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why is this girl attracted to me? i'm loner at school, shy, quiet, boring, top grades

anonymous as most of my school uses this site.
loner for secondary up to now:no friends or social life. when i go back, i plan to try to make friends, and, if i get accepted (got some good ideas to make them like me), i really want to get this girl, so i want to know what to do.

there's a girl who's told me she likes me a lot (not taking piss- others in my class said they'd overheard this girl talking about me to her friends, and i've sometimes overheard), and i really am feeling desperate about not having her. i'll just be clear, this isn't some prank played on class nerd: i just typed a paragraph explaining how i know it's not out of nerdiness, but just believe me, i'm very sane, and fitted in very well at primary, so am not socially ******ed or sexmental through isolation.

i'm not sure why she's interested: she's not acting, i know, my class at school is really really nice to me and always tries to make me feel welcome and wanted, and would never lead me on: actually said this to me because they were saying i should be more confident..

not sure, why do you think she's attracted to me? another girl at my school who is actually beautiful- more amazing than anything i've ever seen: sort of like a brown haired, better looking, version of cameron diaz- is one i've never been attracted to: she goes really redwhenever spoken too, and walks about on her own, forcing herself to look at her shoes whenever she passes somebody. she also gets amazing grades.
that to me suggests a boring study obsessed anxious girl. i don't find her remotely attractive, to be honest, i don't care how she looks. i'm not judgemental, as i am the same and i understand what she must go through when she passes people. this is the thing, i'm honestly her male equivalent, possibly excluding good looks, so how can a girl possibly be attracted to me?
she's got standards, so has had a pretty normal share of boyfriends, so isn't too desperate? i get top marks in my year for everything, would that be any source of attraction, from a female point of view?- am i seen as mysterious- is anybody really remotely interested in mystery? would this be lost once she got to know me? has she noticed that i'm painfully shy but nice to people with it- would this give her the impression of me being "cute", or anything attractive. she gets goodish marks, and seems enthusiastic about knowing stuff and learning, but not nerdy about it, do you think she thinks i'll know stuff because of the being best in year for everything?

Reply 1

asdfghjkl123456789

1

just ask her. jsut kidding, don't do that. :smile:

sorry, i'm an amateur too. wait and see what replies come in.

Reply 2

android89

stop asking questions. she likes you so who cares. if your sure its not soem joke or whatever then why are you plagued so much by these questions. have confidence in your own personaility and being you.

There is nothing wrong with having good grades and being "nerdy" you are allowed to have relationships too!

Reply 3

Freud

14

Are you funny, witty, deep, thoughful, interesting or hot? Stop questioning it, take the compliment

Reply 4

wanderlust.xx

18

You're me, excluding the very very friendly classmates.

Dude where do you go to school, and is it too late to join for A2?

Reply 5

Peteo

13

Well, everyone has different things they are attracted to. I know in the past i've been attracted to shy girls, due to their mystery, and when getting to know them have been very pleasantly suprised, and the sort of mystery made me want to get to know the real them.

Just another thing, don't let your grades slip after you get a girlfriend as i did, but you may aswell pursue it as it can be a great source of enjoyment.

Sorry, i haven't said much, but i hope it was a tiny insight. :rolleyes:

Reply 6

Anonymous #1

OP

asdfghjkl123456789

just ask her. jsut kidding, don't do that. :smile:

sorry, i'm an amateur too. wait and see what replies come in.

also, i'm kind of paranoid that she knows i've been lookign at her bebo. i searched her name a few months ago, and occasionally i look her name up, to see if her profile is still private. i've clicked on it loads from my house.
is there a bebo measure which would allow her to know this?

Reply 7

wanderlust.xx

18

Anonymous

also, i'm kind of paranoid that she knows i've been lookign at her bebo. i searched her name a few months ago, and occasionally i look her name up, to see if her profile is still private. i've clicked on it loads from my house.
is there a bebo measure which would allow her to know this?

Verging on the realm of obsession, much?

Reply 8

asdfghjkl123456789

1

^^it's not that uncommon you know. how else to you find somebody to add?

Reply 9

Clickers

17

Errrm if she likes you, why don't you get to know her, and get your dick wet?

man you must be gay, why question why a girl likes you? Man nothing to complain about, get in there player.

Reply 10

shakam2000

this is soooooooooo hollyoaks

Reply 11

quintsy

17

How did you respond when she told you how she felt? Without knowing you it's hard to say how you might be perceived by her, but she obviously likes you regardless of what the situation seems to be like at school, so I'd go with that. :smile:

Approach her one day and ask if she'd like to maybe go out for a drink one evening, or maybe see a film, and see where things go from there. Try to separate your relationship with her from how you believe things to be like at school; you could spend hours wondering how things came to be, but if you just don't question why she feels the way she does, you'll be able to progress much more easily.

Reply 12

Totally Tom

18

I doubt you could like someone for their grades. I mean first impressions are great and all it's just it doesn't really have any substance in the long run.
I think that you should get your act together and just start talking to her properly. Don't be too forward or anything but just try to get to know her as friends. Hopefully she will be more forward than you and make you do things that you don't think you want to do but in the end really do :smile:

P.S. don't be too optimistic about getting to talk to her alone, this rarely happens and if it does don't cock it up.

Reply 13

rummang

1

Stop being a baby back bitch 'cause a girl likes you, OH GOD YOU HAVE IT SO HARD, move in for the kill.

Reply 14

made_of_fail

1

you don't think it's a prank? that's the whole point. stay well away.

Reply 15

WelshBluebird

16

Anonymous

also, i'm kind of paranoid that she knows i've been lookign at her bebo. i searched her name a few months ago, and occasionally i look her name up, to see if her profile is still private. i've clicked on it loads from my house.
is there a bebo measure which would allow her to know this?

there isn't afaik, but if you've found her on there, just add her as a friend or something.

As for why she likes you, you'd be surprised. I'm quite similar in that I can't see why anyone would like me in that way. I was still the same when I was with my last two girlfriends. You've just got to ignore it and tell yourself that it doesn't matter why, it only matters that she does like you.

Reply 16

DisgruntledMoth

14

Maybe I'm just a bit thick today, but I found it really hard to distinguish between the two girls you were talking about.

I'm usually quite attracted to guys like you. As such, don't talk to her. "got some good ideas to make them like me", pur-lease, I really don't think you're as all there as you insist you are.