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People are telling me that my boyfriend is bi he was caught having sex with a guy I known for years and this has been going on before I met my boyfriend I don't know what to believe anymore please help me 😭😭😭
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what difference does it make?? if he wants to tell you he’ll tell you when the time is right. if he doesn’t want to tell you he doesn’t have to
it makes absolutely 0 difference to your relationship
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How long have you been seeing him? Do you think he’s still sleeping with the guy?
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(Original post by Vroopnarine)
People are telling me that my boyfriend is bi he was caught having sex with a guy I known for years and this has been going on before I met my boyfriend I don't know what to believe anymore please help me 😭😭😭
Being bi is not even vaguely the same thing as cheating. Are you worried that he's cheating on you, or are you worried that he's not telling you stuff?
If it's the second one, you need to respect that he doesn't yet feel comfortable enough to do so.
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He never told me it had to beconfirmed from other people Like his roommate and his roommates girl and my mom and step dad
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He never told me it had to beconfirmed from other people Like his roommate and his roommates girl and my mom and step dad
Your parents really should not be gossiping about your boyfriend. I hope you shut that down immediately.
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Why does it need to be confirmed? It has nothing to do with you unless he wants to tell you.
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I'd see it as a red flag if I'd made love with someone multiple times and they hadn't told me they were bi.
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I've been seeing him for two months going on three no I don't
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How do you feel about the prospect that he's bi-sexual?

Is it enogh, combined with all the other areas as to how he is with you overall, for you to want to split up with him?
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He takes it really serious as if he doesn't like my parents or his roommate to say it
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(Original post by Dunnig Kruger)
How do you feel about the prospect that he's bi-sexual?

Is it enogh, combined with all the other areas as to how he is with you overall, for you to want to split up with him?
I don't know what story to believe cuz I think they want me to believe that cuz they don't want me with him
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I don't know what story to believe cuz I think they want me to believe that cuz they don't want me with him
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Your parents really should not be gossiping about your boyfriend. I hope you shut that down immediately.
I dunno, I can see it being a bit odd for them, esp if everyone else seems to know your bf likes sleeping with guys but you, and again, it's hard to shut down gossip when you don't know any better. It does sound like some Q & A is in order.
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What does it matter who your boyfriend slept with before he met you? You really shouldn't tolerate your friends, parents and flatmates talking behind his back, that's so rude and disrespectful. It's none of their business. Your boyfriend is entitled to privacy and he doesn't need to tell you anything. You should just let it go and focus on his current relationship with you.
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I'd see it as a red flag if I'd made love with someone multiple times and they hadn't told me they were bi.
Why? It's not overly relevant, and I know people who have had relationships ended because they told their SO they were bi and they went nuclear.
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Why? It's not overly relevant, and I know people who have had relationships ended because they told their SO they were bi and they went nuclear.
2 main reasons it's a red flag.

1 they trusted Vroopnarine enough to make love with her (several times?). But they weren't open and honest about their overall sexual preferences.

2 possible sexual incompatability issues.
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(Original post by Dunnig Kruger)
2 main reasons it's a red flag.

1 they trusted Vroopnarine enough to make love with her (several times?). But they weren't open and honest about their overall sexual preferences.

2 possible sexual incompatability issues.
How is there a sexual compatibility issue that wouldn't be there with a straight partner?

"Oh, sorry babe, must tell you, I also like to have intimate relations with men." I'm straight and I'd love to do things with Sacha Dhawan but I don't tell my boyfriend that. Generally people in monogamous relationships aren't too receptive to hearing about other people their partners would like to sleep with. It's been 2 or 3 months. It's not like it's really even long term yet.
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(Original post by Vroopnarine)
People are telling me that my boyfriend is bi he was caught having sex with a guy I known for years and this has been going on before I met my boyfriend I don't know what to believe anymore please help me 😭😭😭
so what?
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If you want to know if the rumours are true then ask him. Tell him who told you too - he might want to have a word with them.
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