by boyfriend is 34 and im 19 is this an issue Watch

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So I went out with my girls at one point and I met this guy, we hit it off and he booked a hotel room and we spent the night together, the next morning when we were getting to know each other the age question never came up. after 2 weeks of texting and meeting up spending weekends together I found out there is a 14 year age difference. He is looking for a wife and someone to have kids with but I still have to finish uni. do you think this will last
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This has to be a troll.
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its not
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its not
Ok, but how can a bunch of random strangers, many of them school students, have any idea whether such a relationship might last?
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No.

You are in two different places in life. Not just physically but mentally as well. This is evidenced by the fact he's ready to settle down and start a family and you have other commitments and goals right now. To work as a couple you would need to be more in tune with each other.
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No.

You are in two different places in life. Not just physically but mentally as well. This is evidenced by the fact he's ready to settle down and start a family and you have other commitments and goals right now. To work as a couple you would need to be more in tune with each other.
I would want to get married and have children after I graduate. I just feel like right now it would be a **** move to drop out after my parents have paid for 2 years of university
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I would want to get married and have children after I graduate. I just feel like right now it would be a **** move to drop out after my parents have paid for 2 years of university
as long as hes willing to wait then it should be fine but personally cos of the age gap its too much u could always find a guy closer to ur age as ull understand each other more better. Just think about when u were born he was in his teens.
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Your age is the gap between me and my wife...
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Why would a guy want a relationship with someone young enough to be his child? I agree this is probably a troll.
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Why would a guy want a relationship with someone young enough to be his child? I agree this is probably a troll.
I think your maths has gone wrong. Either that, or you have children very young round your parts...
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The age gap in itself isn't an issue, but the fact you want very different things from the relationship probably is.
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I think your maths has gone wrong. Either that, or you have children very young round your parts...
A guy could definitely get a girl pregnant at 15. I went to school with a girl who had a kid at about that age, although I believe it was with a guy who was already old enough to have had a mortgage at the time. I live in a ****hole former mining community FYI.
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A guy could definitely get a girl pregnant at 15. I went to school with a girl who had a kid at about that age, although I believe it was with a guy who was already old enough to have had a mortgage at the time. I live in a ****hole former mining community FYI.
if the girl was 15 she was a miner
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Not gonna last. It's not the age gap that's the problem, it's the fact that he's far more experienced and mature than you and clearly wants a young partner to have kids with before it's too late.
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its not
Oh well if the troll says its not. It can't be.
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if the girl was 15 she was a miner
That girl just didn't get a break did she, pregnant at 15 and sent down the mines...poor kid.
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Not gonna last. It's not the age gap that's the problem, it's the fact that he's far more experienced and mature than you and clearly wants a young partner to have kids with before it's too late.
Jeezus bones! He's only 34!

Sure he's not got long left and finding a young partner is the only way to have kids...but aside from that it's all roses.
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Jeezus bones! He's only 34!

Sure he's not got long left and finding a young partner is the only way to have kids...but aside from that it's all roses.
From the woman's perspective, not his :lol: A 19 year old is going to be way more fertile than someone his own age, just think it's a bit of a red flag to tell someone you're actively looking for a wife and kids rather than just progressing into a normal relationship.
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From the woman's perspective, not his :lol: A 19 year old is going to be way more fertile than someone his own age, just think it's a bit of a red flag to tell someone you're actively looking for a wife and kids rather than just progressing into a normal relationship.
More fertile, more pert, more flexible...right I think I need to find myself a 19 year old. I'm taking your advice, I'll be sure to tell her it's just a ONS or maybe a ****buddy type thing and definitely no wife or kids so it progresses naturally. I mean if she has them, fine but that is her life when we're not together.
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