I was sexually assaulted by my ex-boyfriend and I don’t know what to do

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I’m feeling so confused and strange. Sometimes I feel fine about and then I breakdown, cry and feel so alone.

It was only on Tuesday morning (3 days ago) that my ex-boyfriend, knowing I was under the influence of alcohol, kept on begging and begging me to perform oral sex, despite me saying no and that I was drunk and I don’t know what’s going on.

I feel terrible because eventually I agreed to do it even though I didn’t want to. He just kept begging me to do it and pushed my head closer. I’m so confused, was this sexual assault?
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Yes because you were drunk and protested. Was he also drunk?
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yes it was as you were drunk
you should tell the police
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yes it was assault, you were under the influence and he managed to have taken advantage of your state and so begged you, if he just begged you it would have just been harassment if he actually pushed your head down, or if he you know... shoved his doodah down your throat, then yes that is assault. The best thing to do is contact the police, but that's your choice. I'm sorry you're feeling this way
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Yes because you were drunk and protested. Was he also drunk?
He had drank earlier but by the time this happened I know for a fact he was absolutely sober
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He had drank earlier but by the time this happened I know for a fact he was absolutely sober
Then there shouldn't be any mitigating factors, it was sexual assault.
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Then there shouldn't be any mitigating factors, it was sexual assault.
Thank you for your response. I am currently speaking with staff from my uni about the situation but I don't know if I am overreacting and this is confusing me. Because although he kept pushing my head closer, it wasn't violent or with force, they were nudges closer to it and eventually I gave in and did it. So it's not like he forced it into my mouth, I did it, so is it really an assault??

He lives in the same block as I do at uni and they are saying that he can be moved but is this just an overreaction on my part?
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You need to go to the police, your boyfriend should know that no means no.
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Thank you for your response. I am currently speaking with staff from my uni about the situation but I don't know if I am overreacting and this is confusing me. Because although he kept pushing my head closer, it wasn't violent or with force, they were nudges closer to it and eventually I gave in and did it. So it's not like he forced it into my mouth, I did it, so is it really an assault??

He lives in the same block as I do at uni and they are saying that he can be moved but is this just an overreaction on my part?
It doesn't matter if he was gently nudging your head, you told him you didn't want to and he still begged you and pushed you closer until you did. You are not overreacting and please take this further.
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Thank you for your response. I am currently speaking with staff from my uni about the situation but I don't know if I am overreacting and this is confusing me. Because although he kept pushing my head closer, it wasn't violent or with force, they were nudges closer to it and eventually I gave in and did it. So it's not like he forced it into my mouth, I did it, so is it really an assault??

He lives in the same block as I do at uni and they are saying that he can be moved but is this just an overreaction on my part?
It's pushy behaviour, literally, ignoring your decline just because he wants something. You said you gave in after he kept doing it while you were drunk.

It doesn't need to be violent, from your description that's what it was. Take it as far as you're comfortable with, that's what matters.
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