, 3 months isn't even that long in waiting for help for MH - for context I waited over a year for specialist help, and regularly got threatened with being sectioned because of it.

If you want help, you have to fight for it. Admittedly, with depression that is not easy, I get that. What about support from family? Friends? Other people?

Regarding your university, not all are very good at helping people with MH issues. However, I doubt they're all bad. Besides, even if they are, it doesn't mean you should give up. It means you need to carry on searching for support.

What came of the police? Does your university have a Night Line Service?
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I am just so tired of fighting for help that doesn’t exist. The university only cares about its reputation. MPs don’t care at all especially the blue ones
Again, not true. I've had friends write letters to Tory MPs on my behalf when I was too unwell to deal with anything.

I get that depression is clouding your judgement but shutting everyone down is not helping you.
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Again, not true. I've had friends write letters to Tory MPs on my behalf when I was too unwell to deal with anything.

I get that depression is clouding your judgement but shutting everyone down is not helping you.
And how will the MP help me?
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Sometimes you have to be persistent, especially in this day and age. MH care is overwhelmed with the amount of people who need help, which means unfortunately if you don't fight for yourself sometimes you get lost. Also, in the grand scheme of things, 3 months isn't even that long in waiting for help for MH - for context I waited over a year for specialist help, and regularly got threatened with being sectioned because of it.

If you want help, you have to fight for it. Admittedly, with depression that is not easy, I get that. What about support from family? Friends? Other people?

Regarding your university, not all are very good at helping people with MH issues. However, I doubt they're all bad. Besides, even if they are, it doesn't mean you should give up. It means you need to carry on searching for support.

What came of the police? Does your university have a Night Line Service?
Why do you people always mention friends...it's staggering. Does it not occur to you that some people don't have any.

As for the university, they really are that bad. The SU officer I've spoken to agrees with me and had said a shocking number of students at this uni leave/drop out because they don't get support.

And Nightline....half the time the service isn't running, the phone rings out, they pick up and are silent. I get its run by volunteers but honestly the service is so bad its probably best they don't run it all.
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And how will the MP help me?
When there is MP involvement often whoever you're complaining about gets worked up and does something about whatever it is you're complaining about. It's worth a shot, you never know. It might help your case.

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Why do you people always mention friends...it's staggering. Does it not occur to you that some people don't have any.

As for the university, they really are that bad. The SU officer I've spoken to agrees with me and had said a shocking number of students at this uni leave/drop out because they don't get support.

And Nightline....half the time the service isn't running, the phone rings out, they pick up and are silent. I get its run by volunteers but honestly the service is so bad its probably best they don't run it all.
I mention friends because idk who you are first of all and secondly I don't like to assume things. I am not stupid, I know not everyone has friends. What is your family like? Immediate and extended, do you have anyone you can confide in? Are you religious and if you are do you have any one in your faith you can go to for support? Anyone really. And yes, I know not everyone has someone - I am just asking.

I'm not disputing that they're bad. Regarding this SU Officer - what are they doing to improve things? This is part of what they're there for.

Fair enough. Perhaps that's another thing to tell the SU officer.

But yes, go back to your GP and follow up with them and the therapy service you've been referred to. You might be able to find out where you are on the waiting list.
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Here's an idea.

I'll stop asking for support on the internet - because it's obviously not on here either.

And you stop advising people on their mental health. If you want to do that, go and get a qualification to do so. Because your comments have done me more harm than good. Religion? MP? They can't be that bad? Nightline? Thank a bunch.
I mentioned religion because I'm not sure if you're religious (I'm not religious), but I know some people get support from their religion if they're religious. I asked about Nightline to see if it was available and what it was like at your university. MPs can be useful if there are things going wrong and you're being let down - which you are, that's why that other poster suggested them and I chimed in thar I myself have had MP involvement previously. I was just seeing if there were other avenues of support.

And regarding "they can't be that bad" - you misread - I said they can't all be bad, but I concede, all the people that work in the student support department could be bad at their job, which sucks for people in your position. I apologise for how it came across.

Anyway, hopefully someone else can come along who can help you. I am sorry for making you feel worse.
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