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Me and my Ex we used to have cam sex. Now that we broke up he is threatening me that he would access our video calls and post them online and send them to my parents. I am so scared I want to kill myself, I am so ashamed of what I did. My parents would be heartbroken if they see those videos and I would ruin my career.

I have not sent any nudes to him and I know he was not recording me when we used to cam but he told me that he knows a way in which he could access our calls. I was with this guy for more than 3 years and he is telling he is able to access everything.

if I video call someone can they access that video call again in any way?

PLEASE, GUYS, I NEED HELP, I cant tell my friends about this so I have no one to talk about.
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call the police immediately
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Me and my Ex we used to have cam sex. Now that we broke up he is threatening me that he would access our video calls and post them online and send them to my parents. I am so scared I want to kill myself, I am so ashamed of what I did. My parents would be heartbroken if they see those videos and I would ruin my career.

I have not sent any nudes to him and I know he was not recording me when we used to cam but he told me that he knows a way in which he could access our calls. I was with this guy for more than 3 years and he is telling he is able to access everything.

if I video call someone can they access that video call again in any way?

PLEASE, GUYS, I NEED HELP, I cant tell my friends about this so I have no one to talk about.
This is revenge porn and is illegal. Do what @l2bunny said.

https://www.safeline.org.uk/revenge-...-the-offender/
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call the police immediately
do you think he can access those videos?
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do you think he can access those videos?
Honestly, I'm not 100% sure. Probably not, but obviously we don't know who he is or what he's capable of so we can't say for certain. Regardless, you should call the police. Even if he can't, at least this way things will be cleared up and you can rest easy that he won't send them to anyone you know. I'm guessing you're not a minor? If so, they can't contact your parents about it without your permission, so they won't have to know about it.
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'ere you go babes

https://www.cps.gov.uk/legal-guidanc...private-sexual
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Yes, the content of cam calls can be accessed and downloaded.
My employer does this several times a month.

Do you have proof of your ex's threats in writing?
It is illegal to threaten to release or actually publish revenge porn.
Tell the police and they will help you.

You can also contact the revenge porn hotline by phone or email.
https://revengepornhelpline.org.uk/help-and-advice
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if he can access those videos, how can he do that?

I thought it was impossible to access the phone conversation or video calls.

I don't want the police to get involved because I am 15 and they would want to talk with my parents.


Plus, I haven't shown my face when we used to video cam but don't remember everything properly.
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Yes, the content of cam calls can be accessed and downloaded.
My employer does this several times a month.

Do you have proof of your ex's threats in writing?
It is illegal to threaten to release or actually publish revenge porn.
Tell the police and they will help you.

You can also contact the revenge porn hotline by phone or email.
https://revengepornhelpline.org.uk/help-and-advice
omg really, I can't omg.
why does your employer do that?
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I’m actually useless and I’d rather someone older or more experienced help you but what you’ve been having cam sex since you were 12 Wtaf...
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My parents would be heartbroken if they see those videos and I would ruin my career.
I strongly suspect, as a parent, that they'd just want to protect you. Us parents are more into sex than you appear to think.
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I’m actually useless and I’d rather someone older or more experienced help you but what you’ve been having cam sex since you were 12 Wtaf...
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I strongly suspect, as a parent, that they'd just want to protect you. Us parents are more into sex than you appear to think.
My parents are Asian, they are very strict.
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When I end the video call would he be able to access my camera after the video ended aswell?
I am asking this because I did not show my face when we were video calling but after video calling obviously my camera did see my face.
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When I end the video call would he be able to access my camera after the video ended aswell?
I am asking this because I did not show my face when we were video calling but after video calling obviously my camera did see my face.
No unless he has somehow hacked your phone, which I know for a fact is very difficult to do, he cannot record you using your own camera remotely
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Listen don’t panic and get too stressed, the likelihood is that he can’t access them and is just trying to scare and threaten you. However, there is a small chance that he can so make the right decisions. Screenshot any messages he’s sent you saying he’s going to send them out and contact a revenge porn hotline. I know it seems like the worst thing in the world for your parents to find out something stupid that you did but it happens to the best of us and at the end of the day they will support you. Try not to let your thoughts spiral out of control because then you’ll start thinking of the worst possibilities and that’ll only make you feel worse. Stay calm and talk to a friend or hotline.
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Listen don’t panic and get too stressed, the likelihood is that he can’t access them and is just trying to scare and threaten you. However, there is a small chance that he can so make the right decisions. Screenshot any messages he’s sent you saying he’s going to send them out and contact a revenge porn hotline. I know it seems like the worst thing in the world for your parents to find out something stupid that you did but it happens to the best of us and at the end of the day they will support you. Try not to let your thoughts spiral out of control because then you’ll start thinking of the worst possibilities and that’ll only make you feel worse. Stay calm and talk to a friend or hotline.
Thank you so much.
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That’s illegal
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Can you not threaten to do the same??
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