Unhappy school life still effecting me now

I went to the cinema last night to see Angus, Thongs and Perfect Snogging, and it reminded me of what I was like at that age at school, bringing back all those horrible memories.

I've not really had a good school life overall. The very first primary school I went to I really enjoyed, but my parents ended up moving me to a different school in year 3. Initally, I made no friends at all. In years 4 and 5, I was in a closer friendship, but another girl, who seemed to envy our friendship, tried to come between it, trying to buy my friend's friendship by buying her gifts all the time.

In year 7 I had the same girl trying to interfere in a close friendship I had. I then ended up falling out with another girl in my class, and from year 8 to the day I left, I was verbally bullied by her and her friends : mostly behind my back and occasionally in front of my face. I was in a small group of friends so I wasn't on my own, but I never really told anyone about what was going on - it made my life at school awful, I kept quiet and I was unhappy every day I went there. I left the school early after gcse's because of it.

I was then at the college for 2 years. Even though I generally enjoyed it more, I didn't make any lasting friendships. They were just aquaintences in the first year, and in the second year, I got into a relationship which ended after 4 months and made the second year of the course very lonley and miserable.

I have now just finished the first year of my degree which I'm doing from a college, not from a uni, and its probably the first year of my education since my first primary school where I have been happy. I have a few friends, a lovley boyfriend and am no longer bullied.

I wish I could have gone through my education with more happiness like this, but its the friends who have always caused the problems for me. I'm not really sure what I'm looking for in posting this thread - maybe just some advice...anything to make me feel better really! Thanks for reading :smile:

Reply 1

GeoTom

15

I went through some pretty horrible times at school. I was never really happy until I got to uni. Now I'm making up for it by being friends with everyone!

That's nice.

This is really sad. I mean, it's good that you're starting to feel happy now but sad that you had to go through so much **** to get there. KIds in high school can be so awful. It's good that you have made friends now though, as you are obviously not going to let the bullies affect the rest of your life. You still seem upset by it though, but you need to try to put it behind you. Concentrate on building and maintaining the friendships you have found at college. That's really important because you do need to work at a friendship and not take your friends for granted, which I'm sure you don't! Be the kind of friend you have always wanted and they will return this and hopefully you'll have some lovely lasting friendships.

Reply 4

wanderlust.xx

18

Mate, at lease you went to see the film. You're lucky enough to have friends and a boyfriend, so try not to envy people who you think have it better than you, it'll just get you down and ruin what you've got.

I realised this next part was mainly a rant so I'll put it in spoilers so it's optional to read.

Spoiler

The thing that people don't realise about education is that it's there to make you learn, and to come to terms with the working world - it's just some people get way too engrossed in the social aspect of things, which, for some people, is a complete necessity, and for others, really isn't why they're at school.

Of course, me being Indian probably has a lot to do with the whole "I need to learn more stuff" thing.

Reply 5

Zafda

8

Anonymous

I went to the cinema last night to see Angus, Thongs and Perfect Snogging, and it reminded me of what I was like at that age at school, bringing back all those horrible memories.

I've not really had a good school life overall. The very first primary school I went to I really enjoyed, but my parents ended up moving me to a different school in year 3. Initally, I made no friends at all. In years 4 and 5, I was in a closer friendship, but another girl, who seemed to envy our friendship, tried to come between it, trying to buy my friend's friendship by buying her gifts all the time.

In year 7 I had the same girl trying to interfere in a close friendship I had. I then ended up falling out with another girl in my class, and from year 8 to the day I left, I was verbally bullied by her and her friends : mostly behind my back and occasionally in front of my face. I was in a small group of friends so I wasn't on my own, but I never really told anyone about what was going on - it made my life at school awful, I kept quiet and I was unhappy every day I went there. I left the school early after gcse's because of it.

I was then at the college for 2 years. Even though I generally enjoyed it more, I didn't make any lasting friendships. They were just aquaintences in the first year, and in the second year, I got into a relationship which ended after 4 months and made the second year of the course very lonley and miserable.

I have now just finished the first year of my degree which I'm doing from a college, not from a uni, and its probably the first year of my education since my first primary school where I have been happy. I have a few friends, a lovley boyfriend and am no longer bullied.

I wish I could have gone through my education with more happiness like this, but its the friends who have always caused the problems for me. I'm not really sure what I'm looking for in posting this thread - maybe just some advice...anything to make me feel better really! Thanks for reading :smile:

lol don't put me off seeing that movie!!
see you were verbally bullied, but you've got to think you've still not been bullied as bad as some others have! at the end of the bullying is bullying, but when you get bullied because you're a muslim and you're not white and you should leave the country because your uncle was osama bin laden, now thats bullying to another level!

i was bullied for as long as i can remember, what i described above wasn't even that bad! that school was fine, but when i moved cities, started school at some poo-hole where i was possibly the only person who actually wanted to learn, thats where it got tough because you couldn't do anything without someone making 50 critisisms about you - first it was because you're smarter than em, then its because of the way you look, then it boils down to "you shouldn't be in this country."

eventually it just got sooooo flippin tedious, you couldn't tell the teachers because there was nothing to do, but when i went to 6th form.. man! thank GOD for 6th form, it actually restored my faith in having trustworthy friends! but even so right the way through school i thought, i'm going to be better than them anyway someday, and its true - i know i sound like some bizatch who's got her head right up her arse but the people that bullied me, i can now look down at them because i'm making a someone out of myself while they're doing nothing but breastfeeding!

i still see them around, and i still want to knock em out, but whats the point? life goes on :smile:

Reply 6

charapova1005

Hiya,

I know exactly what you mean, only with me it was also bad teaching. But mainly it was the people I associated with. They teased me and made me feel low and depressed so many times. Like you sometimes it does still effect me when people talk about school and friends at school etc etc. I have cut off most of the people I knew at secondary school and A level because they were not my friends and to be honest I don't think some people find they're real friends until uni. I'm gonna tell you what my boyfriend told me, the people you meet at uni are the people you will know for the rest of your life. So hold them in high regard and always appreciate them. I try to forget, i had a brief relationship like you, and it was a massive mistake. He not only teased me, but humiliated me behind my back. I don't know whether or not to confront the people that made my life a misery or not, because it was a while ago and everybodys moved on. But im just wondering whether or not my negative feelings about school woud go away if i did?? If anyone has any thoughts on this let me know :smile:

So all in all, don't let it effect you if you can, i know how hard it is, because it comes back every now and then. Just concestrate on all you have know and how happy you are :biggrin:

xxx

Reply 7

Nice Marmite

11

I ran a short series of presentations to younger members of my school (from 13 to 16) about this kind of behaviour amongst kids. I have always tried my best to make sure no one has to go through this kind of thing. It still pains me that there is so little I can do to help though.

It's great that you've been able to move on from it and make friends elsewhere though! I was reading a particular book not too long ago about (amongst other things) creativity and beauty. The author was saying that those who suffer are the ones most likely to see the world in a different light and be creative. Perhaps you could turn these thoughts of yours into something really beautiful.

Unhappy school life still effecting me now

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